ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

[BEAUTlFUL]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

Back ,sack and crack!

She said something nice waiting at the end of the bumpy road .Would settle for an Audi Estate TBO.Well no..... but that would be a good passion wagon after I had removed car seats,bananskins and emergency potty.We could all be hot chicks cruising, windows down, music playing with Startin' standin'up thru the sunroof as we drive round town!

Ah thanks Maybees, that just gave me a laugh anyway .

F**k 'em,Startin' they are so full of shit they're eyes are brown!

Yesterday's lie was finding out that H had been getting some of his mail redirected to a mates house.No wonder I didnt have a clue wot was going on .Found a bill ,his name ,mates address,dated summer of last year, I swear I didnt even flinch.

It's a real eyeopener when you discover how underhand they can be!!

Hope ur having a better day Startin and spaniel is well on the mend.

Really looking forward to counselling session .Bloke commented b4 on fact that I must breathe thru my ears cos I talked constantly,so god knows wot will happen this time .Def need to take some tissues cos its gonna be emotional.

H saw kids 2nite.Calm and pleasant .Looks like he is enjoying the single life .Just seems more peaceful in himself.Told me he was going to learn to play the banjo
Seemed quite excited ,bless him !

I prob wont have time to learn a musical instrument this year ,cos i will be looking after the kids and doin housework and things .

But if anyone asks" how ru doin'" I will say "I'm fine,kids are fine and H has left home to live in a caravan and learn how to play the banjo"

Jesus Ch*ist, he must be related to my exh alright. When I had no option but to boot exh's ass out the door in Sept 08, he embraced single life by taking banjo lessons[hmmm]. There must be a secret twunt's manual that they're all following .

At that time my exh was behaving like a pure prck (same as now really), took up frequenting an exclusive private gambling club (complete with exotic hostess's) until the early hours every night & also attending a 'born again christian' group once a week!! He used to quote passages from scripture while screaming abuse during access contact . Fuking hell when I think about it............I should have tried to have him committed back then!!!!

I've come down with another damn cold!! Feel miserable & grumpy! Feel comsumed by resentment over the money I didn't get back, don't know how the fu*k I'm going to let it go. It's the same friend who dumped me over md. I will never ever again lend anyone money, it's so true that it always ends badly!

Ok, I don't think I've anything else to complain about so I'm just going to plaster a reasonably happy look on my face & get on with day!

hi there y'all

Starting, I hope that the smile is plastered on your face this evening. If not, how about going outside and screaming really loudly - I think if I did that it would make me feel really good

Starting and Maybees - I'm feeling left out because I haven't had a banjo experience with XH. We're going to have to look for common ground elsewhere I think.

Starting, sounds like you're dealing with BF fallout still too. I have had a friend issue also over the last couple of months. Don't understand it really - have come to the conclusion that it's best to move on though and be with people who are supportive rather than one who is being a bit . How can he just f** off with OW and not think of his family? I just don't get it. And surely as someone with a family she should known better - she must have known the problems that were created by what she did surely.

I think I really need a Beauty perk up at the moment. Where the f* is she? Feeling really angry at the moment - I'm sure that this is a phase that I'm supposed to go through but thought I had dealt with all of this a while back. Really think that if XH hadn't caused DS issues I would feel much better now because I am just so happy to be rid of him. But dealing with DS fall out is so sad that I'm finding it hard to put it behind me and I really blame XH. Oh f* perhaps I'm just getting wound up by that funny thread about the f** buddy woman. I shouldn't read it TBH.

Reader told me that we all get affected by other peoples energies and this is a good way to cleanse and restore your aura.

Lie somewhere quiet,arms and hands relaxed by your side,close your eyes and breathe gently in thru your nose and let the breath out thru your mouth.Now wrap yourself in a bubble,slowly rid yourself of the negative energies you have encountered 2day all spiky and angry.Now feel you warm ,fuzzy positivity engulf you .Visualise your aura like a glow around you and unwrap yourself slowly from your bubble ,feeling nourished and serene.

She also said you could chant out loud what direction your life wanted to take .

CAUTION:Be careful what you wish for!
(terrified I get a muppet playing a banjo)

ps my spiky aura that affected me 2day was nursie with a needle and swine flu jab .Arm agony,said it would b like that for a week.Ds cool but dd full scale suffragette protest.
Away to find some lavender oil.....remember warm glow - positive vibrations xxx

Hi Ifyourhappy, sorry you're feeling the same way as me at the moment but in the selfish way that misery loves company it's nice to know you're not alone . I'm more peed off with friend about money tbh than exh but think it's being made worse over being sick at the moment. On the one hand I think I trust her to pay it back in Sept (she has a policy expiring then) but on the other hand it's a really substantial amount that I simply cannot afford to loose at the moment .

Also I'm afraid to wait till Sept to get the money back because I'll have to have paid my college tuition fees for next year within the next few mts (4K) & if the money didn't come through in Sept I really couldn't afford to continue with college for now . I'll have to ring her again & see if I can sort something out with her.

Anyway, would love to go out the garden & scream but my neighbours are not the shouting type . You don't need a common banjo experience, all three are twats that's good enough!!

I'm equally happy to have unsuportive friend out of my life & I agree I think it's part of the process of moving onto better things.

I also used to find when dc's were sad over not seeing exh that this would trigger my anger/sadness, so I fully empathise about your ds . You just have to believe it'll settle down in time.

I haven't read the f buddy thread tg. Hope your feeling a bit better now.

Waves to Maybees, & any other dumplings or lurkers.

I also wonder at time what became of Beauty or Caramela or Loobie or Lamby & all the rest. Hope they're all having a great time whatever they're up to.

Hi Maybees, sorry x posted as I got distracted by phone so was an hr between start & end of my text.

Warm, fuzzy & nourishing sounds good......will try that in bed later.

Got a laugh about another banjo playing muppet, agree totally! We should swap photos of our twunts to make sure none of us end up with one of the others cast offs . Mine tends towards the loud & extravagent so you'll hear him & spot him clearly in a crowd even without his banjo .

Dog got one of those lampshade thingies today & is going beserk!!! Will have to stay on till Monday, not sure how either she or I will cope till then........

Husband moved into a caravan at the pub 2nite.I beggedhim not to.All so shameful for the kids cos others will know at nursery and I want to protect my babies.

I am so sad .Its all over now no going back .....

I dont have neighbours ,just sheep .Please feel free to come over and scream whenever u like ,all welcome x

Hi Maybees, I know it probably feels awful right now but this will pass. Your dc's are v young & will be fine as long as you are fine. Daddy living in a caravan at pub will just be how it is for them. You or dc's have nothing to feel ashamed about, hold your head up & try to see this as a necessary painful step forward.

We might organise a meet up for warm fuzzy visualisations & screaming at the sheep

Will have to change my name now to something catchy like "Who the fck was I trying to kid my Ex is a total w*ker" formerly known as "maybees"(which is spelt mebbies up here and means "mebbies aye,mebbies no" what one says when outcome of situation is unclear"

He just threatened to cancel all the direct debits 2morrow.I tried my best but cant do this anymore , Im looking after 2 wee dinkies and he is acting like a single man .
He is totally in denial.

Thinking of organising long weekends as a new business venture,

Activities available;

1.Psychic readings,
2.Screaming as loud as you can in a field,
3.Hill walking in beautiful scenery.
4.Beauty treatments at local luxury spa
or mud treatment dog walk.
5.Sitting on a yacht drinking champagne(until owner arrives then flirt massively)

OR any combination of the above( 5 and 2 perhaps screaming loud in a field whilst sitting on yacht owner and drinking champagne).

Dumpling Vacations For Ladies Needing to Regain their Fabulosity!

Beauty hope you will man the London office,I'm taking Glasgow and New York ,Yes ladies we are taking this global!

Hi Maybees, just checked in to see how you were doing this am. Be prepared for direct debits to stop, I had all this too.

Glad to see by your last post that you have not lost your sense of humour . The combination version of 5 & 2 sounds very healing to me, I love it . I'll man accross the waters.........

Hope your doing ok this am, take care, sending you loads of virtual hugs.

Thankyou Startin' the job is urs!Think we should all have very tight fitting outfits to wear when representing the company and fabulous stilleto footwear!

Found serenity thru detatchment this morning.I have no control over his behaviour so just have to work on me and kids ,so today that means building a snowman cos we are completely snowed in.

Got enough food for tea and a great fire burning so warm and snug !

Hope everyone is fighting off their negative energies !

Take care x

Thinking of adding log splitting to list of activities,very therapeutic .

(Isnt it amazing the chores they moaned about that we just get on with.)

Hi Maybees, glad your doing ok. God it's freezing her too, I didn't realise you still had snow. God feet up by fire sounds lovely.

My grumpy mood of yesterday has passed tg. I rang my friend (I use the term loosely)this morning & left a message to ring me back but heard nothing yet.

Buiding a snowman was probably the most productive thing I did 2day.

Startin' just remember wot you told me about not expecting reasonable behaviour from someone incapable of giving it,your friend might not have a drink problem but sounds like she def has a problem so dont get stressed about situation if you can help it ,.Get ur money by all means but dont let the bitch bring you down.As if you need this to deal with FFS!

I hope your ok Happy !Fecking selfish,deluded assholes the lot of them-hope your feeling more mellow today ,but just to let you know I am in complete agreement.

"The Cave " by Mumford and Sons has really got my attention.If youve not heard them, they are a folk rock band(yes their is a banjo involved again !)The song really connects with me and I am always moved when I hear it .(on Radio 1 all the time ATM.)
Anyway was reading something today that suggested it was inspired by Plato's The Cave allegory ,Please look this up and let me know what you think(I know its getting a bit late for Greek philosophy homework) it just seemed to strike a chord with me ,walking out of the cave after a negative controlling life that you thought was normal because someone told you it was, to find a place you could celebrate who you are cos nobody is holding you back,a place where you can enjoy your freedom and how people bloom when they have the confidence to leave their bad caves (and bad cave men!)

Plato rocks!

Definately need to try and get out tommorrow !

Love ya x

Hi Maybees, glad to hear you're enjoying the snow & in good spirits. I don't think I've heard the song but just looked up the lyrics & can see why you've latched onto it .

I'm back to my mellow self again & I'm not going to allow myself to get stressed about it but I'm deffinately going to put pressure on to try & get it back now as we'd agreed & not Sept.

Exh rang a friend of mine who's baby is being christened on Sat to ask could he go to christening & that he was going to bring someone........... I don't know wtf he's up to but I think the whole point was to try & rattle my cage. Didn't work. I've college all weekend so I was only going to go to afters anyway & will now text beforehand to make sure he's not there. Problem solved. Twunt. He must be getting fairly desperate to stir things up .

hi ladies - just lost long post so have lost the will to write again - nice to see some chatting and thanks for your thoughts...