I've just received a text from MIL which I think was meant for DH and it has upset me.

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The message said 'Looking forward to Sunday, I'll pick you and DGD up at 1.30pm for X's christening, remember not to mention it to DW'
DH has told me that he is going to take DD out for a few hours on Saturday to give me some time to myself, but it looks like he is going to his family members christening and I am not invited.
I didn't know I had upset anyone. DD was christed 6 months ago now and all of his family were invited and his cousin is DD godmother.
I am really upset. I don't know if I should mention it to him or hust leave it.

heres a thought - are you sure it was from MIL?

I think what is odd about the text is specifying the event. More natural "Pick you up 1.30 on Sun". I would never text DP "Meet you at the station to go to Waterstone's and perhaps get a cup of coffee". You wouldn't text "See you later about 8 for dinner and a few drinks" if you'd already organised.

OK I'm overstating my point now...

Exactly, Gardenia. There would have been more subtle ways to do it. Like "better make it 1.30 on Sun. Gives us time to change DD into a posh frock. Did you get the present?" would have been enough.

if i were you i would demand an explanation. I wouldn't let my dd go to a christening that i wasn't invited too and i think your dh should be on your side not his mother's of any feud.

So on your behalf

Oh dear. Just re-read my last. Am wondering if I was a secret agent in a former life.

I thought that kerrymum!

Also why does dd have to be there if OP not invited? She's only 18mths. Not like she was giving a speech or anything.

So where do they go from here? Assuming the worst, that DH has colluded with MIL against THUM?

1. None of them goes to the Christening. And MIL can explain why not.
2. DH has some serious pledges to make about changed priorities for the future (forsaking all others?)
3. All contact with MIL is suspended until she grovels on all fours to apologise and explain what the hell she thought she was playing at. Then a cool, but polite distance is kept, on THUM's terms, particularly where contact with DD is concerned.

OR, scrap all that, kick him out and change the locks.

We were once invited to a birtday party but were not allowed to talk about it, as they were only inviting one sister and not the other as they'd fallen out, so they made a lie to the unvited sister saying they weren't celebrating the birthday, and the whole family wasn't allowed to mention our invites / the event.
DH (his family) made the decision we were not to attend. He didn't like the secret.
Quite a few people did not attend the party for the same reason.
Your DH & MIL are WELL OUT OF LINE!

Gosh, I'm desperate to know what her DH says.....

Am

Sterling advice from Blu.

Read whole thread. shocking behaviour from your DH.

He obviously hasn't thought ahead. How many people who will be at the christening that you are likely to see over the coming months? Espeically with xmas coming up. One of them is, for sure, gonna say ...'ooh why didnt come to x's christening then'?

Elf, good for your DH. Obviously has some balls. Unlike this guy...

VVVQ am also waiting with baited breath to hear what he has to say for himself.

Do you think that she has inserted his testicles up his nostrils yet?

have to admit, i really want to know how this ends too. how awful for thum

He hasn't got any testicles- he keeps them at his mother's.

coffee on screen

Snort - valid point, valid point.

is anyone else sittin willing her to come on and tell us how she kicked his arse?

Oh God latecomer to this thread but I can't believe the poor OP is having to go through this.
As a woman with a lying p$!k of a H myself, I sympathise (actually don't mean her DH is a p$!k - there may yet be a logical explanation? )
Hope all is going as well as possible.

yes, I am going out for dinner soon but want to know what she's done to him before I set out!