I've just received a text from MIL which I think was meant for DH and it has upset me.

[Thishasupsetme]

The message said 'Looking forward to Sunday, I'll pick you and DGD up at 1.30pm for X's christening, remember not to mention it to DW'
DH has told me that he is going to take DD out for a few hours on Saturday to give me some time to myself, but it looks like he is going to his family members christening and I am not invited.
I didn't know I had upset anyone. DD was christed 6 months ago now and all of his family were invited and his cousin is DD godmother.
I am really upset. I don't know if I should mention it to him or hust leave it.

Good luck.

Hope he has a bloody good reason.

good luck

I know if it was me I'd degenerate into 'hysterical snotty crying woman' its so hard to do 'cool and hard' in RL.

Good Luck and Take Care ((((((((hugs))))))))

THUM - good luck, handholding and general support to you. You have done NOTHING wrong, you deserve nothing less than truth and respect.

Tankfully DP is away for work, DS is fed and I've got a sarnie I can eat here.
Can't wait to hear this excuse. Hope he was greeted with deathly silence and one of those stares (I'm dead good at those, just before I start swearing and screaming)

I agree, MMJ.

If DH was put in this position by MIL,then he would decline to go and tellme about it straight away. I really feel for the OP

good luck

(sorry forgot to change name back from wbb on earlier post)

I really hope she comes back. There have been some cliff hangers on MN lately that have just been left hanging!

Went off to do tea and it's taken me ages to catch up!

Good luck to you, and i hope you aren't at all easy on dh!

Agree with KerryMum - would not go well for my DH!!

have just read this and am so shocked at the DH. Where is his loyalty to his DW, the op must be so upset, i know I would be. i hate crappy family politics.
Thinking of you,

I have a false moustache Blu. And a beaten up trench coat.

She should let her dh see this thread. This is not the first time I've thought how great it would be if MN had a magical volume control that could be directed at misbehaving dhs. Imagine the squawking, screeching sound it would make.

We could have sound emoticons, would be fab!

I cannot believe the cheek of some men. Call of f$%king Duty. This one isn't going to have a happy ending now is it?

AS the dh is home already it does seem as though he gave call of duty a miss doesn't it

This might be a firing offence if it was my DH.
This is a serious thing, lying, involving dd in the lie, sneaking around, mil in on it. It's all bad, I am very curious as to what he will come up with

Can I just add something, probably duplicated by the time I type and post this!

Re. calling the mother of the christening baby, you don't know that she didn't invite you, or that you upset her, or whatever. I think it will be a bit cleaner to keep the discussion between yourself and your DH, and your MIL when that becomes appropriate (ie once you have DH back on side & having apologised). I really wouldn't involve anyone else whose role is unclear.

Good luck. It's really horrible at the moment but if your DH behaves now it can all be ok again.

No - he teaches and would normally be home earlier, but goes to a friend's work on a thursday night. At least that's how I read it.

Vintage - agree.
It all depends on the explanation, whether DH ever connives with MIL - or anyone else ever again - and how sorry.

I'm still not comfortable about that text. "Don't forget not to mention it to DW".??? I mean, who says that? Like he'd accidentally tell her and then say "oops, forgot. Wasn't s'posed to tell you I'm sneaking off to a family event with our DD that you're not invited to." That's what makes me think it's all particularly odd. Except that the underhand bastard DH has alluded to the fact that something is going on.

Gosh he wasn't even home when I started typing last post.

Good luck.

Almost certain wording means she inetnded THUM to know. Otherwise she'd have just said time. Maybe there isn't room in the car for you all {trying to be benevolent]