I caught him in the action!!!! am i wrong being annoyed with him??/

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Its been 2 days since i got up early to see to my dd at 5am i left dp in bed and gave dd a bottle, at 7.30 i went upstairs to wake dp to find him having just spanked the monkey!!!! clearing up with a towel! i was sickened and walked away since then he blanks me out and says im pathetic.should i ignore it?

dittany that thought did cross my mind after I'd tried to be nice about what is frankly a bizarre worry (in op situation I'd be more pissed off about 2 hours of lost sleep and sleeping in the wet patch)

lol lol lol Partofthehumphreyeyesgroup and i have had a rough day so for that i thank you

im not a troll ive been using this site for 5 years i have changed my name.

Oh my goodness op!! You are being most irrational. As for feeling 'hurt and unloved', that's just crazy!

Imo, all blokes wank now and then, no matter how much sex they're getting. And don't most women too???

You have done nothing wrong. Its nothing to do with how he feels about you, he was merely sratching an itch. Nothing more.
All men do it - and at least he cleared up.
Personally I'd feel happier about that than the porn and chatrooms.

At least he cleaned up after himself

yeah he left the towel on the floor!!!

'Tis normal, just a biological thing, not connected to his feelings for you.

Hmm,
Having been in a relationship with the sort of charmer who texted women and looked at porn/did chatrooms (not any more), I cant help but say to the OP:
You did nothing wrong but it appears he is completely ignoring your needs.

Look, sex with another person is about both of you, so when he has sex with you, he is thinking of your pleasure, trying to control himself (iyswim) etc. And that's great.

Masturbation is totally for him, he doesn't have to make sure you orgasm, or that he doesn't! , it's just wam bam thank you hand.

The fact that he enjoys giving himself a quick orgasm does not mean he doesn't love you or fancy you, it's totally normal. He was just seeking a little selfish pleasure. There's nothing wrong with that.

There's no need to make him feel dirty or wrong, that's just going to have a negative impact on your relationship.

He is probably blanking you as he can't see what the problem was.

Tell him you feel unwanted when he masturbates.

I think you need to have a look at your relationship.

Dittany, I'd suggest a Rabbit by the bed.

dittany please dont take the pee! if you had been throught the same crap as i have then please just stop!

Tell him to do it in the shower next time but it sounds pretty harmless to me. I guess in your situation, the previous stuff makes you a bit more sensitive.

lol at this thread, i wish dh would do it hiself (would save me a job)

lets just say ive been to hell and back with my first relationship he wanted to be a she.

thanks marne! NOT

Surely most adult men would use a tissue to contain it so to speak instead of letting it all go and mop up afterwards?

Or have I just dated fastidious men?

"He is probably blanking you as he can't see what the problem was."

Shit, my mother was right, it DOES make you go blind.......

To answer your question yes you're totally wrong to be annoyed with him. Whatever yor previous experiences you are totally out of order to make him feel in any way uncomfortable about what is a completely natural and personal process. If you feel hurt and unloved by the fact that he masturbates thats your problem not his and something you need to resolve - hopefully with his support and help. As someone else said, its you bringing the negativity to this situation not him.

the last one in bed always has the ten-minute self-love slot in my house

we squabble about that

the fact that he masturbates is a completely separate issue from any relationship problems you have, surely?

was he masturbating to porn online , or to someone on webcam?

if not i think yabu not to think he may want to sort himself out once in a while, it's human nature

I had to read that 3 times to get it, KS!