My daughter has made allegations that my husband in abusing her, I can't find any support on the net. Please help!!!

[hurtandworried]

My 14 year old daughter has made a statement to the police that my husband has been inappropriatley touching her and making sexual advances towards her. Please tell me where I can get some support around how this is making me feel. I can't find anywhere on the net for this kind of thing.

No-one has used any stats.

Genuinely want to know what stats you are using to be so certain that more people lie about sexual crimes than endure them.

You must be able to see how nonsensical that claim is???

daftpunk - well said!

.. and I don't understand your post, onebat.

By hurtandworried on Fri 20-Feb-09 20:43:24
no only heard the husbands tapes

@ desiderata - re: your claim that "More people lie about sex crimes than endure them." - where do you get that from? How on earth can you know that?

[baffled]

thanks daftpunk and sadly, yes its for real

you know what?

when I thought MY child might have been sexually abused, i couldnt process much information atall whatsoever....let alone follow a fast moving thread like this.

on the strength of that and the weird mysoginistic rantings of saultanpepper...

i think h.a.w, you are 'shitting us'

"Studies of child abuse allegations suggest that the overall rate of false accusation is low, less than 10% as approximated based on multiple studies. Of the allegations determined to be false, only a small portion originated with the child, the studies showed; most false allegations originated with an adult bringing the accusations on behalf of a child, and of those, a large majority occurred in the context of divorce and child-custody battles." source

So not that likely then. Desi, as you said, professionals are very adept at sorting the wheat from the chaff, and the professionals appear to think this is wheat.

This, imo, is interesting:

dittany his 'reason' for lying about the drink was that he didnt want to make a crap situation any worse, not excusing him, just telling what he toldme

Seems you are keen to believe him, which of course means you can't completely believe your dd. Hope you aren't a troll because of the issues your post has raised for others. Assuming you aren't then I hope you find the strength to do the right thing and support your daughter, encourage her to proceed (rather than merely standing by to see what the outcome is) and help in a successful prosecution. I am completely about tapes being sent to your house.

thankyou Mme
and re question about maintenance, it was for his exwife and natural child

HAW, you have managed fine with your dodgy connection for over 7 hrs now. You only mention it when you are being challenged.

I note that you have been evasive regarding my assertions about the tape, the appropriate adult, interfering with witnesses, corroberative evidence and contamination of evidence. It now seems that you are rationalising rather well now you know redcardigans solicitor DH is listening in.

yes mollie, as am i whatever your face thing means, i was baffled but couldnt resist listening

Ah, but Molesworth, 'tis pretty standard MN fare, this

I am not a particularly emotional being. I tend to incline to the rational.

So, when I read a thread like this, where every woman is us supposed to come down on a bloke like a ton of bricks, I get my cynical hat on.

The OP is a troll. I knew if from the off-go, but I wanted to explore the irrational claims of sex abuse from adolescent girls who have never been abused.

Extremly upsetting from those who have, of course.

But this thread is bollocks.

When you are interviewed by the police they do give you the option to have a copy of the tape(s) sent to your home address. I am a bit surprised that the police wouldn't realise that it would be quite wrong to send these tapes to the family home under these circs, but, well, police incompetence has been known.

no way, i will gladly give the solicitor all names and addys of officers to research why tapes sent here etc
bad connection happens every time i try to send a post

Actually desi, I think most people on here have expressed concern about the OP backing up here DD primarily. It is not about coming down on the DH, it is about protecting the DD.

Desiderata, are you going to tell us less rational beings where you got that claim from or not?

Nab, this thread is upsetting you.

I think this person is a troll. I don't know why someone would do this, but I don't believe it.

I believe your story, I don't believe this one.

Arf, anyway. Is it really true charges could be dropped against an adult who has been accused of sexual abuse against someone who is underage, on the abused minor's say so alone - even though she wants the statement of facts to stand?

are you for real?? OMG!!

The means I find it difficult to believe that the tapes would have been sent to your home by the police knowing that it is your dd's home and knowing that your dh is not residing at home and also assuming that he had a solicitor present when he was interviewed. This mistake will cause all sorts of problems for the CPS and may be just the loophole your dh needs to get off the hook if he is guilty. You have not helped your dd one iota by listening to them, hence my .