am i an old fashioned budiamma?

[stitch]

but i always thought life was supposed to go , childhood, youth, marriage, kids and responsibilities.
why do people have kids when they are still kids themselves?
why do people have kids without getting some sort of legal connection, ie a marriage certificate?
what is this dillydallying around, 'oh, we are expecting our first child, but dont want to get married yet?'
why do people make life difficult for themselves by trying to do everything at the same time, kids, relationship, education and carreer?

or am i just not in tune with the youth of the 21st century?

Justalurker, people who choose other routes in life than what you deem acceptable do not have "no morals" just different ones to you!

I obviously have no morals, just off to find a bloke to shag on my lunch break - in case you're interested I won't use protection, will keep you informed if I produce another b*stard as a result. I think I could get to like being free from morals

Marriage is just a sheet of paper!!

You can walk out of a marriage just as easy as walking out of a relationship!

Justalurker - what a load of crap

PMSL @ TVI!!!

I lived with somebody for 10 years, didn't get married and didn't have children - thank god. In retrospect that would have been a mistake but at least I was free (i.e. legally and without Children) to end that relationship. I am now in a stable and happy relationship with two children which I had before I got married. We decided to get married after we had children as having children while were young enough was more important then being married. have we done things wrong - happy marriage, happy children?

By the way I also work part-time.

I rest my case with you lot. I am not Asian but think about this why is it that their children/homes are more stable, how many of them are single parents/divorced, have children with multiple partners etc. I don't believe in arranged marriage but their parents are passing on some of their good values to the younger generations, what values are you passing on to your younger generations?
I am not saying people don't get divorced, yes men/women mess up resulting in separation but if we put a high value marriage then we would have less broken homes

I happen to be married, but I hope I won't be teaching my children to be bigoted like you.

unmarried people have no morals ..what an odd view that seems even more extreme than the op..so how does this work morals accrue with years married and vice versa so what about people who have had a long marriage and a long unmarried relationship or is one relationship per adult per lifetime all that is allowed?

tee hee, it's so ridiculous it's funny. As I obviusly have no morals, can I be really nawty?

Must...stop...reading....thread....sanctimony....suffocating...meeeeee...aaaaaarggh

how DARE you suggest that not being married means you don't have morals. Does it automatically follow that if you are married you do have morals. Utter and complete rubbish.
Morals are about having compassion and respect for other people and you don't automatically get this conferred on you because you've been through a ceremony.
I really don't know why I'm bothering posting in response to such ignorant tosh.

Stitch at 9:48 21st june "ask a reasonable question that doesnt conform with the politically correct model of society at present, and you get abuse hurled at you. are we all sheep that we go ba?"

Justalurker at 11:55 22 june "I believe if we try to follow the process as we should"

Before I disappear I'd just like to note that people like me are being told that we don't have morals because we don't conform to your ideas. Yet you don't like to be insulted when you feel tht your opinion doesn't conform

Anyway I'm off to develop a process that still allows us not to be sheep (eh?)

Oi Village Idiot, I'll join you on the pull this lunchtime more the merrier

Oh batter, I ask them to take off the rings and watches, that way they won't ladder my stockings

Hey Ninah, the more the merrier (oh er missus) I really am going now for a bit now.

pmsl laughing
To tell the truth if life were THAT or 'following the process' I know which I'd go for
Budiama, now I know what to call the truly self righteous

blimey batters haven't you even sufficient morals NOT to queue jump

just caught up with this thread

Interesting questions stitch!

For me, I did everything in the wrong order because I suffered from depression between ages 18-27, so missed out on a lot of the young fun and career building, and am having to do it now!

Im always sad when I hear this argument being put forward in favour of a teenager having an abortion. "Oh, shes just a child herself, she should be having fun, she should have an abortion, let the responsibility come later" You can have a perfectly fulfilled and happy life even if you do do things in the so-called wrong order.

pmsl - you guys!!!

"Morality is suspecting other people of not being legally married."
~ George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
British playwright & novelist

Or maybe:-

"Morality is simply the attitude we adopt toward people whom we personally dislike."
~ Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)
Irish writer, & playwright