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can i get some un mumsnetty hugs and sympathy please

139 replies

Mamazonabroomstick · 12/10/2009 18:58

think its all over with DP.

I am heartbroken.
I feel sick and just want to bursdt into tears.
Can't really be that open with rl friends as im the "strong one" that doesn't really get effected by this sort of stuff.

don#t get me wrong they know im hurting and they are sympathetic but all they keep saying is that i can do better.

Yes of course i can. but i didn't want to.

Its all just so horrible

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megcleary · 12/10/2009 18:59

sending >

seeyounexttuesday · 12/10/2009 19:00

oh shit. sorry to hear that.

cocolepew · 12/10/2009 19:00

Sorry to hear this mamazon.

ArizonaBarker · 12/10/2009 19:00

What's happened?

Tell us if you can't tell them.

hugs but don't tell anyone.

ChasingSquirrels · 12/10/2009 19:01

sorry to hear this, was it something you saw coming?

lots of hugs

overmydeadbody · 12/10/2009 19:02

I know it doesn't mean muvh now, but things will get better and easier.

Talk about it on here.

norksonmywitchesbroomstick · 12/10/2009 19:04

Sorry you are going through this, the end of any relationship is an emotional rollercoaster

but don't tell anyone

FABIsInTraining · 12/10/2009 19:06

Do better?

I thought you were all loved up?

YouLukaAmazing · 12/10/2009 19:06

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ScaryFucker · 12/10/2009 19:12

awww, mamazon, you sound very hurt and alone

sorry to hear this

look after yourself x

RealityBites · 12/10/2009 19:13

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PoisonToadstool · 12/10/2009 19:15

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Mamazonabroomstick · 12/10/2009 19:19

he has basically been making a total mug of me for ages but i have tried to convince myself it wasn't true.

I namechanged recently to post THIS

then there was This

then he got kicked off facebook. well i found out saturday night that the reason he got kicked off was because he has been trying to add hundreds of women at once.
it would seem he has joined big boob groups or whatver and tried to friend request all the members.

Its just one betrayal too far. he claims that he hasn't done that and that Facebook must be mistaken.

I just can't believe he would have done this too me again after i forgave him those last two times.

I honestly believed he loved me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me deliberatly.

i was obviously wrong and just being taken for a mug.
I think its the shame at being so very very worng again that hurts as much as the pain of it all being over.
It was only friday i was telling an old work friend how lovely he was and how happy he made me

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TheCrackFox · 12/10/2009 19:20

Have a hug from me too.

It might be a good idea to off load on mumsnet.

seeyounexttuesday · 12/10/2009 19:29

so did you tell him it was over, or vice versa?

mummyplonk · 12/10/2009 19:32

Blimey Mamazon, sounds like you have forgiven him for so much already, dont you feel any shame. It may be the hardest thing you ever to to leave him, but unfortunately it may be the best as well. You sound like a lovely person, and you deserve someone who most importantly you can trust, for years, who wont break it in the first 10 months.

Mamazonabroomstick · 12/10/2009 19:33

I have told him.

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Lizzylou · 12/10/2009 19:36

I think you've done the right thing, hope you're OK.
YOu know you are better off without him.

There is nothing wrong with you, just perhaps a bad un slipped under the radar.

You will find someone who is NOT a lying cheat, someone who will worship you and be faithful in mind, body and soul.

Which is all you deserve.

itsmeolord · 12/10/2009 19:37

I'm so sorry, you have done the right thing though.
Have a manly slap on the shoulder and a secret hug.

Mamazonabroomstick · 12/10/2009 19:38

im at a stage where i just dont think i can do it again.
I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life.

Dc's dad beat the shit out of me and was abusive in every way possible. it took me 5 years to reach a stage where i could trust a man again and he has done this to me.

I clearly cannot be trusted to chose a man for myself.

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FABIsInTraining · 12/10/2009 19:42

Bloody hell!

You know you have done the right thing, don't you? I read those 2 threads and would never have guessed it was about you and your man.

So sorry.

I had 4 bad boys before I met my DH. Don't give up.

supersalstrawberry · 12/10/2009 19:45

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EdgarAllenPoo · 12/10/2009 19:48

poor you Mamazon

RealityBites · 12/10/2009 19:48

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ScaryFucker · 12/10/2009 19:50

you have made the right decision

do not go back on it

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