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ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

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BEAUTlFUL · 02/12/2009 23:56

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

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Mumfun · 23/12/2009 10:17

Starting I am so so sorry -cant believe that has happened to you as well. Hugs to you and DCs. Will write more later (())

Caramela · 23/12/2009 11:43

Dear Startingover, it seems rather inadequate to say that I'm terribly sorry to hear of your brother's death but I really am.

Although we are all strangers who just have a laugh together on the internet, I genuinely think of everyone here as friends. I know that the support of all the Dumplings has got me through some very rough times recently, and I hope that in some small way you can get a tiny bit of comfort from the knowledge that we are all thinking of you. Have a big hug, love.

loobie63 · 23/12/2009 14:21

Startingover I am lost for words to comfort you I too lost my brother but a long time ago so I can only say I truly know what you are going through now, as Caramela said we are strangers but our dumpling bond has got us all through, have a mahusive hug from dumpling island ((((((((HUG))))))

makkapakkamoo · 23/12/2009 17:15

Starting, sending loadsa warm thoughts and (((hugs))) hun, and I second what Carmela said about virtual strangers on here being friends. I have certainly gained more comfort and help on here than throuh rl friends. xox

Mumfun · 23/12/2009 20:24

Back again. Starting - feel very unable to help at this sad time for you. Only hope that your RL family are supporting you. I know youll have to get through Xmas for the DCs but do think of yourself after that and give yourself time/space to grieve. Thinking of you and do unload on here if it helps -we are all here for you

I do second the other dumpling comments that I have been so helped by dumpling support over the last couple of months. Warmest wishes to all dumplings and hope to continue some excellent threads in the New Year which I hope will be a much happier time for all of us!

MavisGrind · 23/12/2009 22:47

Startingover - I'm so very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear brother. What a truly terrible year this has been, I wish you and your dcs an extremely peaceful 2010.

My xH is back in the country and staying with myself and the dcs for a couple of days. Not sure when I will get to be online but I want to wish all fellow dumpettes a wonderful Christmas and a rollicking New Year! 2009 may have been crap all round but 2010 is the chinese year of chin up tits out!

Happy Christmas all. x

startingovernow · 24/12/2009 01:21

Hi Dumplings, I would like to thank you all for your kind wishes. I equally feel we've become virtual friends & it has been lovely to come on here & read your messages.

Well, I spent an hour queueing to get into car park & a further two hours queueing for Santa but I am happy to say Santa visit was achieved. I had explained to dc's in advance that we might have to leave if queue was too long as I wasn't sure what time family were going to funeral home. There was loads of fun stuff for dc's while poor harrassed parents had to queue but when we eventually got our visit I told dc's we had to make a quick dash home so presents had to wait to be opened in the car. As we were running back to car, all dc's v happy, ds turned to me & said thank you so much for bringing us & waiting in queue, bless he's only 4.

Service tonight went fine, I only brought eldest dd. I was v close to db & am lucky that two days before he died we had told each other how much we loved each other, I am so glad to have this to keep with me.

Managed to get shopping done on way home tonight & have organised dc's to have a nice day out tomorrow so I'm glad for that.

Loobie, I'm sorry you had to suffer a loss like this too.

To all other dumplings, thanks again for your kind support & I wish you all a fab xmas eve.

May 2010 be kind to us all & may we be blessed with great men & plenty of CL action .

P.S. please keep posting all the fun stuff that's happening for you all as I would hate to bring the tone of the thread down. It's good to come on here & have a laugh .

Caramela · 24/12/2009 13:13

In the spirit of Christmas telly specials and because someone weeks ago suggested a list of Dumpling terms ( also to prevent me hitting the booze just yet, it's only a matter of time ) , here's a Dumpling glossary.

Beauty - the founder of the Dumpling Cult, recently AWOL believed boots gazing/novel writing/Match man ravishing , delete as appropriate. In the future will retire to LA after Dumpling-based novel proves a global success, convert to a macrobiotic, yoga obsessed lifestyle supplemented by specially flown in vats of Dairylea.

CL - cunny loving. The Holy Grail of Dumplings the world over. Ideally you want a man who approaches this less like you've asked him to lick a brussel sprout lolly and more like he's just been offered an afternoon watching Sky Sports, drinking lager and having assorted nuts brought to him by Angelina Jolie.

CLGS - a man who is a CL expert and also able and willing to do stuff round the house - Cunny Loving Gate Shaver. Note, Loobie has snaffled the only one in existence.

Comfort Food - can take many forms. Basically any foodstuff which the Government would include in an advert detailing Things You Shouldn't Eat - examples include Dairylea, trifle and Bombay Mix. Designed to be shovelled unthinkingly into a Dumpling gob in an orgy of self comfort.

Dumpling - an enormously attractive, stylish, witty, sexually confident woman who was just too good for the piss-poor, wankfart who dumped her.

Dumper - piss-poor wankfart. Examples of this type include Bald Eagle, Bollock Face and plenty of others too crappy to deserve a comedy nickname.

Ingenious- a word used by Mavis in connection to David Tennant's possible sexual ability which is still distracting me.

Lecturers - to be avoided. These men spend all day navel-gazing. As the cast of Grange hill advised , Just Say No.

MD - Mumbodumbo. Practitoner of CL , talent scouted by Starting while he painted her house ( not a euphemism ). So called due to his tattoo of mammy ( turned out to be unexpectedly easily ignored ) and prominent ears, which may or may not be useful for steering during CL.

Plenty of Fish, dating website full of PPTs, see below.

PPT/PET - Phantom Penis Texter/Erection Texter. A man, usually from PoF, who believes the way to a woman's heart is not a small turqouise box from Tiffany containg diamonds but a photo message of his tumescent member. A bizarre combination of hypnotic and sleazy. ( not to be confused with a KET - a Known PT which can be really quite welcome ).

Santa - man with a sack bulging full of CLGS for all Dumplings to find at the bottom of their beds tomorrow morning.

WOTD - wanking oneself to death, a real possibility.

Wishing all of us wonderful Christmases full of light, laughter and chocolate and a New Year that is a massive improvement on 2009.

loobie63 · 24/12/2009 14:08

Hey Dumplings

I am the only poor sod left in the office stuck here til 4pm to answer the phone

Caramela pmsl fab post made me chuckle out loud as always

Where the heck is Beauty?

To all my fellow Dumplings have a fabulous Christmas , thank you all for holding my hand in this virtual world I really don't know what i would do without you ... roll on 2010 lets see what it has in store for us.

I hope you all get great pressies from Santa

Mumfun · 24/12/2009 18:02

Caramela - thats a cracker Love it

And Loobie -sorry you were in the office pm but youll be home now

Have a great Xmas everyone and lets collectively make 2010 a great year for one and all!

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 24/12/2009 20:51

And a Merry Xmas from me too to all of the Dumplings . Hoping you and your DCs have a great day.

Caramela, your post made me laugh out loud too. Surely Beauty will read it and come back to tell you she will include your glossary in her book. If Bald Eagle drives me around the bend tomorrow I will think of your funny words and just smile......or actually, probably come on here and scream............

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 24/12/2009 20:51

And a Merry Xmas from me too to all of the Dumplings . Hoping you and your DCs have a great day.

Caramela, your post made me laugh out loud too. Surely Beauty will read it and come back to tell you she will include your glossary in her book. If Bald Eagle drives me around the bend tomorrow I will think of your funny words and just smile......or actually, probably come on here and scream............

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 24/12/2009 20:52

Oops. How did I do that?

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 26/12/2009 18:58

Evening Dumplings. Hoping that you have all had a great Xmas and that your DCs have all had fun.

For me the majority of festivities are done, I think, although I will continue to play with my toys for months to come. Don't really have any family nearby so pretty quiet here. Will liven things up with some serious retail therapy tomorrow, although I doubt that those Russell and Bromley boots will be in the sale somehow .

All went kind of OK with Bald Eagle being here at Xmas, although it was a bit strange. And every time I looked at him, I just thought that he looked so old and odd! Anyway much much better than last xmas when BE behaved like a complete twat for the entire holiday.

Looking forward to 2010 .

MavisGrind · 27/12/2009 21:13

Hello all. I really hope you've all had a lovely Christmas.

Things have been ok here - xH turned up to stay a day early and left a day late and still won't commit to a regular schedule of access. I'm also 99% certain that he's seeing someone else which I am absolutely ok with in theory but does make me think I'm going to be on my own forever [unrealistic and slightly hysterical emoticon].

Still there has been more than enough of DT on the TV/Radio/iPlayer to keep me happy - just remember Caramela - ingenious I tells ya!

So, Happy week-between-christmas-and-New-Year-when-no-one-can-actually-tell-you-what-day-it-is.

Dumpettes. I salute you.

PumaGirl · 29/12/2009 19:17

Hi All,

Just checking in after not reading the thread for a whole week! Normally 24hrs is my absolute max before the withdrawal symptoms get too bad.

Starting - only just read your sad news. I hope you are doing ok. What can I say. Deepest sympathy to you and your family. 2010 is just around the corner and the only way is up.

Hope all you lovely dumplings had a fab xmas. What's on the cards for new year's eve? Any hot dates? Good parties? Or wine on the sofa and an early night with sweet dreams of CL beefcake? Mmmmm ... bring it on.....

Mumfun · 31/12/2009 10:38

Just very quickly as rushing.

Hope 2010 is fab for all and that life will be much kinder and filled with joy, trifles and CLGS clone men!

BEAUTlFUL · 31/12/2009 11:04

Starting, I'm so shocked and upset by your terrible loss. is the funeral today? how awful for all of your family.

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BEAUTlFUL · 01/01/2010 00:15

HAPPY NEW DECADE, DUMPLINGS!!

I'm normally unmoved by New Year's Eves, but this one felt like a weight was being lifted off my shoulders. It's our decade, dumpettes! The men have gone, those awful dead weights have left and now it's OUR TIME!!

Oooh, really, I'm all fired up. I hope you're all well. I'm so excited! Hooray!!

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 01/01/2010 00:20

Too right Beauty.

Happy new decade to all.

The good times, they are a coming

loobie63 · 01/01/2010 13:19

Hi Dumplings

The new year has got off to a terible start for me, sadly my mum had a massive stroke yesterday and died earlier today. I think I am in shock not really taken it in she was 72 never drank, never smoked and walked everywhere. what a dreadful thing to happen I really hoped I would turn a corner once the new year was here but somehow I don't think that will happen now. My poor dad

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 01/01/2010 15:51

Loobs, how awful, you must be feeling absolutely terrible.

My thoughts are with you. I'm sure you and your Dad will get through it but it will take time I know.

startingovernow · 01/01/2010 19:37

Hi Dumplings, hope you all are fired up for 2010 being our year.

Loobie, I am so sorry for your loss. As you know I've just been through it so I know what you're going through. My thoughts are with you & famiy.

Beauty, so glad to see you back in dumpling land & really glad you're all fired up for 2010. Thank you for you sympathies (funeral was xmas eve).

Well I am like Beauty, I am feeling so positive that 2010 will be my year. 2009 turned out to be so crap, aside for loss of exh, court case, no access for dc's.......... in the last 12wks my MIL died, my granny died, my d d aunt died tragically at 48 (8wks ago) & finally my d d only brother died on 22nd dec (was buried next to aunt).

This is a new year & a new start for me. Have spent a lot of time with parents & sis & still managed to have a nice xmas with excitment of santa for dc's.

I went slightly insane two days ago & went on a massive shopping spree in sales. Got loads of clothes for dc's, beautiful elle matching coats for dd's, 4 pairs of boots for me (one fab miss sixty pair), 3 dresses, 3 pairs of jeans, about 5 tops & god knows what else (I was like a woman possessed).

Also treated myself to a CL session with MD after shopping spree but I must confess I'm already getting a bit bored of it. He's besotted but being honest as far as I'm concerned it's not going to go anywhere, he's just another safe puppy type. Am between two minds on if I should just end it.

Just for a bit of positivity, for all of us dumplings with dc's & wondering about the future, there is a well known tv personality here who separated with 4 dc's, she went on to meet the love of her life & have another 4 dc's!!

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 01/01/2010 20:59

Good to hear from you StartingOver - this will be your year AND our decade too!

Well done on the shopping, I worked hard on retail therapy too, but 4 pairs of boots !

loobie63 · 02/01/2010 16:21

Hey Dumplings

Thanks for your kind words over my Mum, My Dad seems to be coping I think us girls ( me and my 2 sisters worry too much)

I have decided that 2010 is still going to be a new start for me I should be divorced in about 10 days time and I think my sole mortgage completed on 30th December so I have a lot to be thankful for and look forward to

Startingover way to go re the shoping

Dumpling Island still lives on so YES lets make this our decade

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