ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

Hope wee dog is ok will say a prayer x

ps Maybe troubled friend should start his own thread

Hello, I'm new ish to MN but it's been a godsend to me. I'm a dumpling too and lurk (stalk ?) on this thread sometimes. It gives me hope and lots of laughs.

It was starting's dog being ill that made me post.

Mine had an operation recentley too and she's fine now thank god.

They're so precious aren't they, she's on my bed now waiting for me to come up.

My fingers are crossed for yours too, I'm sure she'll be fine.

I'm curious, have any of you met in RL ?

Do any of you live abroad ? One of you mentioned euros.

It's amazing too how some threads die a death quite quick and others like this one go on and on.

I feel I'm gate crashing because you all have such a great rappour and an amazing loyalty and repect for each other that I feel privaliged to be able to lurk.

Do you sometimes feel frustrated that you can't post in more detail ? Ive posted on here about ex h but have to be very guarded just in case...... and it's sooo frustrating not being able to out him for the total fucking twunt that he is.

Also, what does op stand for ? Other post ?

Sorry for the intrusion, just wanted to say hi and that you all make me feel so much less alone. Nite x

Hi Maybees, hang in there, I remember those days well & they're crap. It does pass though & get easier. I can't really remember the last time I had a crap day. I still probably think about exh most days but it's got a hell of a lot easier & life with the dc's is good. Thanks for your best wishes about dog.

Hi Pinksmarties, welcome to the fold. Op means opening post i.e. first post. I've given up being totally paranoid about being able to be identified by what I post here. I used to be more concerned but I've given up & have posted enough on here that I'd be easily identified. I don't care anymore to be honest, I've only ever posted the truth. Post as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. Thanks for the best wishes about the dog. I'm still wound up about the whole thing which is why I'm still awake. She was so traumatised.

I'm the one that lives abroad.

Big hello Smartie,hope you've had a good day just waiting up a bit longer to see if any news about doggie.Come along and add your own fabulosity !

Hi Maybees, x post. Thanks again, the vet is going to ring in the morning.

Enjoy your days of chilling out over the weekend. I'll post hopefully with good news in the morning.

Morning all.

Starting, hoping dog is ok. Will return here later to check for update. Agree that your friend needs his own thread . Is it nuts for me to say that it would be good to hear from more men on MN? >.

Smartie, welcome to dumpling island. It is a happy place mostly and all are welcome, newbies, regulars, pop ins and those who took to the rafts some time ago but float back from time to time. It would be nice to hear from Beauty actually who was last seen writing the Dumpling Trilogy and negoating film rights. I have no idea who the other dumplings are in RL, although I have a feeling that a few live around the corner and visit my local Waitrose.

Maybees, you sound like you're getting through it better and better all of the time. In times of trouble big soaky baths do it for me (makes note to buy more bath things). I have found that I have twunt episodes less and less as time goes on, although unfortunately you never know when they're going to happen next. Currently I am trying to summon up courage to start the legal stuff, although I prefer it when my head is in the sand

Morning Dumplings, great news the dog is going to be fine tg. I hardly slept over her last night. I don't have her very long but the upset was more to do with seeing the blood pump out of her & seeing her shaking & terrified. I hated the thought of her dying like that. Anyway, tg she's going to be fine.

God, I used to have such a calm peaceful life!!!!!!

Ifyourhappy, I swear by the baths aswell, I love them.

Waves to all other dumplings & thanks for best wishes on doggie front.

Mmmm right thread?

So happy for you about your dog, well done, what a relief. x

There's an interesting thread on "talk/media called "why mumsnet"

Oh had to post glad dog all right Starting - terrifying just in for a routine o[ and that happeens! Your life is too much drama and just send your friend here for support - there are a good few men on MN!

Welcome pink youve come to the right place! None of us have met -a few have left recently hopefully to return. Quite a few ones of us left live all over the country!

Hi Mumfun, you are right there is too much drama in my life & honestly I am the opposite to that. I feel more than embarrassed by it all prefer the quiet life, except of course nice drama like a roll in the hay etc..... Hope all's going well for you.

Hi again Pink, great to see you posting.

Well dog is finally back at home & here beside me. She's a big nappy type bandage but seems to be in great form. She's a cocktail of drugs & I've an emergency number for weekend, so all should be fine.

On my way to this thread I just saw the thread titled most interesting places you had sex. Ffs Sat night, I'm in pj's & it's not even 9 O Clock. The most exciting thing I've to look forward to is a Moro!!!!!!!

Hope your all having more exciting nights.

Glad wee dog is good Startin' she has got to get her strength back now for important things like digging a hole in that new fence you bought so this will only be a temporary setback.

Thanks Happy for ur support .I think my recovery rate is getting better, so my emotional fitness must be improving .

Well bumped into someone today who obviously knows some gossip about the state of my very wobbily marriage and in 20 mins she must have mentioned Hs name about ten times.I am very good at acting stupid and vague so didnt let on anything cos a friend to me would just give me a hug and say"FGS girl WTF" Anyway she was obviously fishing and smirking and I just thought "Honey youre dealing with a professional here - its all MY BUSINESS so F off "Found it all quite liberating TBH.See her several times a week so I think I shall rather enjoy this if she continues to pry.

Kept my phone off again 2day and H bit pissed off-oh dear how annoying!Anyway coming over to c kids 2morrow so going to make myself scarce .

Oh and very exciting afternoon bought my notebook to start my Survival Journal and found a mint condition Postman Pat Big Storybook in the charity shop for £1.Kids forced to listen to it with me doing all the voices 2nite.

Have a good weekend x

Hi Maybees, thanks, didn't realise how attached I'd become to the dam dog!! The whole experience was really horrible but she's fine now tg.

I can't understand people who get enjoyment out of other people's misery. Ffs do the not think of the poor children.

You sound very positive which I'm really happy to hear. It does slowly get easier & you recover from each subsequent blow just a little faster.

My friend called again today. Things are v bad for him but won't say anymore on public forum. Felt so sorry for him & bless in his traumatised state he even thought to bring sweets to the dc's!

It is so fu*king horrible to see lives torn apart by people's selfish behaviour. I wish I'd been able to record all the times dc's were upset & crying & force exh to watch it. Can't understand how he can actually sleep at night!

Read something 2nite about kindness being an absolute basic in a relationship.I totally agree ,if ur partner cant be kind to you there is something fundamentally wrong.If his actions continually upset you and DCs then def wrong.If he continues this behaviour and belittles you or refuses to enter into a civilised respectful discussion regarding your relationship,then he truly is an arse.

H worked longer than expected so no visit 2day.

Kids v excited cos dance show is 2 weeks away,15 pre schoolers on stage at the one time.I have no idea wot they are doing,I have been dropping them off and picking them up since August so will be good fun to see them in action .

Hope wee dog is takin' it easy Startin' and ur all good!
Big waves to Happy , Mumfun and Dutchy !
Hope your having a good weekend Smartie come back and tell us if you've been at any wild parties etc.

Love and hugs x

Hi Maybees, I'm entertaining myself by watching desperate housewifes! You're right lack of kindness says it all really.

I so love when dc's do little shows, it's great fun. Stuff like that makes it all worthwhile.

Dog is doing grand tg.

Hope all other dumplings are doing well.

Maybees, glad to hear doggie is ok. Where is Beauty? Has she disappeared with a beau?

I am having a chill weekend, did a bit of work in the office on Saturday afternoon and today I am going out for Sushi with friends.

DD is so funny, she keeps reading 'stories' to me which all start with One day and then go on randomly about 3 little pigs, a wolf and some sheep, not bad for a 2 year old though.

Got told about a bursary program for gifted kids at one of the top schools 4 minute walk from our house so it would be great if I could get her in as she is so bright.

Prefer the company of my friends to dates at the moment, I am going to be quite selfish here as I simply have more fun with friends than on a date.

Glad 2 hear ur doin so well Dutch,DD sounds like a wee gem.Startins dog poorly not mine but agree fab she is on the mend.
H visit calm 2day .Found out another lie 2day and I didnt skip a beat,no tears no drama.I think it might have been that"alanon serenity "that I have been searching for ,either that or just bored now of all the daft/hurtful H stuff.

Didnt realise how much I look at other men in films ,telly etc now H is away.Tom Ward "Silent Witness "very sexy man.

He 's on telly now so away to enjoy !

Hi Dutchy, good to hear from you again. Sounds like all is going well for you, that's great.

Hi Maybees, likewise sounds like you've gained further serenity which is great. Equally true that once you accept the reality that things are 'broken' further lies never hurt quiet so much as the initial ones!!

Have been pondering my lack of sex..........not quiet sure what to do about it!! Was thinking it might be a start to get my body ready for sex anyway so might tackle my legs sometime soon....I have seriously left myself go .

Evening all.

Glad to hear everyone's okish.

All quiet on the western front here tonight after a mixed weekend - part relaxing and part rather traumatic .

Still, feel better for returning to work today. Thank goodness, have a fairly new job which is soooo much better than any job I've had for years.

Starting, I think I need to deal with my body also - I'm not sure there'll be any dating going on here but with summer coming (hard to imagine with all of this snow those legs are going to need to come out sometime.

Which makes me think ... surely I should be thinking about a holiday?

Oh go and get them waxed I dare you !
Friend that I spoke about confronted me this morning.I could tell she was shitting herself but we have loads of mutual aquaintences so really only a matter of time .Anyway she thought something might have been up because I always have the kids with me now.But what I thought was REALLY interesting was that the bit that confused her was how happy and relaxed I had become recently.Although she def was fishing the other day I respect her for bringing it out into the open and not gossiping behind my back.First time anyone has used the words "You and H have split up."Will see how it works out, but she can do required hairdo for small child's dance show so important friend to have in my world at the moment.

Went for a reading today.Never done it b4,Uncanny!Really thought she had been reading this post!All about healing letting go and moving forward.Said I was going to drive a bumpy road for 6mths then get on to the motorway that I ought to be driving on.I am a tiny acorn but with nourishment I will become a strong oak.

Booked an appointment with my counsellor next week .Will try and go once a month to give me support and to help me heal.

Will try and organise a night out at the end of march something to aim for !

Have also started writing"Maybees Survival Journal 2010"Contents to include Empowering Thoughts.Relationship Rules and Boundaries .Poems,Quotes and Mousetrap Artwork.

Hope you all have positive auras
and good vibrations x

Evening all, sorry to bring down tone of thread but I'm feeling really peed off tonight. Was due back a substantial sum of money this week & got a call today to say that it will now be Sept! It's put me rightly in bad form.

Also, this gets a bit complicated but the person who rang me two wks ago to say exh was going to seriously injure md rang again this am. From what I could gather the whole conversation was trying to suss out if I'm seeing anyone. In the meantime I'd got a phonecall about a week ago telling me not to trust this person that they were now in cahoots with exh!! Felt like telling him to fu*k off this am but bit my tongue & gave no in (as I've been living like a hermit there'd be none to give anyway but that's besides the point).

He was going on about how bad business wise things are going for exh. I said they couldn't be that bad as he's still able to maintain a car that's costing him 1K a mt, which is obviously more important to him than maintaining his dc's. I'm so fu*king peed off...........grrrrrrrrrr

Ifyourhappy, sorry to hear you had a traumatic weekend. Hope you're doing ok now.

Maybees, I'd like to was exh's balls (excuse the vulgarity). Glad your friend was upfront, it's the best way to be. Did the reader tell you anything about a future romance etc???? Could do with some good news.

Dah! Should have read I gave no info & wax not was exh's balls