ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

Hi Ifyourhappy, hope all's well with you.

Waves to Maybees, hope your doing ok & not completely snow bound.

Ok, housework done so just sitting down for a quick cuppa before I get on with things. Anyone else notice it takes half the time without ex?? A big bonus. Maybe that's just me though as mine was a lazy messy git!

Hey hey its now the Starting and Maybees show.LOve the banter. Thankfully banjo free here!

Gosh cant believe snowed in Mb - hope it doesnt last too long. LOve the serenity inducing stuff.

And Starting sorry re frined and money thing - the lending money stuff I find does often bring tension in the end

Havig some more tensions re connections of friends and family and H - gets so complicated ie your christening Starting. I feel a bit conspired against at the moment but in my new found strength from January am going to kick some ass and not letting anyone sh*t over me any more.

Best go and feed the kids now or Ill have a riot. Hope all have good weekends!x

Evening all, hope you're all doing well.

Hi Mumfun, great to hear from you again. Sorry to hear you've had tensions but great to hear your in kick ass mode . That's the attitude, I must adopt that .

Waves to all.

Snow turning slushy so hope it doesnt freeze!Snow only arrived back wed then mental thurs roads closed etc.But main roads cool 2day so managed to get out and about. Got my haircut,good natter with the hairdresser,gone thru something similar herself and educated in twunt behavioural patterns.

Definate change in my confidence,wore a bright red jacket 2day that I was always too shy too wear b4.I just felt bright and colourful 2day- kinda freaking myself out TBH.

Trying to get tickets for Mumford and Sons,playing Glasgow on wed,SOLD OUT but friend going to try her best.Going out to see a band on a school nite in town,wow another step in the right direction methinks !

Startin' glad you've got college and twunt hasn't spoiled saturday.Def doin the right thing he will be soooo dissapointed not to get any attention.Enjoy your weekend!

Mumfun kick ass zero tolerance def the way to go.I am also trying my best to stay away from spiky auras that bring me down.Not had any contact with mutual friends ,in laws have opted out again so thats most of the negative energies in my life dealt with TBH .

Happy hope your doin somthing for yourself this weekend,new shoes ,new aromatherapies,luxury easter egg kinda thing.

Lets see how many people we can flirt with this weekend ,just for training purposes.

Look forward to hearing good reports
Big hugs x

Hello everone, I'm lurking and loving it, will post tomorow, too tired now.

I don't actually feel the need to post as I just love reading this thread, It reminds me a bit of Jam and Jerusalem (wonderful gentle,tv comedy drama with Jennifer Saunders about the WI). I always longed to be a part of it and it feels like Ive found a bit of it on here.

I'm really crap at remembering names, especially as on here you can't put a face to a name so I forget who said what. Maybe on sunday I'll read the whole thread, would that be very sad of me ? I don't think it would be actually. It would just be the same as reading old letters written by good friends who are funny, sad, inspiring, in fact bloody hillarious ! Right, that's what I'll do.

One of you mentioned you had sheep as neighbours and it keeps coming into my head. I very rarely see a sheep and when I do it's so exiting. (must sound strange to you).

So my weekend reading will be this thread and then I'll get back to you .

Night x

Hi all.

Knackered after a bit of mucky week. Bit of a row with BE last night (partly my fault but he is a twunt nevertheless)

Nice to see everyone chatting - welcome back MumFun.

Talking of flirting Maybees, had a slightly strange chat with my music teacher this week (having some lessons so I can be a rock star ). Nothing on the cards really and he's totally wrong but a diversion nevertheless.

Hi Maybees, that all sounds great, way to go girl. If you've got it flaunt it, wear your red & flaunt your new hairstyle.

Still a bit sick so college this aft & evening was a bit of a struggle. Tomorrow is going to be very intensive so I'm off to bed now. Don't really give a sh*te about exh & christening etc. I doubt he's any intention of going. Tg I've the excuse of college though, there's no way I could have taken the risk of going with dc's in case he'd turned up. If he does go he'll be well gone by time I get there.

As regards friend (again using term loosely), I tried ringing her again this am & nada. She's really turned into a twunt! Nine years of friendship down the fu*king drain there anyway!!

Despite all this have to say I'm feeling very serene & I haven't allowed any of the above to interfere with that.

Wishing you all a great weekend. Catch up tomorrow.

Smartie you are coming to the best time of year cos baby lambs are going to start popping out all over the place.Nothing more wonderful than a warm Spring day with dinky lambs out in the fields.

In fact might add lamb watching as another holiday activity{seasonal only}Can be combined with hill walk or manicure whichever you prefer .Champagne included.

Good to hear from you ,hope you had a gentle week x

Wow, x posted. A big hi to Pink. If you do ever have the time to read through the thread, you'll have to then backtrack to the first one which was even funnier. The first thread was more entertaining with regard to our ventures into the world of online dating/sex exploits etc.. I am happy to report my one venture into online dating resulted in my receiving pictures of some wierdo's penis. Moved swiftly on from that . We christened him the Phantom Penis Texter (PPT). Glad we're keeping you entertained anyway!

Hi Ifyourhappy, you're excused of all blame in resorting to arguing with twunt. All twunt's seem to have the capacity to bring out the worst in people. Consider yourself fully excused!

Glad to see you're having a bit of fun on the flirting front.

Have loads of sheep/lambs in this part of the country. In fact we're famous for our sheep shagging abilities . Sorry, couldn't resist that, sorry for bringing down the tone of the thread & you're holistic business venture Maybees. .

Passing you a hot honey and lemon drink Startin'and a pink fluffy blanket-get well soon!

Happy is a punk rocker -fantastic!Re music man ;have fun and enjoy.
ps does he play the banjo,he must have wonderfully co ordinated fingers.

Just the cat this end ladies . And I'm loving it.

Ah those halycon days (is that the right expression?) when I used to come here to see the sexploits. They seem a while ago now - maybes Spring will get thing moving. In fact, even a new thread for Spring perhaps.

Nighty night.

Yes, keep warm Starting.

And it's a no on the banjo front Maybees! Thinking about music man again ... it's a no I think. We Dumplings have our standards after all.

And so to bed.

Smartie; Only found this thread cos I googled "Husband ditched me"
Now im wearing red and thinking about buying stilettos(just need to find somewhere thats not too muddy to wear them)

Startin ur excused ,had to be done.

Spring will def see us all a bit friskier no doubt about it!
Nite nite x

Evening all.

I lost our thread - it had disappeared off the front page but now restored to its rightful place I feel.

Have lurked on a few other threads over the last few days, seems to be plenty happening out there to get my brain cells whirring. Can't work out whether that's a good thing or not though .

Even lurked on a Good Housekeeping thread yesterday. Never seen that before. Quite interesting though and could help me to do more cleaning (note to self , think about whether I actually want to be helped to do more cleaning or not).

Anyway, a farily quiet weekend here apart from a late night last night and the mother of all hangovers today. It will be an early night for me tonight I think.

Hi Happy,dont know if its just me ,but cos its only me and dcs I feel I am putting more effort into the house and getting more organised.Ive started doin lunches the night b4(Startin' inspired me }and laying out clothes makes for a much more tranquil start to the day.Just finished some ironing but think someone has put something inside iron cos it smells like a cake is burning in the oven so had to stop cos I was getting queasy. Agree re lack of mess now H has gone .He used to leave his dirty socks in the stangest places

Glad you had a good nite out-Ive not been out partying for such a long time .2morrow is alanon and wed is counselling-pretty rock and roll eh!

Hope you had a good weekend at college Startin' and your feeling a bit better.

Evening Fellow Dumplings, hope you're all doing ok & had a nice weekend.

Glad you got a night out last night Ifyourhappy (only late nights I have is getting up to dc's ). I have to say I think you're on the wrong track with the cleaning tips, something a bit racier perhaps .

Exh didn't turn up at christening anyway as I suspected. I ended up taking my friends dc's last night & today to give her a break. Had great fun with a newborn, 4 dc's & dog.........

Hi Maybees, x post. Glad to hear you're doing well. I always do lunches & have clothes laid out etc night before as I'm not a morning person. Makes life a lot easier. I wonder would a few drops of white vinager or lemon juice left overnight in water dispenser of iron do the trick??

College went great, I'm learning so much about myself & also learning things I can apply to my own life to make things easier. Really hope I'll be able to keep it going next year.

Life is not too bad at all really.

Just want to share my lack of sex with everyone cos I dont know how I am meant to deal with days when your gagging for it .Hopefully the less you get the less you want but never had a drought for 15yrs and with Spring here soon I know I am going to struggle!

You have def inspired me with the organised mornings bit.So important to me I have more patience with the kids cos of everything else going on .Thanks for the iron tip will give it a try and cross examine dcs on way to nursery to find out any background info.Sorry if TMI on previous thread , this is something that I struggle with .Cant imagine having NO sex all summer FFS!

Fab you had a good time at college ,hope it all works out for you .Good you were feeling well enough to take kids and baby after baptism ,bet your friend thinks ur a star !Glad exh didnt spoil things .I cant wait for my week ,just feel things will be a lot calmer in my head by Friday .Just need to make space between me and H still get emotional when I see him even though realistically its over.Still got a lot of miles to drive on my bumpy road !

Morning all, hope you're all bright, cheerfull & embracing singledom. Think of the possibilities, we are single, free to do whatever we wish, will not be confined to having sex with the same person for the next 30,40,50 yrs............

Maybees, def not tmi on the sex depravation, we're only human . Tbh, I've resisted posting so many times on this same issue. I don't know if you were reading our previous thread or not, but if you were you will be aware that last year I had a dalliance with a friend who subsequently became christened Puppy.

Puppy was a friend I had known yrs & whom I had started to confide in about exh. He's very nice, sincere, trustworthy etc, but we wouldn't have a whole pile in common. Anyway, the sex was great, in fact the best I'd ever had in my life. It lasted two mts but I ended it then as I felt it was going nowhere & I needed a bit of space when my aunt died. Also exh stopped having access to dc's at this time so everytime I wanted to go out it meant getting a babysitter.

I ended up bumping into him again about 6 wks ago & more or less said I wanted to take up where we had left off . I was to contact him but up to now I haven't. Somedays it comes into my head & I wonder am I mad to be turning down the best sex I ever had but then mostly I come to the conclusion that sex without proper feelings for the other person is a waste of time (he did have feelings for me but accepted & understood where I was at).

Anyway, to get to the point, I used to be plagued by feelings that I should be out there having fun, making the most of my looks & figure while I still had them etc.. Now I've come to the conclusion that I'm better off waiting until I meet someone who I like & have a proper relationship. Saying that, when the sun appears & I get more frisky & when I've finished college, I could easily be posting here that I'm engaging in the delights of puppy again .

Sex becomes far more complicated when you're single with dc's & even more so for me when dc's have no access as I wouldn't have the time to persue a relationship!

Anyway, I suppose those are the choices either a reliable f buddy or hop back into the complicated world of relationships again or celebacy...

Celibacy....steady on Startin'
I know I need to be in some kind of relationship b4 I have sex again(will just mess with my head otherwise) so will just try to enjoy the freedom and look forward to the summer .So many men to pick from I dont have to panic its actually quite exciting.While im waiting im going to work on my confidence and my self esteem and hopefully I will be able to pick a nice guy.Thing about having dcs means I will have to take things slowly and that is a good thing makes for a more respectful relationship I think.
Gave myself a bit of a talking to this morning cos always feel weepy after seeing H at weekend,I have managed to escape from an abusive relationship at 38yo .I could have stayed or I could start getting on with the rest of my life which is far brighter without him in it.There are no reasons for this not to work .Plenty of reasons why marriage had to end.I am not a failure .He just didnt make the grade !

Puppy sounds lovely Startin'.Best sex ever sounds too good to miss.Def worth waxing legs for Kinda like an early 20s romance ,not marriage material but fun and orgasmic while it lasts.

Mountains look beautiful 2day,white with snow and bright blue skies.

Alanon 2nite x

ps Away to make MN flapjacks with dcs x