FAB & GLAM 10 - Gosh, Do We Really Talk That Much???

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Hi, new thread

Lovely to see all the old posters again. Don't go now you are back.

Annie/UC/MHIS - lovely to see you and thanks MHIS for the FB chat.

Well, I finally persuaded myself that it was a Bad Idea to get a kitten. All that climbing curtains, shredding furniture, pouncing on shoelaces, plus it's kinder to get two for company if you can't be there all the time (extra expense)... temptation successfully resisted.

So we got a cat instead.

Hi guys, thanks for all of your words of wisdom for me

All seems a bit insignificant with the news I have for you, so I will come back to me later...
(Tanee, we have decided to make time just for us a regular thing though, and I'm looking forward to it )

Well, I have just heard from our amazing friend TimeForMe. Things got particluarly bad at home for her around Christmas time and last week, she decided enough was enough and placed a call to Womens Aid. I dread to think how bad things were for her to have finally made the call as you all know how wise she is and how able she is to find a positive spin on even the most difficult of situations.

Fortunately, Women's Aid found her a place very quickly and she is now in a refuge with dd. She assures me she is ok, and is feeling 10st lighter now that she is out of there and able to see things more clearly.

I am so proud of her and the strength it must have taken to make that leap. I'm sure you all feel the same to.

I'm sure she'll be on to update us as soon as she can, but in the meantime she assures me that she is ok, the refuge are being amazing, and dd is so happy

Maybe not just yet of course, but I look forward to the day when we can finally get a meet up planned and to meet this amazing lady

Thanks for letting us know Baffy .
I hope now she is out of the madness she can find the happiness she deserves.
She has helped all of us so much, I hate to think of her going through all that on her own. You are right she really is amazing.
TFM if you are reading this - (((((HUGS)))))

Gosh, poor dear. I had no inkling things had turned bad. I agree that if anyone could have seen it through to a happy conclusion, TFM was that person; so if she couldn't work it out, no-one could have. Please send my best regards.

Thanks baffy
only just been able to get on here!

Give her my best wishes and that we are thinking of her.
Just let me know if there is anything i can do to help.
She helped save my life

If you are able TFM let us know how you are - you really are amazing.

And baffy - any further news updates welcome.

Thanks everyone

I have passed on all of your love and good wishes.

HW - she saved me too, stopped me from going insane on many an occasion!

Totally agree Annie, if anyone could have turned that situation around and made it work then TFM would have. I don't have the words to describe her P, and I know he will live to regret every single thing he's done.

Although, if it wasn't for him, we would have never 'met' TFM and I'm grateful for that! Just glad that she can now finally blossom with her lovely dd and I'm looking forward to having her words of wisdom and never ending jokes back on here
With real smiles this time

She said she will keep me posted so I'll let you know when I hear anything.

Gosh poor TFM and DD She had gone very quiet even for her, I do so hope she is now safe and happy, many positive, happy thoughts winging their way towards her xx

makes you put your own problems and worries into preceptive too.

Have a few wobbles of my own - will try and update sometime soon - but i too do know that i am going a bit quiet.

There that will keep you all in suspense wont it ?

I will be in London sometime over the Easter hols, if anyone is free/around for a catch up/moan...my sister's first baby is due this week, so will be up around then sometime! Will FB everyone

Hello everyone have just logged on properly for the first time in about a year & am very glad to see you are all still here & the wonderful f&g friends continue. Am going to be busy catching up with all your news but great to be back x (also sunshinegirl)

Hello OSJ

I was so close to texting you yesterday but I didn't want to text out of the blue!! You must be psychic! How's things?

HW - spill the beans!!

love to meet up mcd. Just tell us when and if i can i will.
Especially as i feel bad i didnt make it last time cos of the snow!

Have a dilema - my own lustful feelings that i can seem to ignore.

CANT - sorry Cant ignore !!!!

See my mind is all over the place

Must keep busy and pay extra attention to dc and dh.

Do have a busy weekend planned so that should help

Cold shower calling.

Ive even told dh - he is very understanding about it.

But what it has done has brought up some of the anger - he didnt give a sh** about me when he had such feelings.

Dh is being ever so nice - and that is making me feel even worse.

Probably just menopause .

I have felt like this before - think i just want to flirt but i also feel something has changed in me now - can i trust myself??. Of course i can .

Help me!!

No, you don't want to be doing anything like that, honey. You remember how much it hurt when H strayed, and what a huge effort it has been over several years to get things back on track after that stupid, stupid indiscretion. Even if you want to be the sort of person who could do that to your partner, knowing more than most people just how cruel it can be, surely you don't have the energy to go through all that reconstruction stuff again - this time having lost the moral high ground? Seriously, no, you don't. Whatever you may feel as if you're being tempted by, the bottom line is just a shag. No shag is worth that much trouble. If you can't absolutely trust yourself to resist temptation, then avoid opportunity, because if you do do anything you are gonna wish you hadn't, trust me.

Almost certainly menopause btw. It's yer 'ormones screaming "This is your last chance to conceive! Get some in, quick!!!" 'Ormones have a lot to answer for, the dirty things.

Does that help at all?

thanks yes

absolutly do not want more babies!

But maybe that is what my body is saying. Anyway can always blame it on the hormones!!

Its just so strange and really not like me at all and it has made me wonder - if i really do know myself at all these days.
Before affair i would have been able to walk away but now a tiny part (and at the moment thats in my knickers) just wants to know what it is like.

Too much thinking - just keep busy and think about all the spring...... oh no all that new life .

Yes its hormones.

Got lots of time with dh this weekend so that is good - going out with some friends too - maybe have a giggle about it with them too.

throws small jug of cold water over HW

its ok - feeling a lot better now.

Do you think it may well happen again though? Like hot flushes?

I will avoid
I will avoid
I will avoid

There are enough hormones flying around this place anyway. DS1 has at last let us meet his gf - we were getting worried in case he said it was a bf .

Like i said i think what unsettled me most was the fact that i wanted to feel those things and i really thought my morals were clearly defined. Weird.

Hi Everyone

I am just at my daughters for tea so have pinched the laptop!

Thank you for all of your good wishes it means such a lot to me. Your support is so welcome and appreciated, much more than you will ever know.

I am pleased to be able to tell you that me and DD are doing just fine, we are so happy. I cannot begin to tell you how happy we are. Such a lot has changed in the short time we have been in the refuge, I have certainly come a long way, I am unrecognizable from the woman I was when I first arrived. The support is wonderful. I feel so loved and cared for. I am actually now in a good enough position to be able to offer help and support to the other women in there, all of whom are quite a bit younger than me. I'm teaching them how to bake buns next week!

So, I am just fine. You know me, I will find a positive if I can

Tea is ready now so I have to go but I am thinking of you all.

Lots of Love XXX

wow has been very busy on here!

so sorry to hear how hard things had become for TFM , please do give her my love baffy.

Wayward hormones are kind of delicious, I must admit. It's hard not to keep dwelling on it, working it up on purpose because... ooh... Thing is though, it's the imagining that's the fun part, and that doesn't hurt anyone unless it gets out of hand. The reality is very likely to be a lot less exciting than the fantasy. I hear tell that Cary Grant was no great shakes in the bedroom department, and we all know about Rock Hudson. Enjoy the fantasy, but never, never let it be confused with reality. That way lies... well, you know what lies that way. Your morals know it too, they're just taking a bit of a holiday.

Glad to hear about DS1. Nice that he can trust you to meet his gf without frightening her off!

x post so glad to see you are still smiling TFM you really do deserve to be happy , much love to you and dd.

Damn this cross-posting lark...

(((((TFM)))))

and save a bun for me. No raisins in mine please.

How about a butterfly bun Annie?

Well, I've just had my first meal ever at my daughters and it was delicious! I could get used to this pampering!

Thank you again for all of your good wishes, it really does mean such a lot to me. I will keep in touch through Baffy

Going HOME now! Ahhhh bliss. Who would have thought a refuge could be more of a home than my home was.

Lots of love to you all xxx

TFM - you really do sound positive do keep us updated.

Yes I think it was just the morals wanting a holiday - feeling so much better now. I will in future just 'enjoy' my headspace and not 'overthink' it.

Thanks for the cold water - now all i need is a bun.