come and tell me about your extremely unromantic marriage proposals and make me feel better...

[LadySanders]

got my decree absolute in the post on saturday so am finally divorced after waiting 5 years.

in the evening, while stripping wallpaper, dp (with whom i have lovely 7 month old ds2) says:
"so what do you want to do about getting married?"

i say:
"what do you mean?"

he says:
"well i'm not bothered but we can do it if you want to"

i say:
"not if that's your idea of a proposal, no"

he, being a man, of course thinks, hey-ho, lovely, all is well, and carries on happily with the DIY.

i sit there fuming thinking, i didn't even particularly want to get married but now you've brought it up just to tell me you don't really want to marry me, and i feel rejected.

he is lovely by the way.

just not terribly romantic.

evidently.

[thumbwitch]

lol @ LL

[berolina]

me to dh: 'well, my parents aren't in fact going to come round to us, so we might as well get married'.

[cali]

On holiday, went to some castle not far from Prague. Saw they did wine tastings, so did a 2 hour wine tasting that started at 10:00am

After it had finished decided to sober up go for a bit of a walk, dh leaned on some railings and said "will you marry me",
I said "no, ask me when you're sober", I may not have put it as politely as that.
He asked again, I still thought he was joking as no ring and still using the railing for support. Finally drunken haze lifted and I realised he was being serious.

Will never do a wine tasting in the morning again!

[Joolyjoolyjoo]

I have to admit to still harbouring bitter feelings about my lack of proposal!

At my work Christmas party, DH told everyone and anyone that he was going to propose to me on the pier under the stars on Boxing Day- apparently it was going to be a surprise for me (?! Does he not know the nature of women? At least 4 people had taken me aside to breathlessly give me this info before the night was over!) I was the talk of the workplace.

So I drive across to see him on Boxing Day- no proposal. His sister awkwardly gives me a bottle of champagne "for, er, you both" Still no proposal. 27th Dec comes and goes- still no sign of a proposal. Eventually I can take it no longer and have it out with him. He says he meant to ask me, but he didn't "get round" to buying a ring. And he wanted to ask my dad first! I was mortified, because I knew when I went back to work, the first thing they'd all want was to see the ring- why couldn't he have kept his mouth shut! Then he tried to say, ok well, let's do it anyway, which I wasn't even prepared to entertain at that stage: my romantic proposal had vanished, it wouldn't even have been a surprise- heck, I couldn't even have pretended it was a surprise.

Anyway, decided only way it would be any kind of surprise was if I asked him, so at the bells on Hogmanay, I went down on one knee in front of our friends. He said yes, we staggered home, he had to drag me to bed as I was so drunk I couldn't stand. Nice.

I cast his lack of romance up to him on many an occasion.

[Elasticwoman]

Am fascinated to read of all these proposals.
I do not think I can match the unromantic nature but here's my experience.

Dh asked me a number of times and I can't remember them all, but once I said "well you haven't gone down on one knee" and he went down on one knee, as we were walking down the street.

Another time I said "Well it wouldn't be fair as you want children and I don't." The next day he came back and said "we don't have to have children, that's all right."

So we got married and remained childless for 12 years. Then we had 3 dc and I became the mumsiest mum you have ever seen in a pinny.

[mumhadenough]

Lol, coming up for my 21st birthday,

dh: Do you want a ring for your 21st?

me: What an engagement ring?

dh: Yeah, well ok then.

No discussion of marriage or anything. Six months later we were discussing going to the Domincan Republic for a holiday;

dh: Its a bit expensive just for a holiday, do you not think?

me: What do you mean just for a holiday?

dh: Well its okay paying that money for a wedding or something.

me: Okay then, what are you saying, we should get married while we're there/

dh: Yeah if you want to.

me: Oh okay then!

Wedding booked for the following year, parents all very unhappy, holiday company pull the holiday due to low sales for the following year and we ended up getting married here and it snowballed into a big pantomime with three bridesmaids, three cars bla bla bla.

Mind you, that was nearly ten years ago and we're still very happy . He's not the most romantic guy in the world but still lovely.

[sayithowitis]

Neither of us ever did actually propose! After 5 years 'courting' we just sort of decided to get married. Never got engaged either, all our money went on the wedding and the house. Mind you, he did get me a beautiful 'engagement' ring this year to celebrate our silver wedding! So maybe the lack of proposal and engagement wasn't that important?

[mummypoppins]

sat on a tube station:

DH..Hows about it then doll ?

Me.. What get married ?

DH ..Yeh

Me..how much are you going to spend on my ring then ?

DH.. £2k ?

Me..alright then done.

11 years in a few months.

MP

[Cies]

Mine puts me in a horrible bridezilla-esque light, but it wasn´t planned like that.

DH and I had been together for 2.5years, and known since the beginnning that this was it. We´d tentatively agreed to get married the following summer (i.e. a year and a half in the future), with the wedding in my childhood church and the reception at my parent´s place.

I get a call from my parents. They´re selling the house to retire early and travel round the world. I burst into tears.
Me - Wail and wail "but I´ve always wanted to get married from home"

Dh "well, we could do it this summer if you want..." (dubious voice)

Me- "ok, if you´re sure"

No ring obviously, but we went looking the next week and found something lovely.

[LadySanders]

returning to my thread (is it 'my' thread??) am cheered by all those unromantic men out there!

[ninedragons]

It may even have been a MNer, but one proposal I read about that made me roar with laughter was the man turning to the woman and saying "You know, we should get married. It would really piss your mother off"

[Monkeytrousers]

YOU AND HE NEED TO WATCH THE SEX AND THE CIT MOVIE TO LEARN ABOUT THE VALUE OF PROPOSALS!

[Lazycow]

DH ' Well I'm not happy about you being pregnant and us not getting married'
Me ' Must we'
Dh 'Yes we must'
Me' I suppose so, it's only fair I suppose' (I was thinking about his rights to our as yet unborn child more than anything)

My mum and dad also had the most unromantic proposal

Waiting at a train station for my dad to go back to work (He worked away during the week) after a weekend visiting my mum's paretnts (and hence my mum)

Dad watching the incoming train in silence, then out of the blue turned to my mum and said
'Well two people can live as cheaply as one I suppose'
Mum 'OK then I'll start organising it'
That was it

Being unromatic must be in the genes!

[foxytocin]

context: moving 6,000 mi to be with dh.

Me: well in that case we will have get married.
DH: OK.

[mummyc]

Glad it's not just me! After a very bit of a whirlwind romance (both knew it was 'it' when we first met, moved in together after 5 months and about as many dates (long distance relationship) he got down on one knee absolutely wrecked in the middle of a dancefloor in a grotty nightclub on his birthday and asked me - I said yes but he could change his mind in the morning - he didn't. Took us years to afford a wedding (about a year for a ring in the first place) but we just had our 10 year anniversary. Love taking risks Strangely always felt diddled by the lack of romance but feel better now!!!!

[muckypups]

The tax man said wed be better off if a married couple, si Dh said may as well get hitched then.

[GordonTheGopher]

Ok sorry guys but I can't resist adding mine...

VALENTINES DAY

ICE RINK

CENTRAL PARK

TIFFANY SOLITAIRE

FOLLOWED BY HORSE-DRAWN CARRIAGE...

Go on flame me I don't care... it was fabulous.

[Dropdeadfred]

a little stereotypical but lovely Gordon...

[ConstanceWearing]

Ooh, you lucky lucky bastard

Me: "your cousin's just got married and she's only got one baby. I think it's about time you married me. We've got 4 children, and it makes me feel ridiculous that you won't marry me".

He did.

We divorced 4 years later.

Ahhhh, romance.....

[milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo]

First DH asked me to marry him whilst unloading the weekly shop out of the boot of my doggy smelling car .

DH2 (was widowed) asked me to marry him in a claw foot bath in a very beautiful hotel

[Katw3kitts]

I was at the kitchen sink washing up.

Not much changed 14 years later !

Its been good though despite the decidely unromantic start

[RealityGap]

Well

I guess mine was kind of sweet but not very romantic

we had been out in the Pub - totally drunk (I was 21) when some idiot feel on me dislocating my knee, quick trip to A&E (Sat night very busy) I was sobbing (we had been out celibrating my broken arm mending and me being signed back to work) so in the middle of the waiting room he said "marry me" that was it - I am sure he only did it to stop me crying!! (it worked)

[MadameCastafiore]

DH turned over in bed and said 'So do you think we should get married?' - that was it no down on one knee no hearts and flowers - but then he brought home a catalogue from a v posh jewellers and let me choose my ring which was very nice of him and I forgave him after choosing a big sparkler.

Been married just over 2 years and have got another sparkler since - I just think he was nervous that I would say no as I had been married before and said I would never do it again.

[Swedes]

My father told my mother he was going to marry her the first time he met her. (She maintains he stalked her and in the end she felt completely worn down by him.) Happily married with 4 lovely daughters. Ahhhh

[coolbeans]

Oh - Central Park sounds lovely.
Mine was almost as romantic. DH was cutting his toenails and looked up and said:
?Better sort out this getting married thing, eh??
Then returned to manage his corns.

Just breathtaking.