FAB & GLAM PART 8 - Onwards and Upwards!

[ginnny]

8000 posts - how do we find so much to talk about

Hi Baffy - great to hear from you. I was wondering how you were.
I don't think 12 weeks is too early to tell work. Its about the right time (Although in my case I was so massive by 12 weeks they all guessed anyway!!)
They might go easy on you once they know and will let you cut back on your hours.
Glad your weekend was good Dior and also glad to hear you feel a little better too LL .
Sorry haven't had time to come on here much lately. Work is mad busy and home is just as bad what with Christmas and ds1's birthday coming up, but things are going great and I'm actually starting to look forward to Christmas!!

Glad things are good ginny Good to hear from you.

Think I'm more worried as I'm only ten and a half weeks so it still seems early. Really scared. But needing some support in work...

Baffy - i think tell them - you will not be tempting fate - if anything were going to happen it would not matter if you had already told people or not.
It will help people understand and be able to help you out too.
Also, if the worst were to happen, wouldnt you want the extra support from people.

When i worked in x-ray we had to tell people very early on as there were areas we were not allowed to work, so i have never really understood the 12 week thing.

Sorry the sonographer was not more jolly for you - i really try and be upbeat with everyone as it is an important time to them - however routine it is to me.

Hi everyone, just popping on to say sorry I've not been around - have had flu & am not quite right yet (lost the hearing in one year). Mad at the office manager who doesn't actually see me from one week to the next, but wanted my line manager to 'speak to me' because I've been ill so much lately. She, however, was lovely, and said she'd tell him she could SEE I was ill. He's muttering about medical certificates and such stuff. I'm going right off the little oik. Furious that he's implied that I'm malingering . And I missed the Christmas lunch, too.

Thanks HW I'm going to take that advice! And you're right, if anything were to happen I'd tell them anyway so I guess there's no reason not to say now I've had the scan.

H said that the sonographer looked like she'd either just got out of bed or had a hangover! I think we just got her at a bad time! LO being ok is all that matters though

I meant to answer your question about H too - yes he is still begging. Wants us to get a place and see how it goes. Pushing all the right buttons and playing on my weaknesses. Has found a lovely place too. Promises that OW is finally out of his system for good
There was a good line on Coronation Street last night I think - 'I've worked out when you're lying, your lips move'... I may start to use that

Tanee {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

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Baffy glad all ok!!

Dior if I'm being totally honest I don't think I love him anymore. Too much happened. I gave him so many chances and he threw it back in my face every single time. I'm not sure how you can love someone who you no longer have any trust or respect for

I'm sad. Obviously I always hoped that if there was a chance for our family to be together then we would take it. But I think it really is too late. The thought of living with him, taking on everything he brings with him, including OW and the child, actually fills me with dread rather than happiness. I don't think there's enough left between us as a couple to make the marriage work. He tore it to shreds and regardless of my love and support, he really didn't stop until he decided he wanted to. And he left it too long

Thanks lily

Hi Baffy - glad baby is doing OK. Your last post is very . He's such a stupid stupid man to have lost you.
Hope you feel better soon Tannee - these winter bugs are horrid. It could be that you are a bit run down and catching all the nasty bugs. at your Manager's attitude, what a cheek!
I'm so so busy at the moment its driving me insane. This is our first Christmas with both dss at school, we had ds1's christmas play on Thursday, ds2's on Monday, ds1 Xmas lunch yesterday, ds2's today, ds2's church service today and ds1's tomorrow, there's christmas parties and dressing up days to remember on top of all that - I feel like I'm drowning in it all. Oh and ds1's birthday on Sunday thrown in for good measure.
HW and Sugar - God only knows how you cope with your broods, you both deserve medals

Thanks for all the noggins girls. Feeling stronger today, though still congested and deaf. I have to keep going "Eh?" whenever anyone speaks to me. Am now worried that prat manager won't let me roll over the 6 days holiday that I have left and hadn't used because we've been so busy. We used to get on quite well when he worked here, but since he moved to parliament he's become a little s*.

Baffy, that's good news about the scan - and so sad about H. We've seen all those times when you so wanted to give him another chance, and he blew it every time. You will have two lovely dcs and he will be left with OW and all the baggage she brings. It really is sad but he has no one to blame but himself .

Dior, glad you had a good weekend - does this imply that he noticed how much weight you'd lost?

Ginnny, you sound frantically busy - happy birthday to DS1 for Sunday.

Everyone else, hi

DP being very nice atm - as we've both been ill, I think he's appreciated the company. His alcoholic sister tried to jump off a bridge on Sunday, which meant lots of tortured phone calls from his oaf of a BIL (who was crying, but also calling her a Stupid, stupid Cow and saying the usual dreadful things about their mother - not helpful). It's added a little extra tension to the season of goodwill. We were hoping she'd be sectioned but the police let her go home. So now all's quiet again till next time...

Hi everyone - just catching up - my internet connection has been very temperamental lately.

Dior, glad you had a good W/E! hope things continue on the same footing.

Baffy, glad your scan went well, but shame about H. I know what you mean - once the respect has gone, it's hard to feel good about them.

X is being a pita - he keeps upsetting DD by su=ggesting that she wants to go to my parents for snow over Xmas more than she wants to be with him, and he has been suggesting to her that I stop him seeing her as much as he would like. That's rich coming from the man who originally only wanted her one weekend every other month, because he needed time for himself! And who refused my invitation to spend Xmas day with us last year so he could be with his girl friend.

It all adds to my depression - but when I try to think about it logically, I see what a sad little man he is, with his victim girlfriend, and not enough sense to see how eventually he will alienate the daughter he claims to love so much.

DD's school have been great - I told the head that I was off, mainly because I was worried about it affecting DD's behaviour. She has been great - inviting me to help with some of the school Xmas activites - Ive got something on every day this week! I helped serve Xmas dinner today! They are all so sweet.

Hi Fubsy, what a fool he is - DD will realise this as she gets older and the only loser will be him. I get extremely annoyed with people who try to subvert the children. My exMIL tries this on with DD, saying she probably likes my DP better than her own father now because he buys her CDs. She just LOVES trying to ferment trouble - but luckily, DD sees right through her and just tells us the stories for a laugh.

Well, I've finally had some good news - our little volunteer has just come into the office and given me a couple of DVDs with ALL the data from the broken hard drive on them - all our photos and music and everything and the hard drive itself, which the repair shop said was gone for good, is repaired. And no charge! It's good to know there are still some talented, altruistic people out there . I've just been looking at my Christmas photos from last year, when I never thought I'd see them again.

That's great news Tanee Hope you feel better soon. Yr boss is an a-hole

Baffy - brill news that all is well with baby In answer to your question, I would wait til I was 12 weeks (but only because I have had mmc - your obstetric hx sounds more healthy than mine). Glad h was at the scan even though you don't want to be with him - I'm sure you want him on board as a dad. What does ow make of it all?

Ginny - hi and thanks How are you?

I'm feeling better because I finally got a negative hpt 3 weeks after ERPC. Can finally start trying again.

Tanee - sorry about sil People are not usually sectioned under MHA if under influence of alcohol/drugs. A lot of doctors would not want to assess in such situations as when alcohol/substance has worn off, the picture changes dramatically.

LL do you have to have any tests etc before you start trying ??

Dior if you see this i am interested in one of your notebooks for my bf but would need it for xmas. Is that poss ? How much are they , they are lovely and you look fab on your blog , well done!!

All ok here mad busy at xmas , things much better between me and dp though!!
DS has started doubting santa dd2 nearly walking how did that happen!

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LL ? sorry if sound daft but don?t understand any of this pregnancy stuff ? what?s obstetric hx?

And what?s ?negative hpt 3 weeks after ERPC?? I feel like this is stuff I should probably know

In answer to your question, I believe OW ranges from being totally mad one day and saying H will never see their baby, to being miss reasonable the next day. I don?t really ask anymore because I don?t believe a word that either of them say so it?s easier to block them both out. By all accounts she?s happy with her NM.

Tanee ? that?s great news about the hard drive

Fubsy ? so sorry about X He?s the one who will miss out in the long run. Children aren?t stupid and dd will work things out for herself (if she hasn?t already!). School sound like they?re being great though

Thanks anyway Dior knew it would have been a tall ask!
May well get one for her birthday in May though!!

Sorry Baffy Obstetric hx = pregnancy/birth history. hpt = home pregnancy test. ERPC is Evacuation of Retained Products of Conception - iow a D&C. The fact that you don't know about this stuff proves my point iyswim

am lurking - Baffy I dont think I love H anymore - too much, too far too late
Am filing in Jan and prepared for the worst
Have also been busy receiving attention IYKWIM

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McD -glad you are receiving attention Hope 2009 is a much better year for you

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Hi everyone - off to Scotland today, so wont be online for a while.

Just want to wish you all a lovely Christmas, and hopefully a better 2009 for all of us!

xxxxx