I have finally caught up properly on the past week! What a sad one. PC, if you are still lurking at all, sorry to see you go, but quite understand you need to deal with your own problems and hope to see you back sometime. Hopefully see you on FB .
Anothermum, welcome. Have you heard of the book 'I love you but I'm not in love with you'? Written by a Relate counsellor. If your h is willing, it might be worth getting a copy and working through it. I bought it just in case that happens to us some time - but we have other problems at present! Still, DP being very sweet - and he's caught my cold, but mildly - so it's my turn to pamper (except, unlike most men, he prefers not too much fuss when he's ill).
Witchy, please don't let him do unto you as Baffy's ex has. If he continues playing you, perhaps you could try being distant and not responding? It might remind him of what he's losing.
Dior, yes, up for lunch with you, OSJ and HW any time . I have 8 days holiday to use by the end of the year so any day that suits you will suit me! How is H being today? His behaviour does sound a bit strange.
HW, glad things are better with you. A few counselling sessions sound like an excellent idea - if only to confirm what you already sense. I do think that, unlike our parents' generation who generally 'got on with it', we expect so much more of our partners that we all need a little 'fine tuning' every so often - unless we've been VERY lucky and found the Perfect Man ! I kinda like our counselling - it feels safe with a third person there, though when I read out my homework, she said it was so comprehensive that I had enough material for about three sessions ! It has given us much to mull over and we are being very considerate to each other at the moment.
Baffy, what 'developments'? You've gone quiet & I'm not always sure that's a good thing. What's H and the mad woman doing now?
McD - really sorry to hear things are so horrible. Your thoughts on the property issue do make a divorce sound the best option all round. There is no reason why your hard work should support OW's child - all support should come from H alone.
Ginnny, great to talk so briefly on FB - didn't know we could do that! DD says I'm SUCH a computer virgin . I was sorry you went offline - or was it my computer? I do feel so angry for you after all you've been through. It must be so hard to walk away from a man who you KNOW could be the love of your life - if he dropped the drink and the lies. And having his friends berate you in public doesn't help (very bad manners of them, but I've noticed manners dissolve in alcohol).
everyone else, Hi, and hope we have better weekends. At least the sun is still shining. We have a new lodger today - she's a young Columbian journalist, very sweet, but her taxi driver came to the door for her and asked me if I spoke Spanish - which I don't (apart from ordering red wine ) 'Oh,' he said, looking worrie, 'she doesn't speak English!' Arrgh! so lots of calls for DD, whose GCSE Spanish has deserted her despite getting a B. Lodger tends to launch into a long sentence in Spanish as if we'd understand! She's gone to bed with jetlag, much to my relief! This is going to be interesting ...