Hi Ginnny, no, not a problem at all .
Dior, have you considered coming with DS on the train? Hope you can, we'll make such a fuss of him, he'll love it! And I am SO looking forward to us all meeting up - I need a good girlie night out!
I'm having terrific fun at home - I have told DP that I want him to leave, so that DD can come home. I finally cracked after she spent the night at ours after a late gig on Friday, and he slammed the bedroom door so hard when he went to bed, just to make a silly, immature point about not wanting her around. She and I shared the spare bed and the next day he had the cheek to ask what happened to me, as he woke in the night to find himself alone! I am now sleeping in the spare room again (MY room!) and told him we are not a couple any more, (he agreed ) and that either he gets help, or we would never be a couple again. As usual he said I'm better off without him and let's sell the house. And I said fine, but in the short term, I want you to move out asap, so that DD can return. You are robbing me of my last, precious months with her and I've had enough.
Since then he's been very quiet, gone to the pub after work, come home and crept around being a polite stranger and drinking himself into oblivion before bed. He's also got a cold and I cannot feel sorry for him. I have emailed him any local rooms to let that I've found on Gumtree, but I suspect he won't lift a finger either to rent a room OR put the house on the market, and I can't afford to rent a flat for DD and me, so we're really rather stuck. It's a horrible feeling, a numbness and such a sadness.
But I will make a pretence of selling up - I want him to come home one day soon and find a For Sale board up. That'll show him I mean business! And his sisters are going to have a go at him over Christmas, as they've both been through depression, can speak to him from experience and know that the help is there, if he'd only seek it. They're worried sick about him since I finally told them what's been going on and exactly why DD moved out, and if they can't help him see how much he has to lose by staying within his sorry, depressed miasma, then I'm afraid no one can. I'm trying to keep myself thinking that it won't be that I have failed, but that HE has failed himself.
Anyway, whatever happens, I'm trying, trying and TRYING to think onwards and upwards...