it happens so often on here, but I opened his mobile bill by accident and guess what?

[AreYouCallingMeDarling]

yep

up to 30 texts a day to number that I find out is another woman

Just friendship says he

hahahahaha

I am a regular btw. Just don't want my mum reading this and knowing it is me. Or anyone else I know

I feel so feckin stupid

It is the middle of the night and I probably won't get any answers. But that is fine

Oh is he reading this thread??

HEY ASSHOLE! WHAT KIND OF DUMB ANIMAL LOVES HIS DICK MORE THAN HIS KIDS AND THEIR MUMMY?

THIS SLUT OF YOURS OBVIOUSLY GETS HER KICKS OUT OF HURTING YOUR CHILDREN AND THEIR MUMMY IN THE WORST POSSIBLE WAY. IS THAT A TURN ON FOR YOU APE-BOY?

Seriously though OP, don't send her texts etc or speak to her.

Even if you are nice as pie and she is a raving lunatic the two of THEM will make YOU out to be the nutcase. Then they can justify what they have done in their own thick as shit and selfish little minds. Believe me, assholes like them follow the same damn script every time. They are simpletons. I have seen this happen to too many people.

You just act with dignity and let us dish it out to that fucktard on this thread. He can call us raving loonies then.

if I am keeping him (which I may) I don't want to fuck up his career.

If I report them both will that not do that

Stary? Do you know

Thanks for the sentiment Pram - but I don't tend to use the word Mummy, especially in all upper case

He will (possibly) receive a reprimand. DH says it is a very tricky situation (sorry, consulted him) because often the offending spouse will claim that the marital relationship is already under strain , trial separation etc and then it becomes one person's word against another.

Shame he isn't somewhere where men and women are not allowed to be in each other's accomodation (like Afghanistan!)

ahhhhh yes - I forgot the best bit.

Or the worst

I wouldn't jeopardise his work as that just means less money for the children and you assuming you're like me and earn a lot more than him (and like me had to pay out massively to him in a divorce caused by him....divorce law is very unfair).

I was talking to someone about this topic today who was saying he would only leave his partner (and children) when he found someone else. It's a morally bankrupt position, not much better (worse even) than having a bit on the side which means nothing.

Although to be fair despite the female vitriol against men on the thread as many women as men play away (about 25% over long marriages) it's just that they're better at hiding it and rarely admit it.

Much more may have happened than has been said and one of the first things you need to do is force him to have a test for STDs and take you to have one too.

Has he ever done this sort of thing before?
You seem quite mellow about it though, are you? Or maybe that is just the swan in you.

I dont know if his career will be fucked up, but if he has already spoken to his, do you know what the consequence would be?

Oh god. What. he's deploying, isn't he.

He is about to be promoted to

He is about to be posted to a non techy place down south (he is really techy as in a hands on expert in fixing very compicated stuff)

He has been told today it is for 3 years not 2

and I live up north somewhere

Sorry about the ape-boy comment. I'll stick with fucktwit.

Cannot believe a wussy/coward who cannot even be honest with his wife because he is such a wimp can be trusted with the defense of his country.

so - the bit I am struggling most with tonight is

all of their sex was without condom or any other barrier method

so I could now have anything

shit.

Get your self to the GU clinic.
She could possibly be pregnant too.

God you sound amazingly calm.He deserves to sweat it out a bit at least.not sure what to suggest though.can't believe he didn;t have the brain for a condom highly risky what was he thinking?

fuck

have to make appointment with cinic

omg, this gets worse...

how on earth did he lose his common sense and decency so profoundly ???

I think that would be the death knell for me. Not only was he prepared to risk his marriage and his family life, but he was happy to put your health at risk. Fuckwit doesn't even begin to cover it.

OMG.

I'm speechless now...

she can't be pregnant

snip

silver lining

darling, are you seriously thinking you will still hang on and not dump him from a great height ?

yep

just call me stupid

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right, I am going to stick my neck on the line here

< takes deep breath >

this is now not ringing true for me

< runs quickly away and peeps from behind sofa >

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