I've just received a text from MIL which I think was meant for DH and it has upset me.

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The message said 'Looking forward to Sunday, I'll pick you and DGD up at 1.30pm for X's christening, remember not to mention it to DW'
DH has told me that he is going to take DD out for a few hours on Saturday to give me some time to myself, but it looks like he is going to his family members christening and I am not invited.
I didn't know I had upset anyone. DD was christed 6 months ago now and all of his family were invited and his cousin is DD godmother.
I am really upset. I don't know if I should mention it to him or hust leave it.

"Attila, i think it's a bit much calling the MIL toxic. THUM has stated a couple of times that it's not usual behaviour for her MIL".

I'd call her MIL toxic and I stand by that assertion as well. Controlling people are by their very nature abusive as well. She's always been thus and will not change.

THUNS has mentioned a couple of previous incidents where her MIL has thrown a complete wobbly over some matters that others would regard as not worth worrying over. This lady is controlling.

At this point I would honestly be busying myself with phoning the godmother and packing his bags.

oh my god, poor you, thats awful. Havent got any good advice for you but hope you get to the bottom of this and dont let anyone off lightly who has lied to you in this way

Poor you have read all the thread,
Your dh by the sounds has been steam rolled by mil and has not had the balls to stand up to her. What puzzles me is why parent of child not asked you or maybe they would of made an excuse on the day.

See what dh has to say when he comes in there could be a good reason. (prays).

Have you called him yet

oh you poor thing
you must be hurting

I wonder if he's come back to face the music yet ? Not heard from THUM for a bit

No worries Blu!.

If this were me (and I have a controlling schemer for a MIL as well) I'd have his bags packed.

THUM - if you do speak to your DH you must use the phone; do not text. This is too important a matter for a bland sounding text message. He needs to briefly hear how angry and upset you are now.

I agree with Attila about the toxicity of the MIL

He son is a spineless over-mothered baby and she is playing him like a violin. She doesn't think her DIL is good enough and wants to cause trouble. IMO

We dont have a car and I dont drive but MIL lives approx 25 m iles away from us and busses stop running to their village at 4.30pm (wonderfrull bus company )
But I do suppose she could have driven to him.

I am really confused right now.

P.s Yes, I meant call of duty the game. (Thinking about taking all of the fuses out of his games consoles and hiding the remotes )

Just adding to the collective fury on your behalf.

The video game session puts the tin lid on it, doesn't it?

He is going to expect you to be absolutely furious, screaming and wailing. You must not be tempted. You must be scarily calm. You have the moral superiority here, make sure he knows it. Do exactly as Blu says (personally I think she a secret CIA agent).

What arrangements is the godmother aware of though?

Do you think H might have gone to see MIL and kick fuck out of her for being a controlling interfereing vindicitve bitch? {{{{{hopeful emoticon}}}}}}

It doesnt sound like he has much regard for how your feeling right now. He could at least phone you to explain.

I in no way excuse any party involved in this and I feel for the OP, it truly is disgraceful... however, as vindictive as MIL may be she may not have sent this text to the OP on purpose. The OP has said that her name was more or less the last thing on the text which means that the OP's name could have been the last thing on MIL mind, thereby when she came to send the text it could be plausible that she may just have accidentally sent it to the OP. On the other hand.....

well that would be hypocritical seeing as he colluded with her wouldn't it

Agree with Attila, MIL IS toxic as is her behaviour.

Well you have to do something to make the time pass until he gets his sorry behind back home

or 12

I do think it would be reasonable now to call him and tell him he has things to sort out at home, so could he prioritise that and come home straight away, please.

It IS v disrespectful to be out playing games.

THUM, your H seriously needs to reassess his priorities. He deceives you in this way, you find out about it 'accidently' and then he stops at friends on the way home to play farking video games, cos that is what he normally does on a Thursday???

I am so, so angry on your behalf.

Your H needs to get his arse home now and do some serious explaining.

He is absolutely out of order, and you have every right to be furious with him.

I would be selling his game consoles on ebay.

Feel so sorry for you, it is horrible when interfering old bats do this sort of thing, I have no contact with my outlaws now due to them telling too many lies about me in the past.

hope you are ok, is there anywhere you could go on Sunday?

get up really early and take dd out for the whole day. This would thwart monster-in-law's plans for excluding you from the christening.