My daughter has made allegations that my husband in abusing her, I can't find any support on the net. Please help!!!

[hurtandworried]

My 14 year old daughter has made a statement to the police that my husband has been inappropriatley touching her and making sexual advances towards her. Please tell me where I can get some support around how this is making me feel. I can't find anywhere on the net for this kind of thing.

Why does she not want criminal proceedings?

where are you nabster?
sorry, having connection probs again now!!

kent

I truly feel sick for you HAW. My own experience was horrible and the abuser was not a partner. I can't begin to imagine how this must feel for you.

Please consider contacting Mosac. You could copy and paste your original post here into the message box and just send it.

Of course you will have support here, but we aren't trained counsellors and I think that proper, non-judgmental, unbiased support from someone who has training and experience in supporting people in your situation would be invaluable to you right now.

True but you can't beat real life experience.

Reality - have I been very stupid?

She saw a tv prgramme a while ago about how sex offenders are treated in prison and doesnt think he deserves that as, in her words, he didnt actually hurt her and it didnt get that far

here is the link to the Mosac contact us page again

HAW I would at least try and be glad that your DD has at leastspoken out. My ex-boyfriend's sister attempted suicide on her 16th birthday. She had never told anyone that her Grandfather sexually abused her for four years (she was 8 when it started) There is obviously going to be damage from abuse, but it would be far worse if she just bottled it up and never told anyone.

Hurt doesn't have to mean physical pain.

Good advice reality, but I am about 200 miles from kent, but really appreciate the thought nabster

No nabster it doesnt but thats what dd meant, physical hurt

fattiemumma 'Please believe your daughter. unless there has been some animosity between her and her father recently then i see no reason why she would have made such an allegation up. if she is clealr and consistent in her story then im afraid, however improbable it must seem top you..she is far more likely to be telling the truth.'

dangerous words

why do you THINK there could recently be animosity

I really wish I could say what needs to be said.

annvan if its true then I am really glad and proud that she found the courage to speak out about it

frumpygrumpy for every one of you there are an awful lot of 14 year olds who are keeping VERY quiet about their dad

therein lies the problem

Why do you feel you can't nabster?

nabster please say it

Oh fgs, message to all the hmmers: if you think the OP is a troll, hide the thread.

Because I will lay myself bare and I am not sure it will help anyway.

Ria ????

or say it to me by email?