FAB & GLAM PART 8 - Onwards and Upwards!

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8000 posts - how do we find so much to talk about

Paddles brother survived surgery to relieve pressure on his brain but it cannot be performed again if swelling continues - next few hours is therefore critical.

Thanks for letting us know Kew. I've texted PC but do keep us informed if you can.
Tannee I'm certain he does love you but he's so self absorbed with his own misery he just can't let himself see it.
I do think he needs professional help but if he refuses to get it for himself there's no point.
How he has treated your dd is appalling, she sounds so mature and understanding for her age, which is all credit to you. You are a great mother and a lovely warm person and he should realise how lucky he is to have you.
My only advice would be the same as GSD and Baffy - just give him space and try the good old TFM withdrawal method.
Call / FB me if you need me.

kew let PC know am thinking of her have text her and praying her brother is strong enough to get through this , this is so
Please keep us informed of what happens thanks!!

Kew, ditto me. I am hoping and praying he'll pull through. Please God at least he's come through the surgery .

Ginnny, yes, am going to try not to be all over him like a rash . TFM has been hugely supportive (big wave to TFM). I keep thinking how her tactics worked with her DP and hoping I can be as strong.

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of course she has! In fact we have the saem surname! My first name is Sue (not secret there as it used to be part of my MN name)

from Paddle

"The dr has finally spoken to us.
Basically they have done all they can. They have removed part of his skull to relieve the pressure and now it is critical that the swelling reduces. They will keep him sedated for another 24 hours at least.
He fell down some steps and some shards of bone broke off. The had the helicopter drs on the scene very quickly but as he had no id it took nearly a day to notify us.
His kids who live with him were on a sleepover so no one realized.
My niece and nephew are doing great.
Our father died at 48 from a brain hemorrage, my brother is 44 and this is so awful for us all but especially the kids.
Anyway I am whaffling. We are just waiting and hoping.
Thanks again and please pray to whatever you believe in for my fabulously silly and loving slightly eccentric big bro. His name is Nick and blasting out a bit of motörhead would make him a happy man!

Likewise have texted PC - and my thoughts and prayers to whetever is out there are with them!
So very very sad and tragic I hope with all my heart that this has a happy outcome!
Puts everything into perspective doesnt it girls am going home to hug my DD's hard and close and just be grateful that I have 2 happy healthy little girls, the rest is not important!
PC hugs and hand holding, prayers and love and hope and whatever you need really x

Likewise have texted PC - and my thoughts and prayers to whetever is out there are with them!
So very very sad and tragic I hope with all my heart that this has a happy outcome!
Puts everything into perspective doesnt it girls am going home to hug my DD's hard and close and just be grateful that I have 2 happy healthy little girls, the rest is not important!
PC hugs and hand holding, prayers and love and hope and whatever you need really x

Likewise have texted PC - and my thoughts and prayers to whetever is out there are with them!
So very very sad and tragic I hope with all my heart that this has a happy outcome!
Puts everything into perspective doesnt it girls am going home to hug my DD's hard and close and just be grateful that I have 2 happy healthy little girls, the rest is not important!
PC hugs and hand holding, prayers and love and hope and whatever you need really x

Thanks for the updates Kew. I've been thinking about her all afternoon.
Sending her lots of virtual love and hugs.

Thanks Kew am saying prayers for all of them for a positive outcome, agree McD perspective it certainly does bring.
Let her know they are all in our thoughts Kew.

Oh, I do hope Nick will pull through. Will be thinking of him (and will see if we have any Motorhead to play in his honour). Yes, it does put things into perspective. Let PC know that we're all gunning for Nick, and many, many hugs for PC.

managed to speak to Paddle for a while this evening. She's bearing up given the horrible situation. No real news, if he gets through the night OK then they will try to bring him around tomorrow.

She is hugely greatful for all the messages of support she's had and wanted to thank everyone.

Thanks for letting us know Kew and hopefully tom will bring good news.

Hi everyone

Thank you all so so so much for the messages of support here. Especially Kew for keeping you all in the loop for me,

I honestly can't tell you how much it means to me and how much it has helped me thru a very long and emotional and terrifying day.

I left the hospital at 5pm and have not heard anything so far this evening so I take that as a good sign.

Nick has held steady since coming out of surgery. They cannot tell what is going on inside his head and they cannot do any more surgery so we are praying the swelling is subsiding. His pupil dilation is better than before surgery which is a good sign.

So we wait out the night and hope that there is no 3am call like we had last night when the consultant told us they were operating to save his life.

I was so afraid this morning that he would die. His 16yr old son has been stoic and a huge comfort to me and his grandparents. His 15yr old daughter went to school and arrived afterwards full of spirit and smiles. To be honest I think she is not processing it all.

T is in bed now and I will try to eat something. I can feel the fear rising and am not sure what, if any, sleep I will get tonight.

If Nick stays steady thru the night they will stop the sedation and start to bring him out of the artificial coma and then we will begin to know what long term damage there may be.

My brother is an amazing man. He runs his own company, he brings his teens up single handed and he would do anything for anyone often at his own expense. T adores her unka nik and has already sussed that he's bluff n bluster and will spoil her rotten.

He is the life and soul of the party and a garralous, somewhat eccentric music and movie buff. He knows something about everything and will tell you all about it given half the chance. He absolutely adores dreadful, dreadful jokes and delights in forcing me to listen to them even tho he knows I hate them.

Please keep praying for him tonight because I am certain it is helping us.

Thanks again I am overwhelmed by your support.

ps: you can swap the Motorhead for Deep Purple or Carly Simon if you like.

PC try and get some rest it may be a long road helping Nick to recovery.
You are all in our thoughts Rob was shocked when i told him tonight said he was a nice bloke so a few prayers have been said in our house.
Try to stay positive and get some sleep you need to keep up your strength all our love from the LL household!

PC stay strong and try to get some rest.
Sending positive vibes and praying that he will be OK.
Take care of yourself and gorgeous little T.
Much love to you both.
xxx

PC thanks so much for taking the time to post and let us know how things are. I logged on especially to see if there was an update.

Your brother sounds like a wonderful man and he is in all of our prayers.

Do try to eat and at least get some rest. You will be most use to him, and the children, if you look after yourself too.

Thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxx

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PC - so sorry to hear your bad news. Your brother sounds amazing - I hope you get some good news soon. XX

Tanee - sounds like you have had a blow too. DP sounds incredibly depressed, and as you say, doesnt seem to like himslef much, to the point where he cant see that someone who loves him desperately wants to help.

Such a pain that you have to wait so long for a GP appt too - it just gives him more time to think of reasons not to go.

I remember when I cared about X and his depression, and wanted to help him. He never saw it the right way either - for some reason anything I did or said was never as good as what anyone else said or did. Which was why we couldnt stay together in the end.

I hope your DP sees some sense before its too late.

Just to let you know that Nick had a stable night apparently.

Will update more later.

Thanks again everyone.

Hoping for good news when they bring him round Paddle take care xx

PC, thanks for taking the time to post when you must be so preoccupied with Nick. So very, very glad to hear he passed a good night and I do hope he continues to improve. He sounds like the sort of person we'd love to have round for an evening of music, movies and groans of laughter. I was thinking of him this morning as I drove in to work and hoping for just the post you made when I logged on (work has had to wait a few minutes!) I told DD last night and she too sends her best wishes & hopes for N.

Get plenty of rest and much love to you, your family, little T and Nick