Started seeing a new lad, have no idea how interested he is and its driving me mad!

[allgonebellyup]

We've only been seeing each other a couple of weeks, he is younger than me (23 to my 29)and he lives at home with his parents.
We have slept together twice already (ooops!)and i really like him.
When we are together he is really affectionate, always kissing me/my hair, and holding my hand etc.

Then when we are apart he never texts or calls me at all. If i text him first he will nearly always reply and if i call he will happily chat on the phone.
But if i leave it up to him i dont hear a thing!!
Its doing my head in, i dont know if i am just a quick fling or if he really likes me?

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You could ask him maybe?

You can't know if he's not bothering or if he's trying not to be a pest, only time will tell but DON'T push the issue

erm...its only been a couple of weeks, can you not just try and enjoy yourself? He may be picking up on your anxiety and you wouldn't want him to think you were desperate.

This is going to be REALLY hard, but try not to text or call him for a few days. Each day will seem like the longest day ever, but DO NOT give in. Then, when he contacts you, you will get the biggest rush, because I'm sure he will contact you. It's all a power game at the beginning even though people often don't realise that's what they're doing. You don't want to be the one always contacting as it will make you look needy.

Flier, its not brutal, i keep saying the same thing to myself!!!!

i did just kind of ask him by text if he was gonna muck me around (!! cringe!!) and he said "even if he didnt want to be with me he wouldnt muck me around."

God, i hate appearing desperate, i am just sick of all these flings i have been having lately where they just want a shag, lol.

ok will not text or call him for at least a couple of days, we are meant to be going out for posh meal at weekend so hopefully he wont forget that!

Having said that, he did just text me back for about the 9th time this afternoon..

It sounds like its going well then. I think he might be enjoying the attention. He might think hes getting the bumsrush himself if you just completely stop with no explaination. How about a middleground until you are more sure of him.

well i'd back off tbh. won't do him any harm to do a little of the chasing. if he doesn't contact you, then you know!

Don't text him.

ok, starting from.... now!
Lets see how long it takes him to contact me, i will keep you updated!!!

x

allgone..
before you first slept together did he text/call you first?

nah, well we were in contact by email mostly, and he does email a lot!!

he just texted me 2 mins ago asking to see me fri night as well as sat, so thats good?!

and it was me both times who started the sex, he was trying to be a gent i think.

that's fab!!
no worries then!!
ENJOY

14 minutes since the text ban.

You have nothing to worry about!

yeah but to be honest i think it was cos he was responding to a text i sent earlier on.

NOW my text ban really starts, lol!!
plus i will leave my phone at home tomorrow when i go to work so am not tempted!

ooh you're brave
mine has become an extension of my arm a bit like a man and the tv remote control lol!!

actually i love being away from my phone, it makes me feel free!!!

who you trying to kid lol!!

no word since about 8pm last night

what if he never gets in contact??? that will mean the weekend is blown out the water.

:-(

did you leave phone at home today?
resist the urge if you can
and i above most know how hard and horrible it is aagghhh!!
what is it with men and their bloody phones?

yeah i did and just got home from work.
i will NOT text him!!

oh lord am thinking of you
ffs we're grown women!!
don't we get into some state over men?
saying that thou my boyfriend accidentally blocked me on his phone recently
and obviously was a bit worried when he hadn't heard from me for three days

hmmmphh

am feeling and

he is a bastard