A frank word about norks. If there were a sex/body image topic I would post there.

[wickerman]

So I am in my late 30s with two kids. I am separated and in some need of a good seeing to.
My issue is this. Norks.
I breastfed for two years each, as well as a stay in hospital using a massive, farm stylee milking machine. My once fabulous high enormous norks are now deflated, sorry and flaccid.
I can pass muster in a bra, but, oh, my, once it's off, I fear I may cause the most jaunty of erections to subside.
DO men care as much as we do about the droopiness of our norks? Is it better to jauntily discard one's bra and say nothing? To forewarn? Or to keep one's bra on until things are on a firm footing as it were?

I would welcome comments from men as well as women who have surmounted this issue without either surgery or resignation to a life of celibacy.

CHEERS IA

x

[stuffitlllama]

or

get one of those weird supposedly sexy bras that aren't supposed to come off

[stuffitlllama]

oops

i don't feel that strongly about it

[morningpaper]

Fairmidden your DH sounds ace

I have the teeniest envelope flaps but I was greatly compforted by an Irish priest who informed me: "A mouthful is more than enough!"

Other than that I have a vast array of nice underwear

[Supercherry]

Oh and just to add, a person in a pub said to my DP that his ex had really big saggy boobs (wtf??) but my DP disagreed with them and defended her and afterwards said how bitchy the person was that said it.

[TheMitsubishiWarrioress]

Well....while we appear to be on an MN confessional, my marriage is over, my DS appears to have Aspergers symdrome, my insomnia is rampant, I have the serious hots for someone completely inapproptiate, and all i can think about is, well...y'know...... gah....

Must go running or clean the bathroom..

God, it felt GOOD to get that off my (pert and bejewelled) chest

[Divineintervention]

I am bf my last baby, he is number four, and my DH is thoroughly enjoying my bountiful breasts....they are helped by the fact that I have put on three stone. Anyway I am a good DD at present but will slip back to a tidy A (until the surgeon gets me!!). The good thing in when my breasts go my arse improves!!!
My DH is so delighted to be touching and/or looking at my breasts A-DD it doesn't matter.

[TheMitsubishiWarrioress]

So did they clone him by any chance DI?

[wickerman]

how did the irish priest KNOW
I thought they were celibate
or did the lord tell him

[Monkeyandbooba]

Are you feeling more self-confident this morning Wicker?

Re: comment about ex and 21 year old. I have far better sex in my 30s than in my 20s despite my body being less hot. I know what I like and I am not afraid to try new things and be more assertive - men like this IMHO.

[foxinsocks]

supercherry's quote 'My ex, who was a nasty bastard, even he was nice about them' has made me howl with laughter this morning lolol

I bet they are not half as bad as you think you know. And by gawd, I bet you are a demon in bed (compared to the 21 yr old one of your exes left you for).

Age does have some benefits you know and experience in bed, not to be sneezed at!

Treat yourself to some new underwear and spoil yourself a bit. You just sound a tad underconfident. I'll put money on you and whoever the lucky man turns out to be, being swept away by the desperation passion.

The longer you've been without sex, the more these concerns build up in your head. It's like riding a horse. Once you're back in the saddle, you'll be going like the clappers again. Now get thee back out there!

[foxinsocks]

and if you are who I think you are (and you may well not be) your breasts are magnificent!

[Lizzylou]

Oh yes, Figment, real women porn is big business. We stayed at DH's (then DP's) mates house once after a drunken night out and found in his bedside cabinet a massive stash of "Hot Housewives", "40+" type mags.
I was amazed, real women with real bodies. Must admit that I was fairly brazen that night, alcohol plus the realisation that I was normal and not that bad after all.
Be proud.

[QueentessentialShadow]

I am late thirties. (oh boy)
Of course I dont look like I did when I was early twenties. Neither does my husband.

I go the gym regularly, and there are communal changing rooms and communal showers, and as I go early in the morning, I get the morning "gym before work crowd". They all shower. So in the space of a week I see a whole lot of naked women of all ages. (though I am of course not looking)

I think there is beauty in any age. Sure, the older we get, we get droopier, our tummies may be more "sponge-like" than we want, we have stretchmarks, and not so pert breasts, but we also have maturity and the wisdom of motherhood. No man who falls in love with, and is contemplating sex with a mature woman, would expect to find the body of a 20 year old inside that packaging.

I find, that as I age and mature, the men I fancy are no longer the men I fancied when I was 20, ie 20 year olds, but men my age, and sometimes older. Not younger. Sure, we may dribble over some hot young actor, but that is not real? That is not we expect to find when we unravel a new lovers clothes the first time?

Our saggy breasts are a celebration of life as a woman and mother, can it be more feminine? Embrace it, for you have lived!

[wickerman]

cheers foxy. MAGNIFICENT. RAH!
{{{happy birthday for around now
i think? mwa mwa mwa mwa}}}

[foxinsocks]

lol you have a good memory! Cheers! xx

[TitsalinaBumsquash]

A word from DP here.

'Tits are great in what even form they come in big/small hanging low or sitting high, they are womanly, sexy and great.'

He is a breast man, can you tell?

[Divineintervention]

TMW.....you wouldn't want to clone him as in so many other ways he is but a wanker!!!
Reminds me of Lily Allen's song, only in reverse! (he does make me scream in bed but he is not so respectful.... can't win them all!)

[Divineintervention]

Sex I had in my early 20s was more about impressing men than pleasure... older men do work a lot harder don't they!?

[InternationalFlight]

Tits fill up again eventually.
Well mine did/
Now they are about to sink again as I stop feeding ds2...fa la la

[princessmel]

Just asked dh (he was at work) and he said
'it wouldn't matter'
I take that as a good thing.

I agree with whoever said that men in their late 30's will have their own hang ups. They may not be feeling super confident either.

[InternationalFlight]

oh and I have loved a few ugly bodied men

It was their minds, honestly, I grew to love their strange physiques. I try and turn that around iyswim

[mayorquimby]

if i'm honest it would be a turn off for me.

[OrmIrian]

Anyone remember a file in the 80s called 'Reuben Reuben'. Poet chap was regularly shagging a middle-aged lady but eyeing up young luscious creature on the side. During one encounter she took of her bra in a provocative manner to which his reponse was ;"Her breasts dropped liked hanged men".

Made me LOL like made when I was 20. Not LOLing now

[mrsshapelybottom]

Ah god I've been thinking about this a lot having recently become single again. Thanks to having 3 kids in a short space of time I now have some added ugly bits features: legs peppered with thread veins and varicose veins so they now look like they belong on an old lady, a permanently swollen right leg (see above for reason!) cellulite and a saggy tummy. For some reason my boobs have been spared but I am terrified at the thought of letting a man see me without clothes. One day my desperate need for a shag will surely outweigh my hangups

[fedup1981]

I really, truly bet they aren't as bad as you think, and even if they are, they will be absolutely normal. I think you need to get an idea of what other women's bodies are like after kids. This site is great for that.