Wow I?ve missed lots! Lilybubble, great to hear from you. I was actually going to post the other day asking if anyone had heard from you, cashncarry, paddlechick or TFM. I always think people are probably lurking but RL has taken over
Glad you?re doing so well and H is managing to stay a big part of dd?s life. I can?t believe how far we?ve all come since those first threads, I think me, you and Ernest went through it at almost exactly the same time, and look how differently things have turned out for all 3 of us just 2 years on!
That thread sounds horrible ? I think I?m going to go and have to read it out of curiosity though!
WW I loved your comment ? ?The thing is F & Gs have been on both sides of the fence some have been the OW too havent they, it isnt just a club for "wronged wives" but we all take responsibility for our actions, acknowledge the effect our behaviour has on other people and dont behave as though we live in a vacuum where what WE want is all that matters.? Very true!
LL how are you doing?
Ginny I hope things are ok with dp. I don?t blame you at all for how you feel. Just because you worry about his drinking and the effect on you and the boys, doesn?t mean you care any less about him or his mum or what he?s going through. You?re only human!
Tanee ? those girly summers sound great! Perhaps you can still have that to a degree while he goes to work, and then have the long summer evenings in the garden with him. Best of both worlds!
I?m feeling really well at the moment. Ds and I were lying in bed this morning feeling the baby kick and we were both getting really excited. He?s so loving and affectionate. Always kissing and hugging me, and now the bump gets it?s own kisses and hugs as well.
Really really struggling with everything with H at the moment though. He?s still sticking to his word and doing all he can. But I am finding it so so hard with OW and the baby in the equation. Never knowing if he?s there. Torturing myself when the 3 of them are out together taking the baby to get weighed or whatever. I hate her so so much. It's so destructive the way I feel, but I can't help it. My son wasn't that much older than her baby when she ripped my life apart and said 'well I don't know what the big deal is, you have your family and friends, just get over it!'
I had another rant and cry at H the other night because it all got too much again. He said did I want him to walk away and never see any of them again. That me and the boys mean everything to him and if that?s what it takes then he?ll do it.
I can?t ask him to walk away from his own daughter can I. It?s not that poor child?s fault. She deserves her dad in her life as much as my children do.
It?s just an absolutely impossible situation. OW has called the CSA, who have been in touch with H. He has said he is more than happy to support the baby financially, but as he?s not been named on the birth certificate he wants a paternity test to be absolutely certain she is his. CSA accept that and that?s fine. OW said that if he insists on a paternity test then he will never see the baby again!!
Thing is, although there?s clearly that element of doubt (made worse by her reluctance to have the test), I?m almost certain it?s his. It?s just that we may all be putting ourselves through this for absolutely nothing if she?s not his.
We just need to know for sure!
But that stupid cow can?t see it. Her response was ?don?t you dare put me and your daughter through that?. Er, through what?! A 2 second paternity test so that your daughter can be certain who her real father is and have a relationship with him?
Arghhhhhhhh!!!
Anyone heard from sugar?