it happens so often on here, but I opened his mobile bill by accident and guess what?

[AreYouCallingMeDarling]

yep

up to 30 texts a day to number that I find out is another woman

Just friendship says he

hahahahaha

I am a regular btw. Just don't want my mum reading this and knowing it is me. Or anyone else I know

I feel so feckin stupid

It is the middle of the night and I probably won't get any answers. But that is fine

Whilst wishing you didn't have a story to tell, yes lets hear it.

A mumsnet book could me compiled All with essentially the same story. Why are men so unimaginative?

Message withdrawn

go for it - spill

go on, get it all out. Then we can massively slag him off and if you feel better later you can always have it deleted and we will pretend we haven't

ooh sorry (lapin)

lapin - I recognised you

The DCs are eating honey somefuckingthing hoops

Comfort food all round

Though Cod did well to predict the fact that I am not eating

Well

When DH1 left me I lost loads of weight.

Maybe every cloud, and all that

oh you poor love

so in the end, once I had asked and asked and asked abd threatened and all that

he has been sleeping with her for 4 months (apart from when she was posted elsewhere for 7 weeks). And after sex she stayed in his bed overnight. And probably cuddled. Most nights during the week

Oh dear A bit different from 'just friendship' then. What's he saying?

you must be devastated...what is he going to do about it? I'm glad you showed him the thread,at least he can see what a stupid cliché he has turned into.

He says that he loves me and he never loved her , that it is over and he has told her that.

He has been begging me to let him stay.

He started crying last night when I handed him my rings, and then kept crying for ages.

I have told him that I might keep him for a bit, but that nothing is certain. I might throw him back for Fay and the rest

Oh AYCMD thats awful

How are you feeling? Have you been able to talk it through with anyone yet (apart from mn)?

Sending you hugs. Have been thinking about you all day.

If he reads the thread again - YOU ARE A SELFISH FUCKER WHO DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR WIFE AND CHILDREN

I would be SO so so tempted to report him to his CO for conduct unbecoming

What an idiot. I think you're right to decide nothing yet.

How is he going to work with her for the next few months? That sounds a nightmare for you.

we have spent most of today on the phone when not texting...

I have told him that I am really really upset that once I had asked him about it he has just admitted one thing at a time, and made me dig for information. Rather than admitting the whole thing on Sunday

He doesn't actually work with her

They work on the same base

She knows where his room is and have mutual friends, so she came to see him

I really want to send her a text

Talk me out of it?

Also by making you dig and dig for more information, how can you ever be sure there is not more to come?

So so sorry for you. What a bastard.
He let her stay in his bed overnight, most nights for 4 months. What a callous, cynical, selfish pig. I am sorry, but that is on so many levels much worse than a quick drunken "accidental" shag. He moved his other woman into his bed. Idiot.

I would. Infact I would send her more than a fucking text...

Fabio - I heart you

who the fuck are you anyway?

and so he should have been crying.

You should be glad he was reduced to a quivvering blubbering wreck.

Let him feel that bad and tell him its a tiny tiny percentage of how he's made you feel.

"only freindship" FGS!

If you send her a text what will it say? What are you hoping to achieve from sending her a text? Not trying to talk you out of it but just want you to think about it before you act.

Lapin

I'm so sorry This is utterly shit. The being away during the week thing is NO excuse, you know that right? He's just a fuckwit.