Mine would also do the sighing and eye rolling , standing around looking sad until i asked him what was wrong. He victimised himself and constantly claimed people were " picking on him " at work. They werent, but he used this scenario repeatedly to get attention from me.
No one else got a look in, it was always about him.
I think i somehow became his substitute mother, his mum is a controlling domineering critical old cow, and in his warped mind i think he expected me to give him all the things his mother never did, ie unconditional love and support , immediate forgineness after each tantrum, like a mother does with a toddler.
As much as he looked like a man,, he wasnt, rather a 5 year old boy in a mans body. He was incapable of considering other peoples needs , only his own mattered and if they werent met there would be rages and tantrums.After each tantrum there would be a pathetic apology, almost childlike.
He would often scream at me that i didnt love him, and degrade himself so that i would say something complimentary to him.
Anyway, hes snow sniffing round anything in a skirt, looking for another mummy to look after him, who she is is unimportant to him, he will suck up attention in any form, anyone will do.
He also enjoyed setting people against each other , constantly bitching like a fishwife and would regularly tell me what he claimed people had said about me behind my back. He envied anyone who was better than him or had something he didnt.
And, like everyone else says, he didnt say that, im putting words in his mouth, i twist everything aparently, im impossible to talk to and better still i brainwashed him. When i was upset about the vile verbal assaults he would act exasperated and actually say " god, you take everything literally dont you ".
I now see that every crap quality he accused me of having were actually qualitys he had.In fact i once made a list of his good / bad qualitys and there werent many good ones.
However, i have noticed that certain charecteristics keep cropping up on this thread.
Mine was emotionally abusive , sexually abusive, verbally abusive, financially secretive and irresponsible, invades my privacy , insecure and needy , extremeley reckless driver , addicted to the internet, sucks up to people , is two faced , will exploit people for his own gain, exageraes and lies , attention seeker , enjoys pity partys , constantly demanded affection, bad relationship with his mother who hes terrified of , calls me names behind my back, enjoys upsetting me , takes from others what he lacks himself , is tight with money, is a hoarder ,is sexually derogatory about women in general ,, is a sneak and a snide , jealous of the kids , and he doesnt have a clue who he is,, he needs someone to tell him who to be.
Oh yes, and sexually he was like a teenager, always groping with inapropriate remarks, also had severe premature ejaculation.
Also highly amused when i went to the bathroom and would go on about it saying " did you enjoy your poo ". Also poor personal hygeine and thought it funny to do loud disgusting farts.
Wonder if he,d be best advertsing himself on adoption sites rather than dating sites !