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Are you still madly in love with your DH/DP?

176 replies

sad36 · 06/03/2005 10:03

...or do you just love them dearly? DO you think it is normal to lose those heady rushy feelings and just feel happy, comfortable, settled, or is that not enough in a relationship?

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paolosgirl · 06/03/2005 21:46

Not madly in love, but in cosy, warm, safe, secure, happy and content love.

We still have our arguements, but he is always my best friend, who gives me the confidence to do anything and be anything I want, and he still makes me laugh. Yep, he's alright is my dh

pepsi · 06/03/2005 21:48

perhaps mad to be in love, no really, yes I still love him to bits.....just that romantic bit has faded now due to children, tiredess, household chorses, good Tv and mumsnet.

jasper · 06/03/2005 21:51

those who are not are unlikely to post here!

paolosgirl · 06/03/2005 21:54

Wonder if everyone here would post the same message after a big barney with dh/dp?!

jampots · 06/03/2005 21:55

no

huggybear · 06/03/2005 22:08

I love my dh dearly. I am happy, settled and comfortable and yes, sometimes i wonder if this is enough but then something will happen, he bangs his head, has a bad day at work or i watch him playing with the kids and i realise that yes, its more than enough. so my knees dont knock together when he walks into the room or i dont giggle like a girl when he looks at me anymore but when hes holding me and when hes asleep with one arm drapped lazily over me or when he tells me i look beautiful, even though im twice the size i used to be and i havent brushed my hair and yet i still know without a doubt that he means every word then i feel so so loved and warm inside and its the best feeling in the world. i couldnt imagen a world with out him beside me.

The first lust/madly in love feelings do fade but theyre replaced by something much deeper and meaningful and so much more important. hes my best friend.

Wills · 06/03/2005 22:11

It doesn't happen often but sometimes he appears when I don't expect it and my heart slips into my throat and beats so loudly I'm sure someone can hear (we've been together over 15 years now). My dh has cancer (but has so far fought it successfully) and I sometimes wonder if that's what strengthened our relationship (found out 8 years ago, has just come back). I'll never know because I can't rewind life and try differently, but he's not the man of my dreams and yes there are times when I walk away from a particularly romantic film and wonder.

paolosgirl · 08/03/2005 19:20

Isn't huggybears thread lovely?

lilibet · 08/03/2005 19:39

Huggy - that is a fantastic post and is so nice to read in contrast to the 'my dh/dp is a bastard' threads, most of which do seem to be deserved

and I love my dh just as much as the day I married him which was all of 18 days ago

breeze · 08/03/2005 19:43

I'd say I am still madly in love with DH, although we have only been together for 6 years.

We still leave each other little soppy notes round the house. I'm chuffed if he phones and says he is leaving early.

i do put a lot of it down to the fact that we are very lucky enough to be able to have 1 or 2 nights alone together each week while my parents has ds, so we get lots of quality time.

he has just gone back to work after a week off, and I must admit that I miss him

Issymum · 08/03/2005 20:11

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nutcracker · 08/03/2005 20:13

No

loudmum · 08/03/2005 20:16

totally and completely.... just wish he felt same about me... or if he does, that he would tell me... why did I fall for the strong silent type!!

ChicPea · 08/03/2005 20:17

Still love love love DH madly. He loves me even more!! Been together for almost nine years.

nailpolish · 08/03/2005 20:24

i have fancied dh since i saw him at school. still think he is gorgeous, he is so so funny, makes me laugh all the time. hes a great dad too, that was one the first thoughts i had when i saw him in the playground!!! it took me til i was 25 til he noticed me, was worth the wait.

lavenderrr · 08/03/2005 20:25

not madly but very much in love (despite what I say) we are soul mates really, can talk about anything with each other and I mean anything.

munnzieb · 08/03/2005 20:36

not madly as in I can't think straight without him - hell who am I kiddin that's exactly the case, althou it's been 5 months apart so...

he's my right arm, without him i'm lost, funny things is thou until he went away I never appriciated how much he actually helped me out. I def value him more now (althou I won't tell him too often as he'll get a big head! lol).

I know he's my other half in all sence of the words cos we talk about everything/anything, esp in the bathroom of all places -don't u find it's nice to lay in the bath and talk to them sat on the loo (obviously not using the loo but it's nice)

romilly · 08/03/2005 20:37

Yup.

JaysMum · 09/03/2005 02:53

Totally and utterly in love with my old man and have been since he pulled my pigtails in the playgound when I was 8!!!!!
It was love at first sight and still now after 17years married I lie in bed and watch him sleep and think how lucky I am to have him.

highlander · 09/03/2005 05:24

I've just sent mine out the door (to see his mate) with a paper sign round his neck saying 'I must always obey the wife' (10 times).

It's the little things........

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sad36 · 09/03/2005 06:58

Wish I hadn't started this thread. Makes me feel more sorry for myself than ever!
Glad there are loads of you out there who are really happy though. That's the way it should be...

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dinny · 09/03/2005 07:12

Yes, love him passionately. Even deeper since we had our beautiful babes. The hard times make us stronger.

FairyMum · 09/03/2005 07:15

I just love him. Dearly, madly...I don't know. He is my soulmate and I can't see how I could ever live without him. I don't think you can expect heady rushy feelings all the time, but sometimes after a few glasses of wine

trinityrocks · 09/03/2005 09:17

Benn married five years now and expecting our second child in 4 weeks. I have two step children and one of them lives with us.
I had severe PND after the birth of our first and my hubby works away as a submariner.
We have a huge mortgage, money issues and I am seeing a psychotherapist about issues from previous relationships.

Am I still madly in love with my hubby...........YES, to me he is a cross between Mel Gibson and George Clooney with a wonderful caring personality. I couldn't love him anymore than I do and whne he comes back from sea my heart still does a little flutter when I see him.
We have had some stonking arguments and we even nearly split when I was in the depths of undiagnosed depression BUT the hard times make us closer and we understand each other more and more as time goes on. We work hard at our realationship and it's doing really well. I LOVE MIM TO BITS,,,,,,,,,,,,truly, madly and deeply

albert · 09/03/2005 09:38

I totaly adore my DH. We've been together for 15 years and I am lost without him. He has to travel frequently with work and my world falls apart when he's not here. TBH I would say that he feels the same. Of course sometimes we drive each other round the bend but yes, I am still madly in love with him!