FAB & GLAM PART 9 - DOES IT GET BETTER NOW!!

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Started new thread guys as needed to post and old one wouldnt let me - sorry if name is bit miserable but thats how am feeling !

The police have just left
It all went tits up tonight - H found out/suspected about NM and lost it completely - was physically abusive and took my phone - best friend called the police!
Has been a hell of a night - long statement - excellent police man - who says should have called them a long time ago - gonna get the domestic violence team to ring me tomorrow - he will be arrested and probably cautioned - he seems really worried it will escalate - has put a marker on the phone for an immediate response, has adviced me to change the locks and go away for a bit if I can, and they will look at putting an alarm in the house
There is still a part of me that feels I am over reacting/is all my fault - even though an experienced police oficer is not happy about the situation!
What a mess my life has turned into

That's great Baffy It will be lovely to say "my boys" don't you think. Had bloods today. Still no booking in appt. and probably won't have one for weeks, so no allocated m/w. Oh well.

Wine tasting sounded like it was fun Tanee I did some in Sancerre and loved it, but we were driving so couldn't go for it in a big way. Would like to do it again, maybe in London (anyone heard of Vineapolis?)and after my pregnancy - of course.

So glad the week is over. It's been so busy.
Hope everyone has a good weekend.

baffy just b careful, she may be able to come after you for the money, just make sure you get your finacial rights sorted out.

hi girls,

Just a quick update.

Heard nothing all week from police but i know they are doing the work as they are worried this person is a big time peodo.

Am absolutely fuming at social services. Got a letter from them couple of days ago stating they had been contacted by pc plod and that because i took appropriate and immediate action to protect my dd that they have decided not to take action against me?? WTF .

I have told my mother that she needs to monitor my dc's when she has them as this all happened when they stayed with her over the half term. Mother is now moaning that her mobile bill has come in very high as dd1 used it to talk to her friend for 1 hour. I dont think im unreasonable to think its my mums own fault for allowing dd1 to have free rein on mothers mobile phone.

So been a bad week my son would have been 20 this week .

Im sorry very self indulgent. I'll be back next week. Feeling less sorry for self and ready to help!

sugar that is dreadful - so you inform police and becuase you have not kept an eye on your dc 24/7 social services would have had a case against you.

What sort of world do we live in - i got a 'funny' email the other day about how common sense had finally died - it seems it is true.

Hope you have a good weekend anyway.

Sugar am totally and at SS. These are the people you are supposed to rely on in the situation you found yourself in recently, yet rather than help you they instead take a blame angle. FFS I work with SWs but in MH and thank feck they are not like that. I would so not want to work in Child Protection. Anyway, how is your dd? I think your mum is being unreasonable as well to moan about her bill when she allowed free access to her phone. I suppose that's her lesson learned!

Nothing new to add. Still nervous about scan on Monday. Hard to believe baby is still alive what with this constant bleeding but I still have symptoms and I guess I have to try to be optimistic. Tis very hard though

Ladylush - I went to Vineapolis with my Mum a few years ago and it is great. I was very keen on the gin section although the wine tasting went down well too!! It wasn't much fun trying to negotiate the tube while feeling a bit tipsy though! I'm such a country bumpkin I get really confused on the underground!!
Baffy - clever you for holding onto the finances. It won't be long before she starts demanding money and you will have the upper hand. What a lovely dream - it really is lovely having 2 boys (although I am a bit biased that way aren't I !
Sugar - I have been thinking of you this week. at SS. Cheeky b**s!! How did dd take the news that you knew about it all?
about your ds. It never goes away does it. I would have a 19 and a 17 year old if things had been different, but then again I wouldn't have had my lovely boys but it still makes me think every year.

Sugar - I didn't want to probe about your ds. I am newer to the thread. Just wanted to extend my sympathy

Ginnny - I'm a Londoner but I hate the tube and avoid it as best as I can. So you liked the gin section......how apt

Vineapolis sounds great, I think we need a meet-up there!

LL I hope you're ok. I know it must be hard but you're doing great. Let us know how tomorrow goes.

Sugar, am and for you at ss. How awful. Do let us know how you are xx

p.s. HW I remembered you saying about that, and macd's warnings about OW and what she can claim too. I have a great financial advisor and have spoken to a solicitor friend about it all. The way the accounts are at the moment is my first step to sorting it out once and for all. Especially while the divorce is still up in the air. But whatever happens, I did listen I promise and I'm sorting it out. She won't be getting a penny off me.

good for you baffy - i do just worry about it thats all.

I have had some friends who have had some awful experiences with money and divorce and i would hate for you to lose out in anyway.

Baffy - wise words from our relationship guru HW I agree. Crucial to safeguard yours and your boys future.

Spent the week and most of the weekend fearing the worst at my scan. Had been using the dopplers but with no success, then last night I was more patient and tried for longer. I found the hb Honestly MacD. I really did It wasn't mine, it wasn't blood flow. It was a fetal hb at 148 bpm. I got dh to listen as well and he agreed - he became expert at listening to hb through my tummy when I was much later on in pg with ds. It was quite faint, but defo there. So at least I could sleep last night. Just as well as I had lots of bleeding today when I was at work. Scan went well. Nuchal translucency good at 1.60 but could not assess risk as blood results not back. Will know by Thursday. All looked good with baby. Has grown well etc. Moving about. Very relieved but still taking one day at a time as full result not available yet.

Hope everyone else ok. Sorry I am so self-absorbed right now. Will be more attentive soon hopefully

Macd and Hw - I won't be using the dopplers every day. It's just for those times when I get that awful feeling baby has died - which is usually about 2 weeks after a scan. Then at 16-18 weeks I will probably start to feel movements, so won't need to use it much then.

LL you have just cheered up a very glum day for me - every week is a week closer and safer

Thanks MacD Yes, the sonographer said my pg is viable and low risk. Great to hear

lush - could they see a reason for the bleeding at all.
I ask as sometimes there is a cause that can be seen on u/s and it can be reasurring to know that.

Even when you know all the answers - ie u/s will not stop problems you still worry like mad.

I know it is easier for me to say but do try and relax a bit, stress and worry are far worse than some of the other nasties you have probably given up on - such as the odd glass of wine .

And wait until they become teenagers - even more to worry about then - have a very hormonal dd who has no interest in school and we are fighting the homework battle all the time.

Glad the pg is going well LLush. Sorry to hear you are still bleeding, but at least the professionals are not too concerned. Keep your chin up .

Thanks HW and Dior HW in previous scans cause of bleeding was a subchorionic haematoma. Think it must still be that. Sonographer could not see anything today but said they often wouldn't be able to see anything in an abdominal scan.

Guys can you have a look and thoughts here as you lot know the back history the best !

LL just popping in to see how you got on so it is good news.
I hope you can become more at ease with this pg as time progresses.

McD will take a look.

Meant to say...good news LL

MacD - posted. Thinking of you.

Thanks LL and WW

That's great news LL. Sounds like this lo is a little fighter!
MacD - I've posted on your thread. that he is still being such an arse.
I just watched the programme on Jade Goody and saw the clips of the MN thread on there. Wily - you are famous, don't let it go to your head though !

Thanks ginnny I think it is too
What's this about mn on Jade programme? Did WW start a thread about her? Must have missed that.

I only saw a bit of it. It was about how what has happened to Jade has made more women go for smear tests and it showed a clip of the thread on here ... and there she was!
I wanted to shout out "ooh I know her" but didn't want to out myself as dp doesn't know I still go on here

Aha, a closet mner How are things going with dp at the moment? Have you still managed to stay away from cigs?