ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

[BEAUTlFUL]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

Ooops, we x-posted and now my reply looks really, really, really shallow!

What an awful thing you have to go through, Starting. But at least you know that they're all angry with him, not you. Will your ex be there? (I'm presuming yes?) Oh, you poor thing.

I know you'll be wonderful! But still, eeek.

Still, this time tomorrow it'll all be over.

Gosh StartingOver, sounds just awful. If you're not taking a friend and family doesn't know then we dumpettes are the support crew! Remember a problem shared is a problem halved or whatever the expression is. Your problem is now truly divided into many pieces amongst us.

Beauty, not shallow at all, knew we x posted, would have been v dumpling appropriate is things were different! Thank you for your support.

Ifyouhappy, again thanks for the support it really means a lot to me.

RL close friends know what's happening & have offered to come with me but I would feel worse to involve them in this as they all would of course have been friends with or know exh too. Exh will indeed be there so tensions will be running v high to say the least.

Really quickly starting -so sorry you have to go through that court experience Ex is even more twunt for that and no wonder judge angry

Hope to have bit more time tomorrow to catch up

Thanks Mumfun.

Startingover us Dumplings are all there with you holding your hand in the virtual world, this is a dreadful thing for you to endure today hope all is well and don't forget we are all with you (((((Mahusive hug)))))

Echo Loobies thoughts - hope it goes as well as it can today StartingOver

Afternoon Dumplings, dumpling power overcame all! I was v nervous to begin with but after 2 hrs listening to other cases, I just wanted to get out of there asap. I think I would have still been there only I stood out like a sore thumb & eventually it got the better of the judge & he asked what my purpose in the courtroom was, he they proceeded to say "can we hear this case now & let this lady go home. .

I felt v emotional & nervous to begin with but when I arrived I looked exh in eye to see was there any of the man I married left. It made it v easy for me when I realised there wasn't. He was nasty, giving me horrible looks & trying to mouth swear words over at me. He had a friend of his there for "support". He looked aged, wrecked & ugly though (the inner ugliness has come out through him).

After I testified the judge tore into exh & his solicitor. He then asked me what I would like to see happen to exh, I said I wasn't looking for any particular outcome from the court cast. That exh was out of house & I had already filed for legal separation. He was given 6 mts suspended sentence.

I'll be back in court in the new year for another 4/5 separate cases that the police are now going to charge him with due to him changing his plea.

It will probably be in the papers, if not this week, than in the NY but I'm just going to cross that bridge when I come to it.

I stayed up all night last night as I was too uptight to sleep. I went retail shopping on the internet! All friends & family will now be getting personalised calenders with pics of the dc's!!

I still feel v emotional now, this is the real end of my marriage now (no turning back). But I also feel a certain lightness inside that I stood up & did the right thing for me & dc's, when it would have been so much easier to have brushed it all under the carpet & left exh get away with everything.

Loobie & Ifyourhappy, thanks again for the hugs & support.

Hopefully we can now resume normal dumpling activity with discussions of chasing sex men etc.. I just have to tackle my assignment now!!

The one thing this morning has done is given me back my focus. Once I have dc's play out of the way, I'm going to tackle my assignment again tomorrow. I am not going to allow exh & all this stuff make me fail this year in college.

Startingover I have been anxious about you all morning I keep abandoning work and popping on MN hoping that you have got through it all ok...... and Hurrah yes you have sounds a totally ghastly but also cathartic experience for you I am so happy that Ex looked old and haggard and as for the mouthing swear words ugh utterly childish but the he is a man after all.

Yes it is emotional and you have turned another corner towards the end but far better than trying to do a 3 point turn in a cul de sac with ex's prone body obstructing your destiny

Don't worry about the papers you have nothing to be ashamed of dumpling, people will be too busy xmas shopping to gossip about it for long anyway

Focus focus focus on college work but also keep us totally absorbed with news on MD and the potential shagathon and we will all come to your graduation adorned with glittery outfits and cheer you on, your very own dumpling posse we may even stretch to glittery rah rah pom poms and dancing

Startingover, I'm so glad to hear that you got through your ordeal, your xh sounds utterly despicable - what appalling behaviour, it's a wonder he didn't get charged with contempt. I hope very much that you're having a relaxing, gentle afternoon as an antidote to your stress-filled morning.

Loobie, I read your falling down the stairs while provocatively attired story last night, at least you didn't end up in A&E (it happens ). I have a similar level of poise and sophistication, you'll be glad to know.

Caramela good when we are dancing with glee at startings graduation we can both fall off the podium and make holy shows of ourselves.... Beautiful I imagine will be the picture of perfection in fabulous patent over the knee boots and the butt of Kylie I can just tell but as our great leader this is a good thing which we can only dream about & aspire to

It certainly sounds like me, if I can fall over, I will, even without consumption of alcohol . Frankly I am eternally grateful that I can't see my arse without a great deal of effort, if it looked like Kylie's I'd be walking into rooms backwards all the time.

Starting, have only just caught up with your news on the court case. So sorry you've had to go through such an awful experience but it sounds like you did the very grown up responsible thing and he will now know that you won't take any crap from him. Well done you - hope you're taking it easy on yourself today. Of course you're going to feel very emotional but you are prob already picking yourself up and dusting yourself down and doing what you do. Take care of yourself.

Nearly wet myself about your "incident" Loobie! You've got guts getting all dressed up - what a picture of a powerful, Boadiccean (sp?), fabulously confident woman!! What will you do next? Perhaps something involving foodstuffs!! (living vicariously again!)

Still talking to MSN man - he's very sweet - he does have 5 kids though!! Not that that's a problem but wow I'm in awe! I have my twunt radar finely honed and tuned and he's not cropping up on it as yet. I can spot 'em a mile off now - have had plenty of experience. I did just go onto Facebook to gaze a while at xp photo (that is tragic even for me). He's standing there holding his phone up and taking a picture of himself in a mirror like teenagers do with his best shirt on (straining slightly over his beer belly)! Aaaaargh!! Still looks slightly cute though but realise that I am well on the way to getting over him.

Hope all other dumplings are doing OK today and sending you all positive vibes.

Lamby 5 kids OMG!!!! Not that it's a problem?!gosh it would have me running for the hills butt wobbling away I admire your non plussed attitude Lamby and glad the twunt radar is on constant scan mode, should we decorate it up a bit with bits of tinsel as it's Christmas or do you think then that any twunts may notice it and realise that you are indeed a wise twunt spotting goddess

Nope I am not confident at all I spent years having to play second fiddle and feel inadequate against all the younger peroxide blondes that GB had affairs with although to quote him 'it was never worth it' (ha) that now I do not have to worry about the competition anymore I feel liberated and that I can do anything. Not quite ready for 9 1/2 weeks food smearing/licking activity just yet but just feeling like a man adores me without scanning the room for younger blonder models has made me go a bit ga ga ( not lady ga ga she is just a bit odd but happy ga ga if you know what I mean)
Pmsl at the image of your ex taking his own photo for facebook my teenage son has one the same except without the belly perhaps your ex thinks he is still 14 ... dream on eh?! But glad you are treading the getting over him track now.

Caramela you never fail to make me snort with laughter ...walk into the room backwards to show off Kylie-esque pert bottom, but you and I both know that we'd trip over something and end up in yet another heap on the floor lol

Oh gawd I had better do some ironing the aforementioned teenager has run out of clean shirts to wear for school and I'd never deign to have the audacity to suggest he irons one himself that would be tantamount to posting pics of his bare baby bum on facebook for all his mates to see as far as he is concerned!!

Mind you if I iron I can earn a glass of wine and we all know don't we dumplings that one glass my well become two

Just caught up with the thread starting - I think you did brilliantly! Chin up, tits out and onwards into your fabulous new life.

Hello all - I'm not very good at not MNing it seems and anyway, I wanted to see how you're all doing.

However, I'm knackered as DS2 has his second tooth on the way and today has been alternating between whimpering and screaming whilst never leaving my lap - poor sausage.

Will catch up properly tomorrow but just wanted to say well done to Startingover - what a horrible experience, I hope you're ok.

So, I will bid you good night dumpettes I will be back!

Again rubbish at being on MN. So glad your ordeal is over Starting - cant beleive his behaviour and glad juddge seeing everything clearly! Glad you did something very positive with the non sleeping.

Cant stay on for long but the news is I had a complete meltdown at estranged H at weekend,screamed at him like a banshee, threw things round the room hitting him significantly. He then said he deserved it. My counsellor said good I was getting the anger out. The kids didnt wake up. So fine really and he did deserve it. Ive never done anything like it before so bit shocked really. But onward and upward now - dont want to do it again so got to work on anger stuff and generally getting my self sorted out so I can better move onto a relationship in the future . Other wise good weekend and ok though H is such a prat sometimes -but is very good with kids at moment so they liked him being here. Dont know what more to say so better do some house tidying as is disgrace and be a better mother!

And glad Lamby that internet man sounds sweet and similarly awe of 5 kids and vicariously hoping meet can be brought forward so dumplings can find out what hes really like! And glad you are sounding in better place.

And liking the sound of the glittery posse. Really wishing all dumpling dates could be put on Skype viewing immediately so we could all assess the Talent. A sort of new X factor where a posse Twuntometer would determine whether they made it through or not!

Best get back to good motherhood!

Hi a rare night out for a good old chinwag so a little late checking in here this evening.

MumFun, like the sound of the Twuntometer, although even without this I know already that anyone that has approached me on my dating site would have a very low score . And I do feel quite jealous of the banshee incident. I know I probably shouldn't try that on Bald Eagle, but part of me would so enjoy it so maybe I should.

StartingOver, so glad that all went ok today. I too will attend your graduation where you, no doubt, will receive yet another degree certificate.

Caramela and Loobie, star billing for both of you I think in the first dumplings movie. A class act I think.

Evening Dumplings, just back from school play & am so tired I'm fit for nothing except MN'ing. I just want to say a bit thanks to you all for the support over the past day, it really meant a lot to look at the posts on here & realise that we're all here cheering/draging each other along.

Mavis, hope teething passes soon.

Mumfun, I know I shouldn't be condoning violence but a tinsy winsy part of me was saying way to go girl! I think it would be a brilliant idea to set up something so that we could bitch/screen/compare & contrast our future conquests (not sure if it would be legal but if we have a computer wizz in our midst maybe they could create a future conquest forum etc..).

Ifyourhappy, glad you had a nice night out, nothing better than a chinwag.

Rang my father this afternoon & without going into detail told him end result & that it may be on paper, said I'd better forewarn them. My mother came with me tonight but didn't get a chance to talk to her (tg, her primary concern will be worrying about neighbours & gossip & even though she won't say it she'll blame me for the whole sorry mess!). She'll no doubt be on the phone tomorrow.

Am still a bit emotional & sad. My exh was v good to me & we had some great times together. He would have done anything for me & adored both me & the dc's. It's very hard to accept that he turned into a monster & that the man I loved is completely gone! I guess up to recently I really had hoped he'd go for treatment & that maybe we would have been able to salvage something. This is like the final nail in the coffin. It's like the man I married died.

Anyway, will just have to push out gel filled bras (no tits due to yrs breastfeeding!), chin up & onwards & upwards. Haven't much interest in MD with all this but just might allow myself a comfort shag over the w'end if I get my assignment finished!

a big thanks.......dah, time for bed!

Dumplings, I know I should be in bed & this is probably delirious rambling at this point but just had MD on phone & I'm bored already, there is no way I could even motivate myself to go along just for the shag even (sorry v crude I know). He's in love already I'd say & planning the adoption of my dc's as we speak!! He's lovely, would do anything for me I'd say but but but it's just not there. How the fu*k am I going to gently drop him?

Or should I just go along with date this w'end & see if he turns out to be a great cunny loving sex beast in disguise?????? Poll please..... Ok, am deffinately off to bed & will ponder options tomorrow in between doing assignment!

Just a quickie because I am sat at my desk at work already

Mumfun way to go Dumpling and I hope it made you feel a bit better

Happy Bald Eagle ha ha ha ha some of the names we have for our ex's are just brilliant

Hi Mavis (waves) & to all the other other dumplings, where is Beautiful? I hope you are not down in the dumps .... ooo Dumpling Dumps has a ring to it but I hope you are ok because you are AWOL either kidnapped and enjoying fab sex somewhere or womaniser / toddler /man has knocked you down again hope you are ok our great dumpling leader.

Sartingover hmmmmm I think just shag him (think toned muscley body and gorgeous face) you can always be too busy with Xmas preparations if he turns out to be rubbish and then let him down gently after xmas telling him how fab he is etc but it's you not him, the classic man line lol. Sorry about feelings re ex the court thing is bound to have dragged it all up again and of course you had some good years you would never have married him if he was truly bad, i know what you mean about him needing to get help too GB should have sought help before operation break down began but men are always in denial about these things, hope you feel a bit better today

Right best get some work done now I hoyed my wobbly butt outta bed at 5am to get here early