come and tell me about your extremely unromantic marriage proposals and make me feel better...

[LadySanders]

got my decree absolute in the post on saturday so am finally divorced after waiting 5 years.

in the evening, while stripping wallpaper, dp (with whom i have lovely 7 month old ds2) says:
"so what do you want to do about getting married?"

i say:
"what do you mean?"

he says:
"well i'm not bothered but we can do it if you want to"

i say:
"not if that's your idea of a proposal, no"

he, being a man, of course thinks, hey-ho, lovely, all is well, and carries on happily with the DIY.

i sit there fuming thinking, i didn't even particularly want to get married but now you've brought it up just to tell me you don't really want to marry me, and i feel rejected.

he is lovely by the way.

just not terribly romantic.

evidently.

[Dropdeadfred]

doh...just realised that was 6 not 5 (well 5 and a bit I guess)

[3catstoo]

My Dh said to me whilst chopping the veg for tea (the last time he did it too, 10 yrs ago) 'shall we get married then?'.

So romantic.

[purpleduck]

dh is british, I am canadian
he had to go back (was in forces), and we knew we were going to get married..
He just said "well, d'ya wanna"

no ring, but that is because I can't find one I like. I hardly wear my wedding ring, so an engagement ring would just be one more thing on the windowsill


Lady Sander, good luck with the Colonel


Your dp is Colonel Sanders right? Of fried chicken fame...?

[theressomethingaboutmarie]

Mine was in a jewellers in NY. We were on holiday in December 2004 and were in the jewellers getting earrings for our female relatives for Christmas. DH looked at me and said, "do you want a ring for that finger?" I replied, "ha ha". He said again, "do you want a ring for that finger?". I told him to "bugger off" as he was really freaking me out. I then realised he was serious and said, "I'm going to have think about this" and minutes later, "okay then".

When we were on the subway afterwards, we were standing up in a crowded carriage when he caught my eye and mouthed, "will you marry me?". I mouthed back "okay then".

We got married in June 2006 and now have a lovely DD. We've been togehter since 1998.

[ExtraFancy]

I proposed to my DH when we were both trolleyed one night. We had some friends round, were drinking Polish Buffalo vodka and watching films. He went for a wee and I followed him, wittering nonsense about getting married...I think he only said yes to get rid of me so he could piss in peace!

[cheesesarnie]

makes us sound terrible but dh kept asking when drunk so one night i said yes to shut him up.

[Fimbo]

Dh proposed whilst having a romantic interlude .

I was more disappointed with my mother's reaction tbh.
We got my inlaws to come over to my parents house for a meal and then announced we were engaged. We were already living together in another city and mum said "I wondered when this ring was going to appear" and then went back to talking to my mil.

[LadySanders]

purple duck, my secret is out...

[tostaky]

Two years ago for my birthday he took me to an ok restaurant and then popped a box in front of me... i opened it and saw an engagement ring... surprised i said:

• is that an engagmenet ring?
• it is if you want it to be
• (still shocked) well thank you...

single old men next door:

• have just just got engaged
• (us) yes!!

then i spent a good half of the dinner trying to figure out if that ring was or was not an engagement ring... i still don't know to this day...
i did wear the ring a few times and everybody was asking me where we were getting married, and i was so fed up explaining that this was not an engagement ring that ive stopped wearing it.
I don't care about getting married tbh so ive never pushed it. im actually quite happy as we are just now and he seems to feel the same !! No wedding for us!

[tostaky]

single old men at next table... NOT door!

[sparklesandnowinefor5weeks]

dp proposed by email , repeatedly, i said no

we spoke about it but decided i wasn't comfortable with it and i don't think dp would have been either

we are still together and have been for 11 years, are still very happy, with no plans to marry

[TheSmallClanger]

DH proposed to me in bed. I nearly didn't hear him because I thought he was just muttering to himself.

[Ozziegirly]

My parent's was fairly low key. They were in brighton car park and had been together a couple of weeks. Mum had gone quiet. Dad said "are you going off me?". Mum replied "no, I was actually thinking I'd like to marry you". Dad replied "thank god, I was thinking the same thing".

They've been married 40 years last June.

[ninedragons]

I nearly scuppered my DH's plans to propose by refusing to go into the restaurant he'd chosen because it was too expensive.

Poor DH was gaping like a goldfish as I looked at the menu in the window and stalked off down the street saying "30 quid for a STARTER? Are you NUTS?"

DH wrangled me into a cheap-and-cheerful restaurant down the street. If we'd done as I'd suggested he would have ended up getting down on one knee in front of the sushi counter at the supermarket.

Dead impressed by Gordon's DH - a textbook romantic proposal, well done!

[layda]

DH decided he needed to propose to me NOW one night when drunk.
Unfortunately I was on the toilet at the time and had forgotten to lock the door

[Pushpinia]

My boyfriend long ago, left half a cereal packet on the worktop one night (he used to be up all night painting while I was asleep by 8) and it said 'If you'd like to get married one day cut out and keep this ring' and it was a dotted line in biro, which I did cut out and wore all day

He was wonderful but I was awful to him probably and it was 15 years ago. I still would marry him tbh

[Celery]

Staying at his mum's house, because our central heating had broken. Him on his own in one spare bedroom, me on my own with the baby in another ( she only has single beds ). I pop in, in the morning, having been up all night with the baby, he rolls over, covered in drool, room stinking of night time farts, and says "are we getting married this year then?". Pah!

[skidaddle]

mid-row...

DH: I hate weddings anyway, they're all so false and a complete waste of money and I don't know why anyone bothers

ME (crying): because they want to

DH: (utterly shocked): are you joking?

ME: no

DH: OK then, do you want to?

ME: not now you bastard

(got married a few months later)

aaahh, gives me a warm fuzzy feeling just thinking about it

[pandorasof]

In the bread isle in Tesco.. I said... wouldn't it be cool to get married in the yer 2000... he said... yer that'll be ok. I worked in a jewellers at the time, chose my ring, paid for it and put it on my own finger! Been divorced for 5 years now! LOL

[MollyCherry]

It wasn't so much the proposal as the asking my dad that got me...

DH had aleady asked me (rolled off the sofa and onto one knee as the Eastenders credits rolled). So he came round for dinner with my parents on the Saturday and halfway through a conversation about a friend of mine who was expecting her first baby, he turned to my dad and said, "Well, MC isn't pregnant but I'd like to marry her anyway if that's alright with you?"

[thumbwitch]

pmsl at skidaddle

[skyatnight]

I've had two marriage proposals, one by email from an old friend I didn't fancy who wanted me to move to Australia and one on the telephone. I never got a ring although did get to the jewellers with the second one but was sick so had to leave before choosing anything. Neither proposal has come to fruition. Funny that.

[ElfOnTheTopShelf]

DH told me about four weeks into our relationship that he saw us getting married in the future. I'd already slept with him, so it wasn't a line to get into my pants, but it was sweet.
We'd been together over a year when he asked me to pick out a ring with him.
He asked my dad if it was okay to ask me.
Dad gave his "permission" and suggested that DH could propose at the big Xmas party we were having 'cause it would be sweet and all my relatives there.
DH chickened out, surprised me by asking me while I was lying on the sofa at his mums house (they were away) which would have been lovely if his mums dad didn't bite the hell out of my feet!
I went home on the bus that night with my new engagement ring texting everybody to say I was engaged.
My dad was disappointed that it wasn't at the Xmas party

Though, when I was with my ex, all my friends dated his friends and they all started getting engaged. i think the ex thought I was hankering after a ring myself, and told me he wasn't that type of guy; then carried me over a drain saying i could consider that my carrying over the threshold. Needless to say, we didn't last much longer

[thumbwitch]

your DH's mum's DAD bit the hell out of your feet? PLEASE tell me that's a typo and you meant DOG?

[LittlePushka]

Skidaddle,...hilarious!!! Thanks for the smile!