can i get some un mumsnetty hugs and sympathy please

[Mamazonabroomstick]

think its all over with DP.

I am heartbroken.
I feel sick and just want to bursdt into tears.
Can't really be that open with rl friends as im the "strong one" that doesn't really get effected by this sort of stuff.

don#t get me wrong they know im hurting and they are sympathetic but all they keep saying is that i can do better.

Yes of course i can. but i didn't want to.

Its all just so horrible

don't be silly fab, we luffs you, you are entitled to your opinion just like the rest of us fishwives ladeez. Is someone giving you a ruff time, tell us and we will biff 'em

However, I have always been very scathing about the reality of soulmates, undying love etc proclaimed after a few dates

these words are generally (not in all cases) pronounced with much fanfare and excited delusion by untrustworthy fuckwits

unfortunately

I also understand my viewpoint is not shared by those who believe in such phenomena (much like the existence of alien life, in fact)

I expect you are right in all other cases but dh was the first really decent guy and while I probably wanted to be in love with him, I knew he loved me before he even told me and I was right about that too. I had had some God awful boyfriends before him.

I told him after 2 months, or at least knew it, and he waited until 5 months. Turned out okay.

mamazon - if you are unsure, just take a break from him. You dont' have to ditch him 100% if you don't want too and you don't have to take him back 100% either. Do what you feel is best for you.

I gave one bloke another chance and I am glad I did as it proved I was right to ditch him.

Night night.

night fab

Ha, I proved you wrong

The take a break and Do Some Hard Thinking is probably good advice. VEEERRY tricky.

Thing is, what happens next time some shadow of doubt is cast? Could you believe him?

i think thats why i reacted like this, this time.

if this was a lone event i doubt i would have raised an eyebrow. but because it came on the back of these other incidents it has troubled me so much more.

having said that, you've met him BoF. he's hardly a stud playboy is he. i doubt he could chat up a woman if his life depended on it.

how did you get together then mamazon ?

I met him, and I liked him. But mainly because he seemed to be making you so happy.

I just don't know tbh. I want to believe you have found love, I really do.

we were on holiday.
we got on really well. came home and kept in touch. It never occured to me that we would be anythingbut mates. but we ended up just being constantly in touch.
4 hour long phone calls, texts all day every day. it just kind of built into more than just friends.

Could you go to counselling together? It sounds like there's a lot of talking that you need to do, and it might be helpful to have someone neutral to facilitate that.

How are you feeling about things this morning, Mamazon?

Hi there oh gorgeous one. I am so sorry you are going through this. What a shitty shitty situation.

How are you feeling today?

Just going by your other threads, I think you would always have difficulty trusting this bloke. because he is not smart enough to keep hidden the fact that he considers himself someone who could 'do better than you'. Given his inept attempts to score as detailed on your other threads it's frankly fucking unlikely and you could do a lot better than him, but he seems to have a large ego and a disproportionate sense of entitlement.
Honestly, I'd say move on. I kow it's hard, but it's harder still hanging in there but always waiting for the next putdown or clumsy embarassing attempt to snog one of your mates.