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Another woman fancies my fiancé

393 replies

Robsia · 28/02/2010 21:12

The week before my fiancé G met me (15 months ago, to put the time frame on it) he had a date with a girl called T who he met off the same dating site he met me.

He went back to her house afterwards and, to put it bluntly, she gave him oral sex.

Anyway, she was very taken with him (even talked marriage on the first date!) but he was less taken with her - found her tedious and boring in fact. When he met me, he never looked back. He gave her the excuse that he wasn't over his wife leaving him and was not ready for a relationship.

Since their first date, she has been ringing him daily at first, although it dropped to weekly after a while and is about monthly now. Most of the time he doesn't take the calls but occasionally talks to her out of 'politeness'. She still thinks there could be something there when he is over his break-up and the poor girl has no idea he is engaged to me!

This weekend we were at his house and he had gone out for a short while. The house phone rang and I answered it and it was a woman:

Her: Oh, I think I've got the wrong number.
Me: Are you after G**?
Her: Um yes.
Me: Oh he's just popped out for a bit.
Her. Oh. Er, I'll try again later then.
Me: Who shall I say called?
Her: Tell him it was T**.

I told him when he got home and he showed me a text she had sent him saying that she had rung the home phone and "someone" had answered and she hoped she hadn't got him into trouble.

Now - I have absolutely no doubt that he is doing NOTHING with this girl - I think she is the wronged (although a touch obsessive) party in all this by holding a candle for him all this time and he hasn't let her down gently.

Now that I have her phone number, I am tempted to call her and explain the situation as ask very nicely if she wouldn't mind not ringing my fiancé again.

What do you think?

OP posts:
Janos · 02/03/2010 18:30

Does anyone else feel sympathy for this unknown woman who is being pulled to bits on here (boring, tedious, bunny boiler etc) without so much as a by your leave?

This thread leaves a really nasty taste tbh. (No pun intended btw!)

VinegarTits · 02/03/2010 18:36

Yep, poor woman has not only been lead a merry dance, but slagged off too

Nice one twit and twat

BIGMAC2020 · 02/03/2010 18:45

VT - This poor woman has been led nowhere, other than where she wanted to be. So which one are you the twit or the twat?

Janos · 02/03/2010 18:46

In this situation, I'd be wondering "what would he say about me if we split up..?"

AnyFucker · 02/03/2010 18:49

Janos...yes

< begins to wonder if I am invisible to everyne on this thread, except to BIGMAC and robsia >

StarryEyedandLaughing · 02/03/2010 18:50

I think the question that really needs answering is does she spit or swallow?

pagwatch · 02/03/2010 18:52

Eureka !

I think Bigmac is Matthew Wright...

(whole thread and The Wright show suddenly make sense)

Bigmac pulls off rubber faced twat mask in scooby doo style finale... " I'd have got away with it if it hadn't been for that pesky AnyFucker"

displayuntilbestbefore · 02/03/2010 18:55

AF - I see you but got a bit bored by reading the same posts all over again as the thread started yet another day

BigMac - your last post there, the one where you insult VT - is that the real BigMac or are you the gentleman that you purported to be in a previous post where you said you were trying to do the right thing by this other woman?

groundhogs · 02/03/2010 18:55

PMSL

VinegarTits · 02/03/2010 18:56

you have lead her to believe you are single and interested BIGTWAT2020, you have answered her calls and not once have you told her you are engaged to another woman hahahahahahaaaaaaa

You might have the OP fooled but i dont buy your pathetic excuse

AnyFucker · 02/03/2010 19:03

sorry, folks having a bit of "groundhog day" on this thread

I shall take it as flattery that everyone today is posting exactly what I said from the inception of this unpleasant saga

SpicedGerkin · 02/03/2010 19:11

AF - I applauded you at 15.30 whaddaya want? Blood?

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 02/03/2010 19:16

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

BIGMAC2020 · 02/03/2010 19:27

VT - She has been led to believe nothing. It is none of her business what my relationship status is. I won't bother explaining the bit about the calls again as you can read it for yourself. Maybe if you had you wouldn't be quite so acerbic. BTW I am the fortunate one that doesn't have to explain to someone who is plainly so judgemental.

display - I am a gentleman, however I don't like being insulted either. I was just asking for clarity. I suppose that it's OK for your board cronies to be rude and insulting but because I am new I can't take the piss as well. If you can't take it, don't dish it out.

aurynne · 02/03/2010 19:42

I am so looking forward to the moment when dittany asks BIGMAC... "but, are you sure the blowjob was consensual"? :P

SpicedGerkin · 02/03/2010 19:42

'It is none of her business what my relationship status is.'

If you want to look at it like that it is no ones business what your relationship status is so why tell anyone?

pagwatch · 02/03/2010 19:43

" I am new "

are you joining mumsnet then - rather than just posting to back up your fiance.

If you have joined the usual term is vipers. Cronies doesn't work quite as well Matthew Bigmac

SpicedGerkin · 02/03/2010 19:44
Grin
BIGMAC2020 · 02/03/2010 19:54

Pag - No I am not joining mumsnet, I did so to defend myself, not to back up DF. If you prefer Vipers then so be it. Who is Matthew?

Spiced - I don't recall telling any of you anything

Maybe if you all took a chill pill and actually gave some advice to the person asking, rather than jumping to conclusions and giving opinions based on your own experiences these things would not degenerate into a bitchfest.

Janos · 02/03/2010 19:55

It's none of her business what your relationship status is but you're happy to argue the toss about it, inserting all gory details for good measure, with a bunch of strangers on the internet?

OK....

BIGMAC2020 · 02/03/2010 19:58

Janos, where are the gory details from me???

Yes I will argue the toss when people start accusing me of being this or that when they don't know me. If it is all so boring to the majority why the hell do they keep posting and being insulting?

Said bunch of strangers are quite happy to participate and comment, why would that be then?

AnyFucker · 02/03/2010 20:00

BIGMAC...you are not joining Mumsnet ??

a sad, sad loss

< pouts >

Janos · 02/03/2010 20:01

I think you have said quite a lot about yourself without even realising, BIGMAC

Wordweaver · 02/03/2010 20:15

Quite impressed that you've picked up the Mumsnet acronyms so quickly, Bigmac. Took me ages.

AnyFucker · 02/03/2010 20:17

yes, not many new posters would use a rarely-used acronym like "DF"

funny, that

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