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[YummyMummy14]

Help, please. I have just discovered that my H has been looking at porn on the internet.... we have been married 2 years and have a 1 year old son; he has done this once before, before our DS was born and I only found out by chance when the pics came up on screen. I had a melt down at the time and felt totally devastated. He said it would stop and it did, till now. Have just confronted him on the phone (he;s at work) and he didn't deny it. I feel sick to the pit of my stomach and don't know what to do- I haven't told any friends as I'm too ashamed and embarrassed. I don't know what to do. I feel sick that he's looked at it since having a child. I freely admit that I don't look as good as I used to and that at the moment due to a lively, nocturnal baby we hardly ever have sex. But I though love and marriage were meant to go deeper than that. I feel like he is being unfaithful. I hate him and it makes me hate myself. PLEASE write something...

Oh, and Charlee...just caught up with the post about your ds....sorry to hear of his problems and his infection...must be very difficult for you all...

yummymummy I do appreciate that it's upsetting for you and you are not silly or whatever else people have said for feeling that way.

Are you able to have a discussion with your DH when you are feeling a bit calmer about the whole thing?

Beacuse that may be the best way forward for you.

thanks slut x

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< has to eat words about not using terms that are derogatory to women >

I agree sayithowitis, that leaving pics on shared computer is not on, and rather aggressive

but the feeling I get is that he is just a thoughtless feckwit, rather than "forcing" anything on the OP

lol AnyFucker

Hmmm, mine used to view it all the time, now he has his x box and call of duty 5 (grin).
Cant say im bothered by it, myself and friends used to laugh about it, where the men had hidden their porn tapes, what was on there etc. My dp always had something involving 'big, bouncy .....'. I dont think your going to get much joy banning him from it, maybe watch it together......

sorry, hadn't read all thread when revisited, didn't see that there had been a discussion on the calibre of woman who gets her fanjo out for the internet

Unfortunately, I don't know what the answer is either
but I have noticed this type of thread coming up about once a month.

Maybe it is a case of just needing to rekindle things post-baby?

I would watch it with him, you may enjoy it

susie100, you can tell she doesn't want to watch it..why say that?

It is a suggestionand worked well for me in a similar situation.Rather than feeling that it is something he is doing in secret, instead of being with he, shameful and dirty etc etc. Watch it together, she may enjoy it and then it can become part of a normal sexual relationship (i.e. not watching it all the time, in secret)

what gets me in these situations is often its lack of ebergy or time on the womans part. If instead of saying oh well I need to look at por as i need an outlet they tried to make life easier for their partner they're more likely to get more sex.
I know when I'm tireder im not up for it so much and often all it takes is a littele more help, support and attention from dh.

scuse the typing i have a weighty 2 yr old just gone to sleep pn my typing arm