I've just received a text from MIL which I think was meant for DH and it has upset me.

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The message said 'Looking forward to Sunday, I'll pick you and DGD up at 1.30pm for X's christening, remember not to mention it to DW'
DH has told me that he is going to take DD out for a few hours on Saturday to give me some time to myself, but it looks like he is going to his family members christening and I am not invited.
I didn't know I had upset anyone. DD was christed 6 months ago now and all of his family were invited and his cousin is DD godmother.
I am really upset. I don't know if I should mention it to him or hust leave it.

THUM - this thread has given me knots in my stomach reading it.
How horrible for you.
DH is so out of order.
If he cannot explain adn give you s proper reason I would question what sort of a man is he?

Be v careful about doing that THUM. You could be playing into MIL's hands. Keep cool - you may feel better in the morning. I think you and he need close proximity and talking, not distance and silence.

Tell him how sad, disappointed and excluded you feel. Ask how dd will feel knowing her mum isn't welcomed by one half of her family, and what effect he thinks it will have on her. Play to his better side.

I don't care about the bloody christening, I dont care about mil (for now) all I car about is the fact it seems that my DH has no respect for me and obviously just sees me as a child bearing, cleaner who cooks.

When he came in he asked whats for dinner I just gave him a look that must have said your bollocks, I didn't even have to say anything, he just said oh dont worry I will sort myself out.

I would leave with DD and stay somewhere else for a few days.

What an arse

Get up there, get more answers, then tell him to fuckoff to his mummy until you decide he can come back

Don't wait.

Go after him - he is brushing this under the carpet and you are letting him.

Don't let him off the hook - go and talk to him. Ask for answers to all of the questions you need him to answer and don't let him fob you off. He owes you a full explanation, and sulking upstairs is not an option while you still don't know what's going on.

Go and talk to him. Get the full story. Then ask him to go, if you still want him to.

think you are being incredibly strong he's a fool and is doesn't deserve you. Good luck

It seems he obviously didnt intend to hurt you, you were just not meant to find out and he is unsure how to deal with this. (shitting himself)
I am wondering if bitch MIL sent text on purpose. Has she replied yet?

Personally i wouldnt let dd go

Your DH is a wanker of the highest degree hun kick him in the bollocks and tell him to get out for a while xxxxxx

THUM, I feel very and [cross] for you but I wouldn't let him slink off to get out of explaining things to you. I'd be upstairs telling him to haul his sorry arse out from under the duvet and talk to you.

what a weaselly twunt

I think at the very least you deserve an explanation for how it came about that he agreed to this plan. It sounds as though MIL cajoled/emotionally blackmailed him into it (no excuse obviously).

Get up there and make him TALK.
Also get onto the person who is organising the christening.

Yes he is a fool, he knows it too which is probably why he's skulked off upstairs like a schoolboy.
THUM, you deserve an explanation at the very least

Im still wondering why u werent invited, in fact that wud have been my 1st q if i was u, go and find out what the hell is going on hun cuz u wont sleep tonight if u dont.

am stunned that both you dh and mil now know you received that text by mistake, and yet neither of them is offering any kind of explanation for what is going on and why. i'd kick some ass if i were you, tell your dh he either tells you the whole story or you will contact his cousin and find out for yourself.

feel really for you

perhaps you should just ask "are you going to tell me exactly what has been going on or do you want me to have to ask everyone else in your family instead?"

MArch upstairs and DEMAND an explanation off him.
If you dont get one take DD and walk out the door.
If onlt for a couple of hours.
GOD I AM SSSOOOOO ANGRY FOR YOU!

He's not asleep, he's cowering. Don't let him. Make him tell the whole truth, calmly, now.

@ KerryMum

Tell him you need answers adn you need them now.
Tell him you are considering the future of this marriage.
Tell him taht he does not get to play computergames at a friend's house adn then go to bed as a means to avoid this issue.
Tell him he either talks or leaves. His choice.