Advice needed over dp's ex!!

[fifisboys]

To cut a long story short..

I live with my dp and we are engaged to be married next year. He has a 2 year old dd with his ex and she is refusing to let him bring her to meet me.
There is no reason behind it at all, she has even said she has no reason for it, other than she doesn't want her dd to be with me.

I was just wondering if, legally she can dictate who dp can introduce her dd to, and how we go about fighting this.

Qally - that's really well summed up.

99.99999999999999999999% of parents will go to the ends of the earth to protect their children from harm...

But, with some ex wives (and I guess ex husbands too), they are trying to protect their children from a danger they are imagining and only they percieve to be real.

And, in my case at least, these 'protection measures' are actually for the mother - not the child.

Take the daily phone calls... Should the mother have something better to do, she won't bother waiting in for the call. in fact, these calls only become important when SHE is alone....

I don't know. I don't see the point of putting people through this kind of grief just for the sake of a little romance.

I don't think it is completely an imagined risk.

www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/04/080422120304.htm

This is the only study of it's kind out there. I have a close relative who is a family counselor and his years of experience have led him to many of the same conclusions that I have.

i think pramspotter has a bit of a point. it is usually the man who cheats, it's usually the man who leaves his children behind to cop off with a younger/more attractive/less childbirth-addled woman so perhaps it's not that crazy to say that some men do have more concern for their libidos than their children. Not all, obviously, but definitely some.

But no one has denied that - I am still struggling why this should deprive the DC (who surely are the priority)of a relationship with their father!
It smacks of bitterness and revenge on the part of the mother (using her DC to "punish" the father for leaving)!

Now trust me having been in this situation, my XH treated me and my DD's appalingly (really really badly, he is EA to me and suspiciously to me DD1) - I still make every effort NOT to use my children to punish or manipulate him!

I just dont see why the mother is automatically the good guy??
I also dont see why any of this should deprive me (the mother) of having other new relationships!

I agree with Macdoodle.

I also don't believe that anyone - male or female - just walks away from a happy marriage.

Sorry, I just don't.

Thanks to all of you who have posted advice and help..i really appreciate it.

Dp has contacted a solicitor for advice and has been told that his ex has no legal right to stop him from bringing her to our house etc...
I can't believe some of the posts but for the record dp's ex could search the workd and would not find any reason at all for her dd not to be near me.

Good luck fifi
Sorry you got a lot hassle from some bonkers posters some posters. But rest assured there were many here that empathised and gave good advice. Might be worth posting in step parenting forums in future to avoid axe grinders daft advice in future