I've just received a text from MIL which I think was meant for DH and it has upset me.

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The message said 'Looking forward to Sunday, I'll pick you and DGD up at 1.30pm for X's christening, remember not to mention it to DW'
DH has told me that he is going to take DD out for a few hours on Saturday to give me some time to myself, but it looks like he is going to his family members christening and I am not invited.
I didn't know I had upset anyone. DD was christed 6 months ago now and all of his family were invited and his cousin is DD godmother.
I am really upset. I don't know if I should mention it to him or hust leave it.

Get him downstairs and make him talk!

dinner - EFF RIGHT OFF MATE!!

Find out if you were indeed invited but MIL & (D)H came up with this weird plan?

I don't feel strong. Mil hasn't replied yet (she wont), and DD will NOT be going, I am getting up early and going to take her to the prom for the day (fish and chips wont hurt her once in a while will they)

MIL will be loving this wont she.

I am going to try to speak to him again, wich me luck.

see personally I can see the reasoning behind not telling you that you weren't invited. What I can't see is why he would go along with it and go to the occasion anyway without you.

My dh recently went to a lunch with ILs which I was not invited to (all legitimate reasons - it was a lunch for FIL in the city and dh and his sister only were invited). However, at the weekend MIL said something which leads me to believe that BIL was there. Now I can't be 100% sure that he was, but even if he was, I can't see what purpose it would serve for dh to tell me and make me feel bad. I know that dh wasn't expecting BIL to be there when he went, s if he then was there then it would be a surprise to dh as well, iyswim?

However, if dh had known BIL was invited and I was not, then I would expect him to be loyal to me.

I think you need to ask your dh outright why he is lying to you, and ask how many times he's lied before - because I would be almost certain he's done it before.

In the meantime, ring the mother of the boy to be christened adn find out what she has to say. Will be interesting to see if your dh has the same reasons to give. Or if he is fibbing!

Good luck x

Hes lying. Your not satsified with his ans, your no more wiser than you were when you recieved the text. Did he say why they were going without you?

How old is this guy, 9? Go and get the answers that you, as the mother of his child and wife of 7 yrs, deserve. Arsehole. Am so worked up have broken my Friday rule and have had to crack a beer out of the fridge. I NEVER break my 6pm on Friday rule. E V E R.

Tell him if he doesnt tell you right now, you will start ringing round his family for explanations. Starting with MiL

I'd get off up those stairs after him and get some more answers! What little he's said so far just isn't good enough. Humouring MIL, I ask you. Why did she need humouring? Why on earth should she want him and DGD to go without you? That's what you need to find out.
And no, I would not be happy about him going on his own either. I mean, what's the point? He's not going to have a good time after all this, is he? Solidarity from the THUM family is needed to thwart what might be a conspiracy from the ILs!

He was pretending to be assleep when I went up, I shook him and told him that I needed to talk about this and that I need answers. He said 'I dont want to talk about it and rolled over'
So I said fine, I am going to call your cousin then I am going to call MIL. If you value or marriage you will come downstairs in 10 minutes with an explanation and no lies.

I AM SO FUCKING ANGRY NOW

What
A
Cock

Do you know wats just come in2 my head, u are actually a very lucky lady in a way, becuz of ur prick dh u have made a lot of people who dont know u feel that strong about u and ur situation that they are sittin angry for u, i would love to have what you are getting right now, support beyond belief from complete strangers if i was in ur situation, havin had a really awful time this week myself i have to commend mn for the wonderful ppl in it. I know im waffling but thought i wud say this, mn's ur the best xxxxxxx

Have read this in disbelief.

Sorry, but he is being a complete cunt.

OMG!!!!!
HE is such a twat

Jesus wept

Di you not know he was a wanker before this? I mean, is he usually an intelligent mature individual?

I would stay calm and give him the ten minutes. If he doesn't come up with something after that I would ring MIL, ring the godmother, and then rip off his head and shit down his scrawny neck.

good for you!

He doesn't want to talk about it?

I would be gone out the door with your little one and to the nearest friend I could get to.

What on Earth can this be about for him to react like that?

Oh no THUM
I really feel for you on this one. I have a 'D'H who is controlled by MIL too. He lies, I've only recently found out and the lies go back years
It's very un mumsnet and very un me but {{{{{hugs}}}}}}

THUM - sympathies, really you are having a horrible day
I hope he can come up with something to make you feel better about him....

Get the phone numbers ready...

PS I wish you were a troll too, cos then we would all be having a laugh about being sucked in by now.

ihateliars, you are right, catching up with all of the posts, I an see that many husbands have gotten dinner later tonight that normal

This is why I have stayed on MN, I was rather overwhelmed at first but now if something happens or I see something I usually think , oohhh I will have to start a thread about that when I get in.

THANKYOU ALL SO MUCH.

he doesn't care about your feelings at all, does he? do you matter to him, even one little bit?

'Don't want to talk about it'
Tosser! He doesn't know what to say.
Can't he see he's digging a deeper hole for himself? Fess up now and there's a chance of sorting it. Carry on like a 5 year old and he'll be well, bloody stupid IMO.
I am having a glass of wine now. Sod my stupid diet!

You have made him dinner

with all this goin gon you still made him dinner

I am in

my face looks like this honestly

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