Beautiful's Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

[BEAUTlFUL]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether we were dating, cohabiting or married, we are now to use therapist-speak well effed-off about the whole business and are desperate to regain our fabulosity.

Well, this is the place! This is where we regain our positivity, our self-confidence and eventually our mojos. We might think at the moment that we'd also like to regain our men, but that might not last long, as we'll soon realise that anyone who could put us through this does not deserve us.

Come in and start regaining your brilliance! I will be setting us exercises to complete that are based vaguely on self-help books, beauy tips and Feng Shui, or we'll just have a right good bitch until we feel completely drained and sick of the sound of our ex's names. Whatever works.

What is odd about looking at dating sites is that you really are just judging on looks to start with. Non of that meet-at-a-party-oh-you're-interesting-and-hang-on-quite-tasty-too-result!

I found that anyone that looks interesting looks a bit like my exH.

Can you change the type you go for when you're somewhat set in your ways?

haaaa, the phone pictures! Ones with a load of girls/mates is bad, as is pictures taken with other people's children. What's the point of this??

Bloody hell Beautiful - details please!

Mavis - I do tend to stick to a certain type I have to say. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong. No more dark-haired mediterranean looking blokes for me! Off in search of one of those afore-mentioned pasty ones!

If pasty is what you're after, I'm in Scotland - a veritable feast of pasty types (me included actually)

Right ladies, I'm off to bed. DS2 is teething so I never know how much sleep I'm going to be granted!

Isn't this a lovely thread. Thanks Beautiful. (and let us know the details of this date!)

Hmm, no, cancel the helium Congratulations balloons! I haven't. I don't know. He's someone who emailed me all keenly last week, until I told him he was insane. He wants to meet this week but my social life has gone BERSERK and I can't do Weds night, Fri night or Sat night (which are all my child-free slots). I suggested coffee on Saturday but he might have to work.

I feel the ball's in my court but I'm not going to stress over when to meet him... Argh! This is so hard! I'm having to guess how someone with self-esteem would handle this!

night Mavis

BEAUTIFUL-why did you think him insane?

You can do it Beautiful, live for the moment, if you don't try then you never know.

Mavis-night. Thanks for the offer of 'veritable feast' of pasty Scottish men...bit too far to travel from SW!!

Scottish men are hot. I'd go!

Flash -- because he was all "you give me goosebumps" and I'm like . He hasn't met me, he's just gone all unnecessary about my photos on Match. Plus, instinct tells me that he's probably someone who goes all supersupersuperkeen right at the start then sloooooowly goes off you again.

Plus he doesn't have DC. He knows I do, but isn't that going to put him off quite soon when I'm not so free to go out?

Fluffy- I can't help thinking about those singing Scottish twins - what was their name?

BEAUTIFUL - He does sound a bit OTT but no doubt your photo knocked him sideways. You could try one short coffee date??

I have, in my life, consciously avoided blokes with DC's (thinking they'd have less constraints on time) now thinking they might actually be a better option/more human.

The proclaimers?

That's them...The Proclaimers...Not overly handsome but thoroughly nice chaps I bet!

I think I could settle for 'something about him', not just good looking, maybe??

Right, gorgeous dumpstresses, I'm off to bed. See you tomorrow! Sleep well, dream of Divorced Cock.

I'm off to bed now too, early start.

Last little uplifting story for today...

On M5 today, traveling slowly through a speed check zone. Along side came a car, packed with boys/teenagers. Front passenger held up a pre-prepared sign saying 'get yer kit off'

DD (almost 11) in front passenger seat was mortified, I was but secretly They were not close enough to spot the wrinkles!

Morning all sorry i kissed all last night's discussions, gloom, elation and OMG beatiful a date!!

I watched bridget jones drank half a bottle of wine took a sleeping tablet and went to bed at 8pm how sad am I ?!
This is what I have been doing lately and it's got to stop, day two tits out chin up and wearing red and black with ny face on, probably look like a pathetic man utd supporter but hey who cares ... Oh I have have topped the outfit off with high heeled boots ( or should that be bottomed it off?)

I've done match to death so many ugly f**kers in my area plus i am so old at 46 that most guys stop searching at 45 so i'm not getting a look in (or looked at) also one weekend i got viewed 52 times but only 2 sodding winks from big bellied bald old guys and i do mean old one was 58 and one 64 so in effect I got rejected 50 times by the others that viewed and went nah!! Surely i'm not that bad? (insert hopeful smile)

Good news is I am now hating my ex rather than pining and wishing he's leave 24 year old with honed body and flat tummy from having no kids and return to me ... don't want him don't need him and I can live without him tis easy you just breathe in and out and hey presto I'm still alive without him woo hoo!!

How is everyone else today

Morning all. Weather is crapola here today so will be doing lots of arts and crafts watching cbeebies with the children.

Beautiful - does sound a bit keen/possibly stalkerish however why don't we try being magnanimous and give him the benefit of the doubt. That way you get to go on a date and we get to live vicariously through your experiences

Loobie - bed at 8pm and a sleeping tablet sounds like heaven to me at the moment! Do you have dcs? Mine just like to keep me in a state of permanent exhaustion so your evening sounds lovely (grass always greener and all that). btw, you are not old at 46, surely you're just coming into your prime?! Plus I've decided that match is not a great place. As you rightly pointed out its full of big bellied bald guys. The country seems to be awash with them, why have I never noticed this before or are they all at home, still living with their mothers and spending hours on match...? Also, although I can't help thinking meeting someone who also has kids would be A Good Idea everytime I read a profile where they have kids I just think "why aren't you living with them, what went wrong, are you a wife leaving knob jockey too..."? Oh and don't get me started on the 35+ ones who want to meet 19 year olds.

Right, mini rant over. Will go and do something wholesome.

Hope you all have a lovely day!

It's good that you are no longer pining for him, there's a life out there for you, o and grab it.

I'm going to try and avoid my 'friend'. He really confuses me, we get on so well and have so much in common, he said yesterday that he hates it when a woman tries to make him jealous, it has the opposite effect (he wasn't talking about me by the way) so dating someone else wouldn't do anything. He's a sportsman, stubbourn, competitive but quite sensitive and doesn't like to think he's upset me. He's really flirty with me but say's he only see's me as a friend I'm not 100% sure if he's trying to not get into anything as he doesn't know if he's staying here, he keeps saying he wants a relationship with someone though We talk every night on FB/MSN, he initiates half of it, I know I need to not be as availiable and I'm going to do that. I'm not sure what else to pull out of the bag IYSWIM. The 'spark' isn't there for him so he says (after a few months), it does naturally change though doesn't it? Isn't it an intitial bit of lust just to get two people together?? It's confusing. I recon I'm the ultimate competition and he lost!

Hello mavis How are you today?

I met up with someone last week, we chatted on FB first though, the majority of his conversation was "We're meeting in 15 hours 34 minutes" I'm a "top lass" apparantly Won't be meeting him again. I have another coffee/date lined up for lunch time, I'm still pining over my 'friend' though.

I'm like that too! They say, "I have two daughters who are the apple of my eye" or whatever part-time-Dad crap they feel like spouting while enjoying endless childfree days and loads of lie-ins, and I'm just [[hmm ]hmm]