I've just received a text from MIL which I think was meant for DH and it has upset me.

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The message said 'Looking forward to Sunday, I'll pick you and DGD up at 1.30pm for X's christening, remember not to mention it to DW'
DH has told me that he is going to take DD out for a few hours on Saturday to give me some time to myself, but it looks like he is going to his family members christening and I am not invited.
I didn't know I had upset anyone. DD was christed 6 months ago now and all of his family were invited and his cousin is DD godmother.
I am really upset. I don't know if I should mention it to him or hust leave it.

i believe her

er, she might well have a little more on her mind, and a couple of other priorities to attend to right this minute, than letting a bunch of starngers on the internet know all the gory details of how resoundingly shat on shes just been...
just a thought.

TBH if it was me, I'd still be screaming like a fishwife at him, dramatically packing a pag like they do in films and generally losing it big style. Don't think my first reaction would be to rush back to the computer.

It's been teatime, then kids bedtime, and very probably they are only just getting to talking now fgs, have patience! People have lives you know, they aren't just there for your entertainment!

God damn the PTA, I will have to come back to this later.

MN isn't the centre of the universe?!!??!

Well at least this has come to a head and can only end one way - with her DH deciding once and for all where his loyalties lie

lol kerrymum

good point dittany, when you're thinking of someone (as her MIL was of her) it's easy done. I've sent a text about a friend to that friend instead of a mutual one.

lisamaguire, hello and welcome! Just a thought tho, if that's your RL name it would be worth changing it to something more anonymous?

I got stung recently by a weirdo troll talking about a 12 yr old masturbating and I was so gutted. I am super wary now as it was such a sensitive subject and people were saying that it was some dirty pervert. This thread does feel like it's genuine but I suppose you never know. Hopefully the intelligent discussion over trolls is enough to take our minds off things until the OP comes back with the answers.

For my texts it gives me a list of last people texted - one scroll too far and it would go to the wrong person - I sent my ex (from teen years) a text telling him I loved him because of that!

okies barack ty hun, dunno wat to change it too tho

LOL @ flame, how did he respond?

DH in the shower so I cant stay long.

I was cool, calm and collected (thanks Blu) and askede him to explain to me what was going on.

He basically said he is sorry I found out that way and he was going to speak to me about it when he felt able to but he didn't want to upset me or MIL.

I said that I should be his priority not MIL!!
He said he had no intention of going to the christening but was just humering mil. So I said in that case then why have you offered to take DD out on Sunday 'to give me some time to myself', when you don't usually do things like that unless I aks you????

He looked like , dumfounded.
So I sarcastically said to him, no you don't have an explanation for that do you, I am not as stupid as you think I am'

I then told him, that I don't care if he goes, but if I am not welcome DD will not be going either. and that he needs o decide who is his priority, me and DD or his mum and to let me know when he has decided.

I am so upset, I don't really have any answers. I am going to email DD's godmother and ask if she has actually invited me and if not why and what have I done.

I told my mum I loved her by mistake, was just relieved I hadn't said I wanted to cover her in chocolate and lick it off...

Did he not tell you why u werent invited?

Well done for keeping so calm- good luck and keep us up to speed.

just read the whole thread, blimey, poor you.

no news back from MIL then? She should be explaining herself too.

And still nobody has said WHY you were not invited .

you need answers, good luck.

So what is HIS reason for you not being invited?

Doesn't H know why you are apparently not invited?? Dickhead. Humouring MIL, my arse!

oops, missed you there THUM- good job, you kicked his butt then?