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Original poster

Need advice from a male perspective but am a single woman can anyone ask their other halves which is sexier under a skirt a thong or no knickers?

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arwen · 04/09/2009 20:13

Have met a very nice man after being a single parent for years, we are getting on very well and is all new and exciting.I feel like surprising him tomorrow but am aware that often men and women find different things sexy and have no men to ask! can anyone help?

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ConnieComplaint · 04/09/2009 20:16

Dh says no knickers... as long as it's not windy!

I say a thong if it's the 'first' time with him.... then lead up to knickerless...

So, a nice balanced opinion there then

AnyFucker · 04/09/2009 20:19

err, I am assuming you have already been "intimate" with this man?

you are not just going to turn up wearing no knickers if this is your second date is it ?

cos that could be kinda scary

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arwen · 04/09/2009 20:21

not the first time but all still very new. Haven't seen each other for a week and have been texting and chatting on the phone so expectations are high, just wanted to surprise him :-)I thought none at all but wondered if that would seem a bit porn star? Hence wanting the male opinion :-)

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dippymummyto2boys · 04/09/2009 20:23

DH says no thong!

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arwen · 04/09/2009 20:23

Don't think he'll be scared, based on our last w/e together I think he'll be thrilled! Wasn't sure if a thong is sexier though, not to me I hate my bum and think it makes it worse but I know he likes it.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 04/09/2009 20:25

FGS wear pants if it is still new.

No pants might not give the image you want.

Mamazon · 04/09/2009 20:26

Dp says nothing.

AnyFucker · 04/09/2009 20:27

arwen, I would be more thinking "what do you like?"

never mind him, after a long time as a single parent, please do not put him on a pedestal

that way, madness lies

just a thought, love, you sound a bit naive and rather too happy to please

please yourself

dippymummyto2boys · 04/09/2009 20:27

It depends what he likes - my DH doesn't like stockings & suspenders or sexy nightwear he just likes me to be naked! I hate my bum too, it is terrible saggy orange peel but I comfort myself that men don't tend to be too fussy.

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 04/09/2009 20:27

DH says No pants..

thisisyesterday · 04/09/2009 20:28

dp says no pants.

he doesn't like thongs at all, but said no knickers is good

Prunerz · 04/09/2009 20:28

No knickers
THongs are not sexy

Ewe · 04/09/2009 20:29

DP says french knickers, hates thongs and thinks no knickers is a bit trashy.

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puddytats · 04/09/2009 20:30

dp says nothing at all

oopsacoconut · 04/09/2009 20:30

My DH seems to be the opposite to every other man - he says things as it keeps a little mystery and something to peel off later.

Now why did I not know that was what he liked after 12 years?

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arwen · 04/09/2009 20:31

Fear not, I am most certainly not naive. he has no idea and won't be expecting anything. I want to surprise him and would rather not wear anything at all but if that was considered too much from the menfolk I would have restrained myself :-) Am hoping it's not windy

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midnightexpress · 04/09/2009 20:32

No knickers. I think a lot of men don't like thongs. And lots of women wear them, so there's nothng all that exciting about the simple fact that it is a thong rather than knickers. Whereas letting him know you're not wearing any knickers will no doubt add something of a frisson for him.

puddytats · 04/09/2009 20:32

dp also says assuming you are going to let him know..... otherwise pointless (bless his practical side

oopsacoconut · 04/09/2009 20:33

He also just added prety matching french knickers and bra would be FAB......... What has this question unlocked

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arwen · 04/09/2009 20:35

Never fear, I will choose an appropriate moment to let him know, He has seen it all before and the gorgeous silky underwear has been peeled off but tomorrow I just wanted to do something different.

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OrmIrian · 04/09/2009 20:39

No knickers apparently.

5inthebed · 04/09/2009 20:39

DH says thong

RoryGilmore · 04/09/2009 20:40

french knickers/