I caught him in the action!!!! am i wrong being annoyed with him??/

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Its been 2 days since i got up early to see to my dd at 5am i left dp in bed and gave dd a bottle, at 7.30 i went upstairs to wake dp to find him having just spanked the monkey!!!! clearing up with a towel! i was sickened and walked away since then he blanks me out and says im pathetic.should i ignore it?

why are you so sickened?

how odd

Sorry, what's the big deal? Is self-love banned in your house?

sorry didnt mean to sound so blunt but what is it about the situation that has made you so embarassed -dp is dd's father I assume so you've been together a while, been through childbirth etc and are not in new relationship phase?

sorry didnt mean to sound so blunt but what is it about the situation that has made you so embarassed -dp is dd's father I assume so you've been together a while, been through childbirth etc and are not in new relationship phase?

so what?

why would you have a problem with it?

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i feel unwanted, and im a very insecure person! im so down its unbearable!

I'd just make sure he did the laundry.

plus he was cleaning up.. I can understand if you were sickened if he hadn't and you'd got back into bed..

I'd be more irritated about the extra laundry, tell him to use loo roll next time.

Did he put the towel back on the rail?

can I ask is your dd quite little (am assumign so) and has it left you feeling a bit unattractive? It does seem a very extreme reaction for what is pretty normal and doesnt mean that you are not wanted/loved.. more that dp has an excess supply he is sorting out.

Dont see the problem at all!

a towel?!
Must have been building up for some time..

How bizarre.

Is he not allowed to wank then?

the responses to this fall into two camps Op

mumsnet appears to be predominantly in one!

I do sympathise as i too would feel hurt and unloved

have you tried to broach the subject?

we have 2 kids together , i have 2 from previous relationship too, with our first baby he was texting women with x rated texts and calls,it all stopped after arguements then he was on porn on internet and chatrooms, then it all stopped again after rows now he is self pleasing as you call it what the hell have i done wrong???

'tis natural, zillions of people do it and it doesn't make you go blind.

as long as he cleans up after himself then i don't see a problem

He is blanking you ? Why ? (or he's firing blanks at you)

He should have his eyes checked as this kind of behaviour can make you blind.

partof the humphreys group , no we are normally very sexually active together! 2-3 times or more a week.

Why would you feel hurt and unloved?

Is self-love a hostile act?

you are feeling insecure about much more than this then i think.