ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

Ok, slightly dissappointed re the lack of response from my fellow dumplings. Anyway, up-date is I'm shaving my legs . The last thing I'd said to him in Jan was that I'd shave my legs & get back to him........he's been waiting since bless him!

So despite all my ramblings of past two days re having nothing in common blah, blah, blah. Have decided fu*k it, I'm going to have sex . Christ the preparations will take days, plucking of eyebrows, nails, shaving, creaming etc....

Good for you.

I'm afraid I wasn't really feeling up to dealing with anyone's happiness earlier but am feeling slightly better now.

that wasn't sarcastic either by the way, everyone deserves something nice.

Go Startin',Go Startin'...soooo xcited for you ,away to Kung Fu now with DCs but back 2nite x

Hi All, hope you're all keeping well & that the day wasn't too hard for the newbies.

Chairmum, jesus I wouldn't be expecting a congrads from you with all you've got going on. I wouldn't have been able to respond to a post like that either in the earlier days. Also, just to it get into perspective, it's purely a bit of physical distraction.

Exh was love of my life . Will take me a long long time to fully recover even though I am a good bit down road tg. Being honest I have to push myself on the whole puppy front. I'd as soon pass & not have to bother shaving my legs but I figure it might be good to break the whole hermit habit.

On other news, my day started off crap, hit my neighbours car, still waiting for them to come home to confess. Then got my hair done & whole saga with puppy. Got an enquiry about threadmill which I'm really hoping will turn into something & someone has just contacted me about second slendertone . Please unite with me & visualise my threadmill leaving my abode .

P.S. neighbours car I hit are new neighbours that only moved in a few wks ago. There have bloody cars all over the place .

My only other encounter with them so far was a few wks ago when eldest dd (who's normally a rock of sense), didn't see them coming in & nearly ended up under the wheels of one of their cars!! They're going to think we're a bag of trouble .

OMG what a travesty, my neighbour is a fuking ride!!!!!!!!!! Had never seen him properly, just went down to confess all & on top of being georgous he was really nice about whole thing. Feel emotional that I was so unlucky to marry the fuking twunt that I did .

Limps off to lick emotional wounds.........

Hello everybody. Sorry Ive been MIA but back now and have read all and will try to be better poster! Have had very very stressful week - with sister causing me major grief and H -really tough. Sister gave me a verbal list of the many ways Ive hurt her recently(none of which intended and some where she didnt realise what going on in my life) and H has just been recent H - looking out for himself.

But feeling better now.

Welcome to all newbies lis, NMC, Charmum , hi again pink! Sorry its such a crap crap time. Just as I think and STarting, Ifyour and Mb have said be very kind to yourself, do nice things for yourself and concentrate on looking after you and lovely little ones. Its something Ive majorly learned is that you cant control him -but you can control yourself. Also Ive had the OW scenario (throw up emoticon here)and dignity and not contacting her, having anything to do with her is the best best policy.

Starting - glad puppy back if you want him around. You sound well pleased. Is neighbour spoken for ??

If your Happy - love the all you need is some baking and a sh*g - my sentiments exactly.

Still in limbo here - not possible to put down all details but it will be resolved soon as Ive had enough and its time!

Got to go and do the rare activity of ironing and get house a bit straightened!

Bye for now

Wow Startin' your day was enough to rival any episode of desperate housewives ,do you live on Wisteria Lane ?
Any news on fitness stuff - fingers xd for TM.
Have really been using my "chin up tits out" mantra nowadays if i am feeling a little bit self conscious and it really is working ,positive mental attitude and all that.
Also have gone with the theory of handing my problem ie H over to the higher power to deal with(as alanon suggests) and getting on with my own life ,healing ,getting stronger ,sorting out the mess in my head.So all I need to do now is relax and enjoy my life each day and be thankful for my lot .

Hi Mumfun,I dont talk to my sister at all and that works well for me.Definate spiky aura ,not good for me for a long time.Big hugs ,hope ur situation sorts itself out soon to give you some peace.
Startin' more details on Puppy pls ....

Hi Mumfun, welcome back. Yes the neighbour is indeed spoken for hense the mention of travesty above . Sorry to hear things are not that good for you. I hope you manage to get yourself out of limbo & moving forward soon.

Hi Maybees, someone is on the way to collect the 2nd slendertone as I type. No news back on threadmill, please all up the ante on the visualisation front . The threadmill alone would give me & dc's a great holl. It's a big motherfuker of a thing, taking up a whole room. Exh had to have bigger & better (think it was to compensate for having a tiny dik) & so it's a commercial one & not the standard type!

Glad your doing the whole chin up, tits out business.

I'm begining to regret my haste with puppy already . Am just going to use another alanon slogan bring the body & the mind will follow! The whole thing is probably a disasterous idea but I can't back out again now after doing the same two mths ago (he knew the exact time!).

Christ, the thought of getting my body ready for sex is overwhelming. I'd prefer to sit here with a bar of choc I think .

I have had probs in the whole sister area also, am currently building bridges as there's only her & me left since my brother died in Dec!

Ok, just text Puppy to set up date for sex 2m nite. I know I'll back out again if I don't jump straight in. He text straight back .

So happy for you Startin 'have a lovely day pampering.Nice to have him keen !Have fun ,no pressure .
Just arranged a lovely day out for myself re work but spoke to old contact and she was so warm and generous has really put me in a good mood ,glad I called her now.
Big bar of chocolate sounds about right 4 me just now ,thats friday nite sorted then x
ps also trying to tackle ironing mumfun ,keep finding something else to do

Hi Maybees, glad you organised a day out for yourself . You deserve a lot more of that.

My eager puppy just rang, am all set for tomorrow night! Puppy knows exh well & still meets him regularly through a similiar interest they have so it's very hard to not end up talking about exh in some capacity (forgot that was one of the reasons I ended it to begin with)! Anyway, update is he's still the same, no change, which I knew anyway.

We've agreed to just take it as it comes, no pressure & to stay friends regardless . He also volunteered that he hadn't been with anyone else since he was last with me & I kept suitably quiet (embarrassing flashbacks of MD ).

He sounds like a good guy,respectful of your feelings.
Iron smells better although still a hint of burnt vinegar so will try and buy something floral to add tomorrow.
Early start tomorrow ,nite x
Waves to others hope your doing something nice for" you "this weekend

What about a drop of lavender Maybees??

He is very respectful etc & nice, we just have too little in common for it to ever go anywhere.

Anyway, am perched on edge of bum typing this with 50% of body covered in Veet . I feel the burn in places you don't even want to know about .

How are all the newbies doing?? Hope ye're days went ok.

Take care all.

Hi all. Have already broken the chocolate open -its Friday. At least its sunny and lovely too!

MB - irons can be so annoying - just had to buy new one as kept burning as thermosstat obviously kaput.

Starting - puppy sounds lovely. Veet is so yuck -hope you have a great time and all the prep worth it! Bit annoying talking about ex but youre doing well and stronger to deal with it all now.

Was thinking last night that I do have puppy potential -but I just cant do it as dont fancy him and would ruin a very nice long lasting friendship.

Hoep all newbies ok - you can vent on here! Hope the weeekends are kind to all.

Hi Mumfun, eyebrows have been waxed so I'm nearly there! I don't fancy my puppy either , but he is very talented in the bedroom .

It's exh's b'day today so feel a bit strange. Why I don't know as my last b'day that exh was in the house he walked past me & didn't even wish me a happy b'day. This despite the fact that I still did cake & presents for the fuker when he'd moved out despite his twuntish behaviour! Grrr, eventually the day will come where I won't give a sht.

Glad the chocolate has been broken out already. Will really have to push myself out the door as I've gotten more than happy with pj's & choc.

Oh well, back out again to enjoy last of sunshine in park with dc's.

Waves to all......

Hi Mumfun, got huge bar of dairy milk and a cup of tea,bliss!
Startin,You made me laff with ur veet story Have a lovely evening !
Hope everyone is bearing up and survived ur week .Mumfun totally right about posting ,we are all dumplings here and I have always found it good to share all the poo poo as well as the funny bits.Just made it easier to cope with the shock I suppose .Its not that my heart isnt broken I just have to accept that H has left us, and I have to keep going ,dont have a choice and if I can keep my "chin up and tits out "attitude it makes it possible.Had 2 days in a row that I havent cried and made it thru another week so def deserve my choc !Going to make myself scarce when H visits this weekend ,def less emotional for me and have learnt not to put myself into difficult emotional situations but has taken a while to take that step.
H's best friend texted me last nite when i was asleep asking how we were doin .So answered this morning short message but happy.Dont know wot to make of it ,he never replied back ,but dont want to read to much into it,just remain dignified

Have a lovely time Startin' with ur puppy,

Take care everyone x

All this talk of chocolate makes me wish I were hungry, but I know the bolognaise that is simmering on the hob will be much better for me, even if I can't eat much.

It is very reassuring to hear about puppy, and moving on with things. I might be able to take a small moving on step soon - H reckons he should be able to move next weekend. This one would have been nicer, but at least I have something to aim for.

Am going to not spend money at the weekend - will do my nails, eyebrows and maybe even shave my legs! Then I might read a book or do some decluttering.

I'm looking forward to H learning just how much hassle it actually is to provide decent meals every day

Sounds good Miaow ,hope toddler has given you an easy time 2day

Evening Maybees & Chairmum, glad your both holding up. Hope you manage to eat the bolognaise Chairmum. Two weeks will fly & I can honestly say it was only when exh was gone from house that I was able to heal & grieve properly. It is very hard to remain detached & to take care of yourself when they're still in the house.

Maybees, I've had weird stuff like your text aswell . Used to wreck my head in the early days as I'd think there was a bit of hope but I just detach from it now.

Feel v v sad & emotional today . I'm really sorry I agreed to do this but I'm going to go ahead as I do really like puppy & maybe in some way this will help to push me forward again. I'm going to trust that it's come back up again for a reason & I'm just going to see how I it goes.

Aww STarting.Its hard because of the day I guess - but I hope it goes well

Take it easy Startin' no pressure to do anything you dont want to,from wot youve said Puppy is completely decent bloke and cares about you so will be happy just to talk 2nite.Just see how it feels your guts will tell you wot to do,no pressure even if you have both been together b4.Big hugs ,dont think your messing him around if you back out 2nite that is your right as a woman.

ps Hs friend replied with pleasant txt,but like you say I am detatched to all that .Prob genuine enough but TBH its been 4mths FFS ,so whatever .Im trying to be less paranoid about the whole who knows my business shite ,my next thing to work on I think.Enjoy 2nite,remember you are a wonderful lady x