come and tell me about your extremely unromantic marriage proposals and make me feel better...

[LadySanders]

got my decree absolute in the post on saturday so am finally divorced after waiting 5 years.

in the evening, while stripping wallpaper, dp (with whom i have lovely 7 month old ds2) says:
"so what do you want to do about getting married?"

i say:
"what do you mean?"

he says:
"well i'm not bothered but we can do it if you want to"

i say:
"not if that's your idea of a proposal, no"

he, being a man, of course thinks, hey-ho, lovely, all is well, and carries on happily with the DIY.

i sit there fuming thinking, i didn't even particularly want to get married but now you've brought it up just to tell me you don't really want to marry me, and i feel rejected.

he is lovely by the way.

just not terribly romantic.

evidently.

Jesus, what is wrong with me tonight!!
his mums dog
Little ankle biting dog

Must go to bed now when cannot type the difference between dog/dad its time to get in the duvet!!

DH's mum's dad is lovely, doesn't bite at all afaik!
Though it did take me five years to realise he has half a finger missing.
Always an observant one, me. Good as typing too

I think it's really rather sweet.

FWIW I decided to marry DH when I met him. I let him think it was his idea of course, didn't want to spoil the fun. You've never heard anything more bumbling.

lol Elf - so glad your DH's mum's dad wasn't any kind of mad cannibal!

mine is so depressing.

after another night of him returning home and knocking seven shades out of me, i was sat over teh toilet throwing up and he was stood outside begging frogivnesswhen he said "let's get married. i wont get so paranoid if we're married"

I didn't answer him.

The next day he came home with an elizabeth Duke chav tag and said "well you didn't answer me last night, will you?"
i said yes to prevent a fight.

That is horrible Mamazon. I hope you are now out of that abusive relationship?

I am thank you SKY. 4 years now

Relieved to hear it. Lucky escape. Never again, eh?

Wow, Mamazon, that is really shit, so glad you are out of that.

When I was younger and dafter I used to propose to men (er, that I was actually shagging on a regular basis, not random ones accosted in the bog roll aisle in Boots or anything). They all said yes but luckily I never had to go through with it. I do recall one sort-of proposal when I was 21 along the lines of 'you got engaged to [him] and you got engaged to [him] (one boyfriend per year at uni) why won't you get engaged to me?'
My answer to that one should have been 'because you are a deranged abusive control freak.' of course, but hey, at least he ran off with another woman a couple of months later.

But I can't get my head round the idea of 'waiting for him to propose' that some women seem to go in for: if you want to marry a man, ask him.

Some of these proposals are very funny - in a good way!
I suppose men are a bit Neanderthal in some respects.

I've had 8 proposals, from sweaty postgrads who thought that I would make their social life easier, to old friends who wanted to settle down, and were asking everywoman they knew.. ran a mile from all them - too needy for my liking.

I knew my Dh was the man for me when I first laid eyes on him. we were with other people at the time.

I let him reach the same conclusion and four years later he caught me unawares with a proposal.

We married legally in a year that was good for us tax wise and paid for our reception the next summer, and our lovely rings, with the rebate!
All romance here we've been together 16 years.

Mamazon
we were watching coronation street (well i was, he was suffering it) when sarah and todd decided to get married - didn't that turn out well? and it led to a discussion of marriage in general, during which he said "OK let's do it then, let's get married"
remember wishing i wasn't wearing my scruffy t shirt.
we went ring shopping the next day.

Funnily enough i had my first ever contraction in front of corrie too - i don't watch it any more, should I be worried??

I've never actually had a marriage proposal, despite being married 6 years. We just kind of agreed, and I saw a ring I liked, so I bought it.

But none of that matters because we are very happy together.

my friend had a pretty uncool proposal as well - she and her DP had obviously been discussing the idea of getting wed, and went to a jeweller's in Oxford; chose a ring and then he said:

"You'd better put that on before you lose it."

that was it, her proposal!

Ladysanders, we were in bed, was rushing to get ready one morning, took DH (orDP as was) up a cup of tea and asked "What do you want for christmas then?", he asked me what I wanted, I said I didn't know, so he said:
"How about I get you one of those Sparklers you were after?" (Meaning Diamonds, yes, it had been 6 years, I was dropping big hints!!!)

I later found out he had been trying to propse to me the week before whilst in India and had a romantic proposal planned out at the Taj Mahal, then had Delhi belly and it was so crowded and we were continually stalked by a mad Australian......He thought it would be practically empty, like that Princess Di picture

i had finished work at 3am on NYE, dh (then dbf) fell asleep on the sofa and had locked the door. i spent 3h trying to wake him up (as did the lodger) finally at 6am he opened the door. i launched into a rant.. how f**king dare you lock me out, you twunt, tosser, you are the worst boyfriend in the world. i dont know why i bother...

he threw a box on the table and said "well you wont be wanting this then"

yep.
ring.

still a twat for leaving me outside for 3h though

We went to a joint job interview in Costa Rica for a call centre job. The interviewer asked me about how he would sort out a work visa when DH piped up, 'Oh don't worry about that, we're getting married' (We'd only met two months previously) As soon as we got out of the room, I asked if he meant it and he said yes.
From such inauspicious beginnings we are just about to have DC 3 and celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary.

who says romance is dead ?

Mine was:

I sitting on the sofa soothing 12wk dd when dh came home from work. It was also my birthday and all I had got from him was a card left in the kitchen when he went to work.

He stood in front of me, handed me a ring box and said "so, will you be my wife then?"

To be fair on him, he had chosen the perfect ring (he just knows what jewellery I like, lucky me!) and it was only a teensy bit too big...

I think these are all (well most are) romantic. They say a lot about the type of relationship in a good way. All the blokes are obviously of the opinion that they have found their ideal woman ie one that isn't bothered by all that romantic stuff (true or not) and I think that is quite endearing.

I have to say I think my proposal was romantic - asked my parents first (came home very distracted - didn't even notice my new shoes and I only realised why when he went down on one knee the following evening avec diamond solitaire).

What made it special for me though was he phoned earlier to suggest we had a takeaway curry- I thought it was because it was my birthday, he was pacing up and down while I opened all my other presents so I was thinking 'Can you at least pretend to be interested' and that normally he isn't into romantic gestures so it meant a lot to me that he had gone to all that trouble.

I was wearing slippers though which in retrospect I might have changed had I had an inkling....

Dh proposed in the car park at Sainsbury's, we'd been together 5 months, he just blurted out
him "marry me"
me "what?"
him "you heard, marry me"
me "oh go on then if you're offering"

he told me about 6 months later if I'd said no then he wouldn't have asked again. We got married 3 years later and his Dad performed the wedding for us so it was very special.

DP (we'd been living together for 3 years) lying on the sofa in only his skanky boxers hung over looking like crap.
Me: I've been thinking recently that I'd really like a family (we'd originally agreed not to have kids).
Him: Oh....(long pause)....make me a cup of tea and I'll think about it.
(I make the cuppa)
Me: So, what do you think?
Him: Aye, alright then. We'd have to get married though.
Me: Really?
Him: Yes - lets get engaged this weekend.
Me: Was that a proposal ?

xx