I have caught my DH

[lighthouse]

I woke up at about 5am this morning to find my DH subtly masturbating, he was not going full hog and he had his back to me. I pit my arm out and touched his back at which point he pulled his hand out od his PJ bottoms and I heard the elastic snap back. I then got up to go to the loo and he pretended to have just woken up. I know that other people on have caught theirs doing the same, is it a man thing? He is normally a loving husband and father and I haven't caught him before.

Just feel a bit bewildered, he acted all fine this morning I brought it up and made a joke of it saying he had been playing with himself in his sleep. He laughed if off but I could sort of tell he was lying.

We have a fine sex life I think although we don't do it as much as I would like. Last night we had, had a couple of drinks and so couldn't have done IT anyway.

Has anyone else caught their chap or are there any chaps out there that can explain that this is just something boys do??

I feel a bit dissapointed that he would do this and then lie about it.

LeQueen, lesigh, my dh does not masturbate. Is nothing to do with anything, just a fact. You can't make such sweeping generalisations. Like I said, I don't either.

OP was shocked and she's not the first to post on here about it. She has realised she was a bit silly to see it the way she did, giggled a bit and that's that.

I am giggling at SOH's inappropriate username on this thread.

God, I'm childish sometimes.

It wouldn't have bothered me, tbh. I would have just gone back to sleep and let him get on with it. I wouldn't have interrupted, purely because my DH would have been embarassed. Fiddling with yourself is completely normal, but a private and solo activity in this house

Having pondered on this I'm now wondering if the OP is a bit narked because she's not having as much sex as she would like and he's going solo rather than interacting with her?
If he was regularly "not in the mood" but secretly masturbating, then I wouldn't be too pleased myself, it does sound like a bit of an ishoo?

This is funny.

whoisasking, so puerile.

Maybe instead of sniggering you could start some kind of collection for me. I mean, I live in Norfolk, there's feck all to do and I can't even self-entertain. You should pity me, not laught at me.

It's no big deal. Really.

Chickens - private and solo in a shared bed is a bit of an oxymoron, no?

Why are some people so squeamish about masturbation?

Malificence, I never said it made sense, just what works for us

What a tosser.

I love it when you say he is normally a loving husband and father, as if he is sneaking out in the night to do terrible things, like kill people or something!

SOH, sorry, I didn't realise you were from Norfolk or I'd have typed even more slowly.

Show of hands, yes I was a bit shocked and thought that he might start prefering that to me, I really don't think it is fair to be victimised by some of the people on here.

I dont do it, never really felt the need and didn't think he had either. IOt has got nothing to do with being uptight or prim.

Just because some people do some things doesn't mean that other want to of find it abnormal. I am more worrie that this might be a regular occurence and our sexlife and realtioship might actually suffer.

I really think some of you are being unfair to me.

My spelling is crap when trying to type fast

Have you got children LH? How long have you and your DH been together?

Together 13 years 1 DD.

PMSL at lighthouse being told to 'get a grip'. Wonder how her DH would have felt if she did!

lighthous I wonder if what has upset you is that it seems out of character for your DH or rather the image that you have of him? You now realise that you don't actually know him quite as much as you did say yesterday and that he has a secret, private activity you didn't know about before.....

That all seems to be far more about realising something new about the man you live with that feeling prim and proper about the act itself to me....

Even if you realise most men do this in theory if you have always assumed your DH didn't do it then I can see it's unsettling to find out that he does and you weren't aware of it....I think it comes down to not feeling like you know every part of him that's the upsetting bit here.

And yes, I do think some of the posts have been quite mocking and focusing on men as a species rather than picking up on the poster's feelings around her husband.

should spell check before i send- I mean "than feeling prim and proper...."

Thank you cremeeggs, yes that is exactly it, I do feel like I have been torn to shreds here for thinking it is wrong.

Soooo funny!

I so want to bust DH doing that lol