I caught him in the action!!!! am i wrong being annoyed with him??/

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Its been 2 days since i got up early to see to my dd at 5am i left dp in bed and gave dd a bottle, at 7.30 i went upstairs to wake dp to find him having just spanked the monkey!!!! clearing up with a towel! i was sickened and walked away since then he blanks me out and says im pathetic.should i ignore it?

all sorted we had a good chat and kissed and made up thank you all so much to those who helped and to those that thought it was funny then"frankly i don't give a damn" x

To be honest, I think I would feel similar to you (OP) but then I recognise that I am very insecure (as you do too)

I also realise that its not an issue but it would bother me (for a couple of hours) and upset me (for a bit).

I always think that its something that he could do if I were not around, rather than in preference to me (if that makes sense?)

I used to be a bit weird about it but have found it helpful to make fun of it. If DH spends a long time in the shower I will now say "had a wank?!" and we tend to laugh about it. Obviously not with children around!

Glad you sorted it - you sound much happier!

you shouldn't kid yourselves that "spanking monkey" is an "adequate substitute". Just thought I should put a male point of view in the mix.

"What is he supposed to do with morning wood?" err..how about give his dw a good time?! Op glad you had a good chat about it and you're feeling better. Hope he offers you the chance to hop on or politely decline in future! good luck.

Dont ge? too upset, if you have a young baby and a loss of sex drive he is prob missing the sex you did have b4 the birth of your child. Hope you will rekindle the passion you one had and he doesnt need to use the manual release. I know how you feel; you just feel he prefers to do it to himself than to you... but its prob not that at all. He prob just has a lot more sex drive than you ... AT THE MOMENT ! I found that a year after i had a baby i started to feel like more sex again. The first few months after giving birth it really hurt , and now i am as keen as ever.
LOTS of luck !!

I can understand why you would be upset,if your Dh is not giving the attention you need then fair enough. If however you have a loving and fullfilled sexual reltionship then dont be worried.
I caught my Dh in shower when we were having problems and it upset me like you. Now everything is back on track it doesnt worry me. I do it so why shouldnt he

Tis quite normal for him to do that.
Porn is also normal.

gad, don't turn this into a porn thread

ham shanks are perfectly normal imo

thanks maltesers but i can honestly say i have no loss of sex drive mine is actually higher than his.

wanking wouldn't bother me. Porn and chat rooms would. Glad you have talked and sorted things out.