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ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

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BEAUTlFUL · 02/12/2009 23:56

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

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maybees · 06/01/2010 01:10

Big hugs startin ,you dont deserve that- your beautiful dd had a super party and he cant take that away from you .Has been some contact from my womble so will let you know how it goes.Feeling a bit vunerable not as much dancing or sugar puffs today and we are snowed in up here take care xxx

DutchGirly · 06/01/2010 07:58

Starting, that is such a despicable thing to do, what a twunt. Remember that you organised a lovely party for DD and at least the house is clean now

Loobie, take care of yourself, eat well, get enough sleep and some TLC from friends. Chest infections take ages to recover from.

The big snow storm that was expected has not yet arrived in London not sure if I actually should go to work or not, worried about getting back.

X is away for two weeks which is bliss, I am so much more relaxed.

Just getting very fed up with Match, if you have a child it seems most men just dismiss you, maybe there is something wrong with my profile.

When is the next meet-up, I could do with some goss and dating tips.

BEAUTlFUL · 06/01/2010 10:56

Dutch, do you want us to look at your profile for you? I have kids but am still getting a lot of responses. Are your photo good? It's all about the pictures.

In other news: Womaniser has resurfaced! He sent a round-robin email, I replied, then he replied asking "Would you like to go out with me?" And then of course, the UK is brought to its knees under heavy snow. Every time we arranged to meet there was bad weather. anyway, if it clears up, I might see him on Saturday.

This is good news but bad news too, as I have let myself go MASSIVELY over the past month and getting myself "Date Ready" will be like restoring a run-down stately home. Eek.

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BEAUTlFUL · 06/01/2010 10:58

startingover, that's unforgiveable about the card! What a selfish arse!

Keep MD around for shags. That's what I'd do!

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startingovernow · 06/01/2010 15:50

Afternoon Dumplings, had a session with my counsellor this morning & feel very positive & grounded again.

There's nothing I can do about twunt except thank the gods above that there is no access with dc's. You're all right in that dd had a lovely birthday & was none the wiser about card (that was meant for me), eldest dd did however see card but I had a chat with her explaining again how unwell daddy is but that he loved them v v much even if he's not able to show it at the moment.

Am also feeling better about db now & not as concerned that I've surpressed grief.

Maybees, hope things go ok with your womble.

Dutchy, enjoy the break from ex. Good luck with match, I don't think I'd ever have the patience for it.

Beauty, that's amazing about womaniser resurfacing. Hope you manage to get out sat night. I don't envy you on the preparation front. Dc's are back to school tomorrow & I badly need to sort out my hair, eyebrows & nails over the next week.

I know you're all saying hold on to MD for shag purposes but I have major doubts. Am not overly concerned & I think it will just work itself out over the next short while. I don't think it's quiet right to be using another human being as a human vibrator! Also, he's too intense, adoring etc.. Finally, am slightly concerned that the universe may not send along my mr right if I am happy to accept mr available right now!

Mumfun · 06/01/2010 16:22

Hi all

Ds vomited 2 nights ago so off school for 2 days. Now face prospect of being off for longer as snow falls heavily (for London) tonight.

In a strange calm phase at present. Had another major go at H in anger (did apologise this time as needed too) and feel a lot calmer now. Doing much better being on my own and generally sleeping a lot better thank goodness.

Ugghh Starting - what a card to send! Glad you had a goodd counsellor session and also that DD didnt see card meaning and that you sorted with DD1.I do agree with you not hanging onto MD for sex - only thing is that you have so much going on it must be hard to be clear on all your feelings at present and make decisions.

Loobs glad that CLGS is being supportive

Dutchy -I agree - friends have told me that the photo is super all important. We could always take a look for you

Beauty glad youre back and that you might have a date with W if you want it)Enjoy getting date ready!

Feeling quite busy and occupied and positive at present.

News is that H is feeling a bit bad about things. Hard to say what is going on on open forum but will keep calm, have a good social life on my own and see what happens.

Caramela · 06/01/2010 16:40

Hello and Happy New Year Dumplings, been having internet problems and also spent some time with BF so I'm catching up now.

Starting, that is such a low trick with the card but I'm glad that you feel better after seeing the counsellor, you've had such a rough time.

Loobie, I'm so sorry to read about your mum, what a dreadful thing to happen - it's good that CLGS has proved to be supportive.

Beauty - Womaniser returns ? Enjoy yourself.

I've only skimmed through the thread so please excuse the crappy post, welcome to all the new converts.

DutchGirly · 06/01/2010 16:49

I think the photo is ok, I do get messages but not from the men that I would like. It doesn't help I absolutely hate my photograph taken.

Beautiful, I may have to take up your offer, I can't msg you though.

startingovernow · 06/01/2010 16:57

Hi Mumfun, glad to hear you're so positive. Weather shocking here too so school run for dd1 could be very dodgy tomorrow (all uphill). Good luck with whatever transpires with h.

Hi Caramela, welcome back to the fold. How did things go with bf?? (I am assuming you mean boyfriend & not best friend??)

startingovernow · 06/01/2010 17:03

Dutchy, no advice re photo/match........however maybe they are all just twunts who have abandoned their own children & therefore find the idea of you having a child off putting!!!!!!!!! Sorry, couldn't resist, my brief flurry in the land of online dating only resulted in phantom penis texter, so I can offer no help/guidance.

Caramela · 06/01/2010 17:13

Starting - BF = Bollock Face, the dumper. Had a charming time with him, you know - playing Scrabble, having political debates, considering the problems of global warming, not having dirty sex, no sirreee, not me.

Not convinced it is 'going anywhere' , mainly due to the distance between us. We have a wonderful time when we're together but who knows ? He's let me down before, I can't imagine he won't again.

startingovernow · 06/01/2010 17:42

Sorry, forgot you had christened the navel grazier bollock face! Thought maybe after a lot of pleasant CL action you had promoted his status to boy friend!

Caramela · 06/01/2010 18:02

Nah, once a Bollock Face, always a Bollock Face, even after a fair old sesh of CL action .

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 06/01/2010 18:04

Just popped in to say hello and nice to see lots of chatting. Will try to read all properly and pop back later.

Cold and snowy - the urge to send Bald Eagle out butt naked in the cold and throw grit filled snowballs at him is growing

startingovernow · 06/01/2010 20:54

Caramela, glad we cleared that up, title's are v important .

Ifyourhappy, glad to see you back. Cold & snowy here too.

Dc's bathed, in bed, house relatively clean......bliss!

BEAUTlFUL · 06/01/2010 21:03

I really think that the next step for us Dumplings is a live meet-up. But when? And where? How many of you can come to my house, in Surrey? (I know we've discussed this before Christmas but I drank a lot over the festive season and I now have a freshly wiped-clean memory, like a newborn bab... oooh, look, something shiny...)

We could meet up on VALENTINE'S DAY, for extra bitter hilarity!

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startingovernow · 06/01/2010 21:20

OMG, Beauty, that is a brilliant idea, I'm so jealous! Only consolation is that I am going away for a residential weekend with college valentine's weekend. I'll be away, in male company, eating out, my first night away from dc's since forever!

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 06/01/2010 22:48

Oh yes Beauty, I'm in!

startingovernow · 06/01/2010 22:49
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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 06/01/2010 22:59

But better if we do something that works for you StartingOver . What would work for you?

startingovernow · 06/01/2010 23:27

Had thought of flying over if ye were organising a meet up but really in my present financial predicament I'd better give it a pass (have probably already spent my budget for Jan & Feb combined with my massive sale splurge)! Might just throw caution to the wind though & come over if ye're organising another one at a later stage.

Enjoy & just fill me in on all the goss after .

Mumfun · 07/01/2010 14:42

Yay - up for meet up. Sounds fun....and scary

loobie63 · 07/01/2010 14:53

woo hoo for a meet up! Startingover OMG you simply have to come along or maybe we can all jaunt to you.. how much fun would that be?!

DutchGirly · 07/01/2010 16:02

Woo Hoo, a meet-up.

I will bring a cake or two along (I bake when I stressed and then I give them away)

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/01/2010 16:06

Dutchy, I like to bake too!

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