ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

[BEAUTlFUL]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Come in here and chat about erection-texts, lechy lecturers and getting the painters in.

Top of the morning to you fellow dumplings. I am normally a tad grouchy in the mornings (not a morning person at all), but despite three nights this week of relatively no sleep, I was bright & chirpy this morning. MD was obviously the same as he's checked in a few times already by text.

Ifyouhappy, I am so in shock that you were awake at such an ungodly hour!!!! I thought I was the only dumpling that kept such unsociable hours.

I'm tied up in college now for the next two days but I've decided round three will definately involve becoming closer aquainted with mammy . Oh, I'm so looking forward to meeting mammy now .

Dutchy, I'm the same, didn't really have any weight to loose but stress knocked me down a size, now a svelte size 10, yippee .

Loobie, any action planned with CLGS for the weekend.

Looby, these are no ordinary wellies. They're like black patent wellies!

I need these for the school run, and future dates involving tramping through country fields or something.

Beauty, you have to be a true connoisseur (sp?), of boots to understand the true value of a pair of hunter boots! Enjoy your purchase.

I have a pair like these stashed in the back of my wardrope since last year but haven't found occassion to wear them yet .

Startingover you sound so top of the morning , afternoon and probably evening too I am pleased for you, size 10 i am a 12/14 waaaay more voluptous and yes seeing CLGS tomorrow he is going to help me put up Xmas decs as my son wants them and I need to try to be a perfect mum to put GB and young floozy to shame then he is staying over at my place on sat night and we are going to Bluewater shopping on Sunday maybe I will hit Ted Baker woo hoo..... tis all good

Oh Beauty no ordinary wellies I should have known they wouldn't be pls post pic of them on here for us dumplings to drool over asap

Starting good luck with college stuff let us have MD update if you have any strength left and time asap but ENJOY

Just a quick wave to all you lovely Dumplings as Operation Mutton is in full flow ( nail polish drying as I type ). Have a lovely Friday night ( I'm a bit nervous )and I'll dish the dirt as soon as I sober up.

ps You leave my satsumas out of this, you mucky bints.

Have a fab time Caramela

Have a fabulous evening, Caramela!

Loobie, you probably have boobs, whilest I've just been left with gel filled push ups, well worth going up a size or two for . Glad you'll be getting a bit of CLGS action over the w'end .

Am concerned as to the whereabouts of all other dumplings!!!!!!!!! Have ye all found men?????? Are ye all out on the town??????

Caramela, your probably swinging from the rafters, can't wait for an update on your night.

It is probably a combination of complete exhaustion & finally begining to move on a little with my life, but I have been plunged into huge grief over the loss of exh, my marriage, family unit & father for dc's. It's very hard to accept that he's gone from dc's life too.

I waited a long time to see if exh would make any attempt to try & put things right. I suppose now that I finally feel ready to take that first step in moving on by getting into a relationship it's bringing up all of the grief again. There's a part of me that would just want to retreat from the world. I feel like I'd never want to live with anyone ever again & trying to have any type of a social life when I have dc's 24/7 is nigh on impossible.

I'm just wallowing in it tonight due to tiredness, all the shit about happy families at xmas & all the shit that exh has put me & the kids through. He's headed off on vacation today until 1st Jan, no idea where to or who with. No maintenance from him. The whole this is just sad & horrible, how someone who was so kind & loving could become such a cruel bastard. Rant & self pity over. I'm going to haul my pathetically sorry ass of to bed.

I think all must be out on the town as you say.

I too have been in a bit of a state tonight. DC issues continue and the reality of dealing with them solo has got on top of me. Don't get much support from family and BE just totally hopeless tbh. In theory he can help but in practice useless - so frustrating as he had the potential to be a good dad. Can't get over how much he has become a total twat and lost all of the lovely qualities he had - really unpleasant. And I have to put his twatness to one side to put on a good front at Xmas for the DCs also! Urrgh.

So glad to have Dumpland and lovely RL friends - what would I do without them?

StartingOver and IfYoureHappy, please don't be so sad, it is normal to grieve over the end of a relationship, your 'fairytale' if you like. It amazes me that my X, a person I loved for years can be so cruel and disrespectful sometimes.

You have to 'snap' out of it though, the wallowing will only make it worse.

It is very hard to take care of children 24/7, I sometimes go to bed at 8 at night as I am absolutely exhausted.

Are any dumplings based in London, we could meet somewhere for tea and cake!

Thanks Dutchy, I do agree on the wallowing front. I'm not wallowing too much really but at times, things happen beyond my control and a big time bleak wallow appears. Today, all is bright and sunny and Xmas planning will take over. I will even write Xmas tune this evening I think (perhaps post XFactor).

How's the world for you today Startingover?

I am definitely up for a Dumplings meet up somewhere Londonish. Anyone else up for tea and Dumplings?

I wonder if I could join the dumplings- after a year of separation from H he has finally told me to bugger off out of his life and another highly unsuitable 'casual' relationship has just ended and I'm devastated.

I didn't think I would be as I knew he was a twat and had been distancing myself a lot but getting the final email saying 'goodbye, I've taken so much shit from you, you've hurt me so much but now I am moving on etc etc' reduced me to a wreck.

I'm in the crying a lot and staying indoors phase but you lot are a real inspiration to get out of it.

Don't think I'm ready to date nor will be for another 5 years lol but so agree about PoF. I was on it very briefly this year nad was frankly amazed at the number of messages saying simply 'hey you sexy' etc and/or the number of 25 year old lads clearly trying to get a shag with a desperate older woman!! Not that I am, errrrrr, desperate heheh.The first one I stupidly gave my number to then immediately started trying to have text sex with me when I was with the dcs in the park, lmao. It's like we're a sort of unpaid filth-on-demand service...

Just a quickie agingoth welcome aboard our glittery ship I know just the phase you are in now and it does get better I promise you.

Waves to all the other dumplings Caremala where are your drunken ramblings? I hope you had a fab time.

I would be up for a dumpling tea and cake session fancy london town only just over an hour on the train so yes yes yes lets meet up if dumplings are interested

CLGS is here

I am in London town so sounds good to me. Anywhere really, however am up North over festive season.

Feel like a big lump of shite today. Am not yet in the glamorous dumpette phase of loving myself enough to work on looking good, more in the slobbing around in old cardies feeling sorry for self phase, so not only feel but look shite - at least not being able to eat much may have a reasonable effect down the line

Did the idiotic thing of texting twunt features apologising for being vitriolic in my final email. It isn't as if I actually do want to see him again but somehow hate the idea of having hurt his feelings and him hating me now...as if it matters when I am well rid of the cheating sod.

Welcome Aginoth, nice to expand the Dumpling world. You will soon be full of joy and loving the dumpling's fun and frolics. So that's me, Aginoth, Loobs and Dutchy for a Londonish meet up so far - sounds good .

How's everyone else doing?

Startingover, I'm wondering if it's an MD night tonight? I'm out of chocs but the wine is flowing.

Caramela, what exactly did happen last night? Was the lovetunnel kept in check?

Beauty, hoping you are chin up, tits out and boots on this weekend.

< festive greetings to all dumplings >

Evening Dumplings, I'm back. Had busy day at college today & chilled out with dc's this evening with xfactor.

Ifyouhappy, I'm the same, the good days far outweigh the bad days now but I think the week I had last week was bound to trigger the grief again. Also, while I'm looking forward to xmas & know I'll have a great xmas with dc's, it's bound to be v sad both for dc's & myself that they won't even get to see their father.

Dutchy, I agree on the wallowing front & that's why I'll be pushing myself on the MD front. I know it would be v unhealthy for me at this stage to not start moving on.

Am dying to hear an update from Caramela!!! Hurry on, your fellow dumplings are waiting . Am begining to wonder are you still shacked up with ??? (not sure what to call twunt at this stage, he'll need a new name if last night was a success).

Waves to all other Dumplings.

Welcome aboard Agingoth, the more the merrier!

Am so jeolous of meet up

Ok, reporting for Dumpling duty < salutes >.

Before I start with my report, a big hello to all of you, welcome to Apingoth and I'm so sorry to hear that you've had a rough few days Startingover, I'm not surprised that it's all hit hard after such a week especially with Christmas coming up.

Right ( braces self ) - Friday night. As I said, I looked an utter tart, no point in pretending otherwise, it took all my courage to take my coat off and as we were among the first to arrive in fancy dress, we had to walk through an entire room of normally dressed people to get to our party. It's certainly one way to get attention - heeeeeeere's some breasts and following on some way behind, here's Caramela. God knows what flack I'm going to get at work.

So met Bollock Face there - original plan pre-dumping was to get ready in his hotel room, - new flinty Caramela says non and trollops-up at home. We spent the night giving an apparently not entirely convincing impresion of being 'friends' despite a rigidly enforced no touching , no gazing, no flirting and lots of talking to other people policy.
We get on very, very well and that hasn't changed - we make each other laugh a lot. I drank enough to be slightly tipsy but definitely not off my face, so brain and love tunnel had a summit, discussed rationally the repercussions and implications of each option open to us and decided unanimously to spend the night getting shagged senseless.

Reader, I was.

We had a fairly minimal amount of sleep, I had one entirely new sexual experience ( oo-err , not averse to another go actually - I am contemplating the fact that I have begun the final descent into utter slutness but have told you lot as I feel a responsibilty to amuse you ).
It was all absobloodylutely marvellous. Plenty of the old CL - sighs.

We spent most of yesterday together, however I am mindful of something that I think Beauty said weeks ago, it's not what they say, it's what they do. If he makes some serious actual commitments, not just plans or speculation or preparations, then he can have me - I love the twunt but I aint being messed about no more, no matter what pretty words he spins. I am looking after Numero Uno now - he needs to decide what's important to him.

Dumpling opinions welcome as ever.

Hiya,

haven't caught up on all the thread (yet) but would love to join u ladies

i ended my relationship with xp last month as he was verbally and occasionally physically abusive. complete control freak and compulsive liar (aren't they all lol) who cut me off from rl friends and using mn.

generally i know what i did was the right thing, but obv i get wobbly at times and almost want him back (usually when i have had contact with him).

i am 28 and now single mum of 2yo dd and 3yo ds and you all seem futher along this journey and reading so far your stories sound v encouraging imao

makka x

Hi Caramela, am so glad you got plenty of CL action. I find I am deeply curious to know what was the entirely new sexual experience?? Please, please spill the beans.... Am half afraid I might be missing out on something .

Am so glad to hear how fiesty your sounding, hold firm girl & see if he makes the big move now.

I have been engaging in some v indecent texting with MD. Was busy with college all w'end & have to watch xfactor tonight, he's busy tomorrow night & I'm busy tues & wed night. It's not ideal but I'm getting him to call tonight after xfactor. There is a strong possibility I will be engaging in some v indecent behaviour .

Welcome aboard Makka.

Hello Starting, I am far too much of a laydeee to say ( according to mumsnet everyone's at it, am I horribly sheltered ?) but it rhymes with swimming. I am now very, very embarrassed.

Enjoy your muckiness with MD, my advice is to get very,very indecent. Enjoy yourself

Arghh to Caramela - reminds me of honeymoon night - sigh. And the love word = woo - but you sound strong about yourself so thats great!

Dont have so much time on MN these days as do have to speak to RL friends so keep this short.

But am very jealous of all action. Glad you can share. New expereinces are good!

Glad you are on the way to indecent behaviour Starting and that he sounds keen.

Welcome to the gang Makka

And Im in London so up for meetup

Agin you sound too kind to twunt ex and shouldnt apologise but I do know the feeling. At least when my separared X showed me his bruises today I said he had said he deserved it and didnt apologise - I would have in the past!

Its a very busy last week of term for me this week - DCs very excited. Hope its good for all dumplings!

Hi Caramela, thanks for sharing the gorey details ! Did this with ex on occassion but will engage in more basic fun with MD for now! Absolutely no need for !

Have spent the afternoon putting up the decorations. Need to get my ass moving now. Have an hour to get to shop & get dc's fed before xfactor. Also need to descretely get body prepared for sex during adds in xfactor!!

Mumfun, I had my busy week last wk with dc's activities & this wk only slightly better.

Waves to all other dumplings.

Hello Mumfun, it's chaos here too - mainly involving me being the tinsel police, no, we can't have it all over the house.

Startingover, at least the good news is that there are plenty of ad breaks in X-Factor meaning lots of indecency opportunities. As for clearly the nuns succeeded in making me slightly modest but only to a limited degree, thank the lord .

hiya Caramela

ahhhhh sex, I remember it well

Don't think there'll be much more coming my way for a few years months tbh!!

Seem to have moved on today from crying over twuntface to just getting sad pangs which don't lead to tears. And thinking a lot about what a twunt he actually was and how stupid I was to ever believe any of the crap he fed me.

Can you believe his big strop at me was because I wanted to end it all properly and not be 'friends' (even though said twuntface had decided to go back to his wife!!! I did ask why the f* he thought I would possibly want to know him after that. He said (of course) it wasn't a 'real' marriage and he was only doing it for the kids and it was totally unfair of me to 'cut him off as a friend' (I assume that meant stop shagging him) after 'all he had done for me' and 'all the shit he had put up with from me'.....wanker. WANKER.

Why the hell do we fall for these sods? It must have been being fresh from the divorce, I was vulnerable and possibly a bit bonkers.

No men for me for a LONG time until I get rid of this obvious predilection for total tossers.

OMG, have a nervous churning in my stomach! Dc's all still up, no preparations done for sex yet!!!!!!!