I've just received a text from MIL which I think was meant for DH and it has upset me.

[Thishasupsetme]

The message said 'Looking forward to Sunday, I'll pick you and DGD up at 1.30pm for X's christening, remember not to mention it to DW'
DH has told me that he is going to take DD out for a few hours on Saturday to give me some time to myself, but it looks like he is going to his family members christening and I am not invited.
I didn't know I had upset anyone. DD was christed 6 months ago now and all of his family were invited and his cousin is DD godmother.
I am really upset. I don't know if I should mention it to him or hust leave it.

I think I would ring the Godmother

and depending on her explanation he might get back to find his bags were packed!

and for you Thishasupsetme.

I hope he's pissed off to his mates because he's too shamefaced to face you.

I'd be telling him to get home now and explain himself or he might as well go straight to his mothers and stay there.

I wouldn't contact christening woman atm.

But do you think D might have gone to MILs on way home? Are the friends v good friends with you?

I think you're probably right, Mascara. He's round at his mothers getting his story straight.

Ring the friends he's meant to be playing games with and see if he's there. If he is, tell him to get his sorry arse home NOW. If he's not - you know where you'll find him.

I don't think MIL will apologise and if she does at all it will be a grudging one.

Controlling people like this MIL that thishasupsetme is lumbered with though don't admit any wrong doing either.

Call of Duty is indeed a video game.

Off the top of my head I cannot think of any other time that mil has done anything similar. Although she did have a stop re our wedding seating arrangements fgs. Mil and Fil seperated and remarried when Dh was really young and mil didn't want FIl and Smil at the top table, only her and Sfil. I couldn't have cared less tbh, so I let DH decide what he wanted to do.

We nearly ran away to gretna green cos of her interfeering. DH couldn't cope with her.

Gosh, I would be livid if my husband did this to me. Agree completely with georgiemum re: loyalty. His behaviour is appalling - don't let this go without a satisfactory conclusion!

no-one replies to every post, don't worry. We are all on your side

I would ring him and say "this is more important than your game, I would like you to come home so that we can discuss this"

Don't speak to anyone until you've spoken to your dh!

You don't need to reply to every post Thishasupsetme.

The fact he has gone to play games instead of coming home would drive me to want to strangle the lying little shit to be honest.
Agree, bet he is bricking himself.

Attila - how do you KNOW the call of duty is a video game? It was only offered as an example - not confirmed on this thread? O do you know of THUM' story?

If friends are good ones, i would call 'innocently' and see if there. and if he isn't call him on his mobile and say 'can you come and talk o ME please - i am your partner, not MIL'.

Don't call or otherwise contact DD's godmother. It is up to her to call you and apologize for the inexcusable rudeness of expecting your DH & DD to attend an event she purposefully excluded you from.

Keep your head up high. DON'T call and cry on the phone. Whatever you say, it will sound like "What did I do wrong, just tell me, and I will do anything to get back in your good graces". Not good.

MIL wants it to be all about her; this overwhelming need for control is causing your family immense difficulties. I would have no compunciton about cutting such a vindictive family member out but writing that is one thing, actually making a break is quite another.

Do read "Toxic Inlaws".

You have every right to be upset, agree that your DH is prob with MIL.
Really hope you get to bottom of this, I would be fuming.

Blu, she means the very well-known game "Call of Duty" I think

I am so sad and cross on your behalf. Your dh had better have a damned good explanation because his treatment of you is shite in the extreme.

It is a game Blu
Google it

Rather ironic don't you think
Should his "call of duty" not be to come home to his wife whom he has betrayed??

MIL has dropped him right in the blardy mess - if, and thats a big if he has any sense he will never ever go along with his mother again and get into trouble at home where his loyalty now lies with his wife.

Hopefully he will learn his lesson on this occasion and never go behind your bac again.

He is avaioding coming home as he is craping it... for you

I second everyone else who said that MIL did this on purpose - What a cow.

Agree that H should get his arse back and get his sorted asap - although I also suspect that he is round at his mothers trying to getthe story straight...Dick

I think I would phone your DH and tell home he is to come straight home, his social life can wait.

Oh. I am a last century dolt .

He wants his arse busting and liquidising.

I know it's not helpful, but I would be loading his shit into binbags right about now

what a turd

Yes - text him and tell him his call of duty lies at home, and you are waiting.