Beautiful's Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

[BEAUTlFUL]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether we were dating, cohabiting or married, we are now to use therapist-speak well effed-off about the whole business and are desperate to regain our fabulosity.

Well, this is the place! This is where we regain our positivity, our self-confidence and eventually our mojos. We might think at the moment that we'd also like to regain our men, but that might not last long, as we'll soon realise that anyone who could put us through this does not deserve us.

Come in and start regaining your brilliance! I will be setting us exercises to complete that are based vaguely on self-help books, beauy tips and Feng Shui, or we'll just have a right good bitch until we feel completely drained and sick of the sound of our ex's names. Whatever works.

just a quick one to say hi after a quick catch up. caramela - are you going out with my exp.....sound v similar.

beautiful - you are so witty and funny!! your ex is obv a total loser.

sorry caramela - 'where' not 'are'!!

fluffy - def be incommunicado for a while...block him on msn or when you sign in, choose unavailable so he can't see you. i think he just sees you has a friend but doesn't realise the way he's treating you actually isn't all that friendly. you are not responsible for how he feels......

No, I say he's mixed up and doesn't know what he wants. I've signed in as Offline, the same with FB. He's not had many friends (too busy playing sports apparantly) so I don't think he knows the difference between a friendship and a relationship. I don't speak to my other friends every day (apart from cyber MN friends that is ).

caramela I am not really entitled to partake of this thread as I am three years down the line from splitting from my exh.

However enjoy reading it, think Beautiful sounds great.

But your bit about delaying for hours had me ROFL as a guy I have just sort of dumped - he was also sat in the dark somewhere navel gazing had a similar problem.

I actually found it rather insulting as I concluded that I wasn't enough for him to come to and think he got his rocks off through porn or DIY.

Kept saying no you enjoy yourself LOL but it was then a bit like DIY for me

Onwards and upwards

god, it don't half chafe though

a recipe for Canestan, I'd say.....

All of those who've sworn-off dating for a while, you're cleverer than I am! I've swapped obsessing about X for obsessing about this random man on Match.com!

Definitely need to give up on men for a bit. I was just staring at my mobile earlier when it hit me (not the phone, I don't have that app): "Beautiful, you don't have to worry about what bloody men think of you. Live your own life, make yourself happy."

It was an EPIPHANY, dumpettes! Unfortunately it came after I'd spent £16.95 joining up to KidsNoObject for 3 months, but at least I can cheer you all up by posting random bits from the profiles there. A seedier bunch of paedo-looking Crimewatch veterans you'll never find.

Thanks MuthaHubbard and sincitylover for saying lovely things about me! All those of you who haven't, well... It has been noted...

Worse then Smooch beautiful? Can this be possible???

I haven't tried Smooch. Will do that in a bit!

KidsNoObject is awful. I just viewed my (lovely) (I know that's vain but bugger it, I've just been dumped) profile on there and I look like a newspaper-cutting waiting to happen.

Abd it has this awful thing called "Chatterbox", a really, really dated-looking chatroom. Like something out of War Games. A long list of nsmes of people who are suposedly "logged in and ready to chat" but who never say anything. It's sinister!

I'm going to try Kindred Spirits now, from the Telegraph.

Smooch is really bad. I state "no pissheads, pictures with you holding a bottle of beer is really not attractive" and what do I get???

My 'friend' is on plenty of fish, to meet some people and make friends he says

Sisters please unite & help. Need to put dc's to bed but have fury coursing through my veins from fuckwith ex. Ex was just on phone to talk to dc's & asked for me, all this sudden communication from him is really triggering the fucking rage again. Need to keep things amicable for dc's but have a deep desire to tell him to go fuck himself.

He's swinging from grovelling to victim, fucking asshole, if he'd walked a mile in my shoes. Dick head of a fuckwith.

Really regret sending rebound eager puppy type on his way as am in desperate need of some physical relief at the moment. Fuckhead of a fucking hollicks.

Someone please come up with a plan for raising our spirits for tonight please. Feel calm enough to tackle putting dc's to bed now, please god they'll go down without a fight tonight. Meanwhile that selfish fuckwith only has to think of himself, that's all he ever did anyway, the selfish fucker. Oh god the fucking rage is back. Help.

He's an arse dear, just wipe him away, best thing to do

~Oh god thanks Beauty, I just read your previous post & just laughed out loud at your EPIPHANY. My dd wanted to know why i was rolling around laughing in front of pc. Thanks rage has slightly subsided. Off to put dc's to bed, catch up later.

Ladies - I am a member of the fishbowl that is plenty of fish. Even if I do say so myself, my profile is jolly good.

To date, I've had emails containing text speak that even a teenager wouldn't be able to decipher, one offering his services as a naked waiter for parties (obv kept that email....), an offer from a rather nice looking guy which involved him paying me via paypal for me to 'model' pairs of tights via webcam (???) and several from the brothers of benny from crossroads....oh and a few from guys old enough to be my great-grandand or young enough to be my child.

Slightly amusing if nothing else

Aww, bless! I bet it livens your day up though.

StartingOverNow!! Oh you poor thing. Have a (((hug))) and a massive .

I had an awful evening too, exactly the same, lost it after tea at the thought of bath, bedtime, tidying up, lunchboxes, night-time wakings, breakfast, school-clothes on them... It stretched ahead like a road of misery. I actually went odd, all cold and shivery and just stood in the bathroom, head in hands, thinking "Shit, I'm actually going mad now."

It's the relentlessness of it, isn't it? All the drudgery day in, day out... While the exes get to drop in every few days from a great height like a UN food parcel and get to be hailed as "a good father". GRRRRRRRRRRR!

I have no advice. Shall we just blow our tax credits on cleaning ladies and Valium?

I've fallen in love with another man from Match. Ooh, this one is lovely. His photo is all dark and brooding like Alan Rickman! All kinds of wrong, though: he says he's looking for a "lovely girl who'll put up with me". Salesmanship.

I have a new method in my Matchness: I add men to my Favourites. IMO, it's the online equivalent of looking at them for too long when they come out the loo in a winebar. (Er, in a good way.)

Alan Rickman just winked at me! ROCK ON dumpettes! I think he's got money. I'll get him to throw us a Dumpette Party in his MASSIVE HOUSE!

Alan Rickman has two teenage sons who live with him. I am awash with inappropriate thoughts over here.

Massive house you say?? Go girl!!

Aww, I just got this really sweet message from a man on K.N.O. He's 35, has full custody of his 5 y/o boy, is vv keen to be part of a family again, romantic, faithful, kind... But looks exactly like a turtle wearing glasses. Dammit.

I'm all for oggling....in fact i think it's only healthy and natural!

beautiful....honestly these datings sites can be quite funny you know, and will help pass the evenings

((starting))

Oggling's good if there's something good to oggle at.