come and tell me about your extremely unromantic marriage proposals and make me feel better...

[LadySanders]

got my decree absolute in the post on saturday so am finally divorced after waiting 5 years.

in the evening, while stripping wallpaper, dp (with whom i have lovely 7 month old ds2) says:
"so what do you want to do about getting married?"

i say:
"what do you mean?"

he says:
"well i'm not bothered but we can do it if you want to"

i say:
"not if that's your idea of a proposal, no"

he, being a man, of course thinks, hey-ho, lovely, all is well, and carries on happily with the DIY.

i sit there fuming thinking, i didn't even particularly want to get married but now you've brought it up just to tell me you don't really want to marry me, and i feel rejected.

he is lovely by the way.

just not terribly romantic.

evidently.

It was Christmas morning, DH was naked, ring was wrapped up in a drinks crate and he said "Will you marry me but not yet". It took 14 or so years to actually happen.

tsmum, impressive!

I was sitting at home watching Jonathon Ross and scoffing chocolate 4mth preg with DS. DP came home from one of the many boozy Christmas drinks he sat down on the floor I thought in a drunken stupor pulled a ring out his pocket and said shall we get married I said you fool I am trying to watch the telly then realised he was asking me to marry him, doh said yes.

19mth later we are still not married as it is not happening until I am thin again and at the rate he keeps getting me pregnant currently 29wks it will be the 24th of never.

right i'm rudely leaving my own thread to go to bed as ds2 still thinks its acceptable to wake up every 2 hours, and ds1 is already in my bed to keep me company while my non-fiancee is away with work...

non-fiance, sorry...

Actuall, now I am feeling a little deficient because I've only had one proposal!

DP and I are getting married next year.

We were in the playbarn watching the kids play and he said "so, shall we get married then" and I said "yeah ok"

And that was it.

I'm not really bothered about the unromantic proposal, I know he loves me because of all the other stuff he does like letting me lie in bed til 11 on a Sunday morning.

Apparently the comment "maybe we'll have to take matters to their logical conclusion" while we were talking about visas etc for us all to go out to the US with his job was a proposal - I missed it.

Reader, I left him.

After rubbish meal and even skankier wine in a very rough Wetherspoons, a row about him eyeing up another woman, oh and a row on the way there cos we hadn't booked anywhere hence Saturday night dining in Wetherspoons , just as the bouncer approached to kick us out at closing time he asked me . He really isn't the romantic type! I was a fool

We had discussed it, but DH refused to either either buy a stopgap ring, or propose without a ring (I had, erm, given him the impression that I might be ever so slightly fussy about something I'm supposed to wear FOREVER). So we went out after work, bought a ring. Went home. Sat about. I looked meaningfully at the box. Waited about. He finally proposed on one knee ... in front of DIY SOS. I don't mind the overall scenario, I just wished he'd waited for something decent to be on telly.

Ladies, these proposals are all fantastic. Somehow even more romantic by their lack of romance, if you know what I mean..

What would you do in my situation: DP of nearly 10 yrs (fuck!) 2 DDs, I have told him hundreds of times over the last 2 years that I really want us to be married (to be a proper family), frequently occasionally get emotional about it, have asked him outright to ask me.. yet he still will not..

Furthest I have got is he agreed to it a few months ago (after another emotional session), I booked registry office to read bans.. but then forgot about appointment.. asked him this morning if I should rebook and he said don't bother at the moment

Is that really insulting or is it just me? I am completely demoralised!!

Eviz...book it and tell him you ARE BOTH going..you then have 12 months to do the deed

I've had two proposals: dd's father said to me "I suppose I'll have to marry you now" - which I rejected for various reasons.

Second one was last year in bed with XP and he proposed which took my breath away as he previously he'd set his face against marriage, children etc. We got engaged in August after he'd asked me for about the third time but I called it off at Christmas as he refused to tell his parents about it . One useless ring later...

I don't envisage any more proposals but if I get any, I hope they're more romantic and meangingful!!

Simplysally - why on earth did he refuse to tell his parents???

He reckoned it was none of their business as he was an adult. I personally think he was scared to tell his Mum as I've got a child already and she's a tad oldfashioned.

Oh no...

Well rid then I say...onwards and upwards...

I was pregnant with dd1 and he said "I suppose we ought to get married then?"
Is that technically a proposal? coming up to 14 years ...
(hi to GentleOtter)

We were sitting at my mums on a saturday afternoon. I was reading the papers, dh was watching the rugby. It was half time. He turned the sound down and asked me to marry him (I can't remember what words he used), I said yes, The second half started so he turned the sound back up and carried on watching the rugby.

Very romantic.

at least some of you actually got asked!

1st "proposal" (ex-bf): our b'day (yes, same day) in London Zoo, outside the wolves enclosure - hands me a box with a ring in and says...

"there, that's what you wanted isn't it?"

Had to actually ask if it was an engagement ring - that broke up after 9m (but 11y together!)

DH: no proposal. I told him if I got pg then we were getting married, so when the blue cross came up, I said "so I'll start organising it then, shall I?" No engagement ring either . Moaned about not having either a proposal or an engagement ring - shortly afterwards, was watching Neighbours when Dr. Karl proposed again to Susan on the London Eye and DH turned to me and repeated his exact words!! Quite funny really. Still no ring.
Finally he surprised me though - on our 1st anniversary this year, he offered to get me an eternity ring - hurrah! STILL no engagement ring but hey, the eternity ring is lovely (and I made him buy me a wedding ring with diamonds in it to make up for the lack of engagement ring so I think I'm doing ok now )

I completely missed dh proposing to me. It was extremely early in the morning and I was half asleep. He was bleating on about something or other and I was dozing. I realised that there'd been a lull in the bleating and heard him say "so... will you?" I thought maybe he'd asked if I would have a cup of tea but turns out I'd bloody missed a proposal. I made him ask again.

As an interesting aside, my brother never proposed to his first wife. She was pushy and presumed far too much. He got drunk and fell down one night. She accepted loudly and started making plans. He has no recollection of the event and didn't have the guts to tell her.

we were lying in bed reading the job ads at the back of accountancy magazine.
we wanted to travel to Bermuda to work,
he turns to me and says

"if we get married we'll save the money on your airfare...up for it?"

such a romantic

we've been married 20yrs now

have just realised that my post reads as though I pushed DH into getting married - I did but he had actually told me 2 years previously that he would marry me one day - I told him then it was customary to ASK. (And he STILL didnt!)

Also, as he is Australian, we had already discussed the getting married thing if we had a baby cos it just makes everything that bit simpler for emigrating etc.

I'm asleep.
Dh crashes into bed very very drunk saying'some fucker's fucked with the door' - no I'd just left it unlocked for him.
Then he said 'I think I love you and I want to marry you'
I said 'alright then - go to sleep'
The next morning I spent some time looking at his back wondering if he'd remember, but he did and it's 10 years next year.