Started seeing a new lad, have no idea how interested he is and its driving me mad!

[allgonebellyup]

We've only been seeing each other a couple of weeks, he is younger than me (23 to my 29)and he lives at home with his parents.
We have slept together twice already (ooops!)and i really like him.
When we are together he is really affectionate, always kissing me/my hair, and holding my hand etc.

Then when we are apart he never texts or calls me at all. If i text him first he will nearly always reply and if i call he will happily chat on the phone.
But if i leave it up to him i dont hear a thing!!
Its doing my head in, i dont know if i am just a quick fling or if he really likes me?

then CHILL!!
just enjoy it
and do keep doing all those other things
going out with all your usual friends
hope ofsted goes ok

thanks..am feelin cool about it all at the mo. Not about ofsted though!! Aaaaaaaaaagghh!!!

no dont blame you!!
its only some jobsworth's view thou
and isn't a true reflection of what really goes on
think most parents know that

yay, ofsted gone and gave us a brilliant report!

And blokey texted me yesterday by himself with no prompting!

We werent meant to be meeting until next weekend but he has asked to see me sooner, yay!

and am going out tonight with old friends plus new friends i have made at work! (only been at this job 8 weeks)

Have not read the whole thread. But on the whole, I would be a bit suspicious of a guy who never texts or calls. I would ignore him for as long as it takes, and see what happens. Whatever you do, don't text or call him (too much) as most guys hate this IME.

When I met my DH he called/ texted incessantly. He even came to see me at 3am one morning because he wanted to see me! I was a bit unhappy about that, mind as I like my sleep!

he does text though! just not as often as i would like!

my ex used to hassle me with texts all the time when we met and it did do my head in! so i am really not going to hassle new guy! anyway he is out in london with this mates this weekend so he will probably meet someone else

well i hope not!

It is very difficult. But you have to take the approach that it will be his loss if he sees anyone else! Don't let him think/ know you care or are sat at home thinking about him (even if you do!)

What are you up to this weekend? If you can get to go out as well, play that up.

oh i AM going out tonight! read a tiny bit further down the thread!

Sorry allgonebelly up!! I am a notiously bad skim reader Have a great night out!

all good news, excellent!

quick update: he has suddenly started sending me texts which say he thinks he misses me and i have hijacked his thoughts!! We are spending all weekend together from tomorrow and he wants to take me out for the meal on saturday!!

trouble is now, im not quite so keen as i was! i wish he would get a job for a start!!

Maybe you can encourage him over the weekend to find a job?

When I met dp I had dd1 and a job and he had been made redundant (we were very young then.....only 19) anyway he didn't have prospects at that age tbvh BUT since then when I asked him to move in with me I said it was on the condition that he got a job and helped me pay the bills etc and we'd be in it together and he has done really well now we're both 27 and we both work hard and earn quite a bit compared to back then so just because he doesn't have a job now doesn't mean he's a loser.

What kind of jobs has he been doing? Has he got potential? Does he have ambition?

Actually, update of the day no.2 :

on facebook he is always chatting up other girls in full view of everyone; it seems when he went to london for the weekend just gone he met a new girl and is arranging (publicly) to meet up with her, after she is going on and on about how sexy he is.

Why does this keep on happening to me?

feel ashamed but i am crying now, just had to tell him to sling his hook, and he didnt even seem particularly bothered, just carried on writing on his facebook.

this is the third "fling" that has lasted less than a month since my marriage break up.

Think there is something wrong with me.

I doubt there's anything wrong with you. Why should there be? He wasn't serious, that's all. Time to line up some more dates.

no there isnt, fwiw it happens to me too

no. i am not going near a man for a veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery long time

Why?

there is nothing wrong with not dating, as long as it isnt because of the way someone has made you feel

could you not just have a fling without wanting anything serious?

just caught up
there is nothing wrong with you at all
it is them
do so hope that you're not beating yourself up about this
it sounds as thou he's another one of those
emotionally unavailable men
as well as being a PRICK

Hmmmm... think whenever something goes wrong you do need to look at your own responsibilty in it all.

Its too easy to say 'he is a prick - I'll find another one'

I'm not saying there wasn't fault on his side, but there is nothing you can do about that. The onlt thing you can change is how you act.

I don't know anything about you, except from this thread. But maybe you are coming across as needy and are too quick to put all your eggs in one basket. Give anyone your heart too quickly, and its easy for them to break it. Maybe rasing the bar a little will help you not be in the same situaiton next time?