FAB & GLAM PART 8 - Onwards and Upwards!

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8000 posts - how do we find so much to talk about

Thanks Dior xx

Are you ok?

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Baffy - do try not to worry but i know that is easier said than done. Sometimes the fact that you are 'thinking' about it can change the symptoms iyswim.

I am a huge tea-drinker and i dont think i was ever told not to - but i couldnt bear the smell of coffee.

With the boys i craved high protein foods - usually the crappy sorts like sausages and fatty meats but with the girls it was carbs all the way - pasta and sauce or jacket potatos.

Dont forget your folic acid either - even if you have not been taking it beforehand (as now recommended), there is still a lot of brain development going on.
And your banannas for the zinc.

Glad you are feeling a bit better now dior - still up for that trip when you are but understand if you want to leave it until the new year.
Are you still managing to do lots of walking? That will help with any excess food comsuption.

I have weigh-in tomorrow - not sure if i have lost as it seems to have upset my whole system and slowed it down - sorry TMI.

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Good luck with weigh in HW
Glad you're feeling better Dior
Baffy - maybe the shock and excitement of being pregnant has counteracted the tiredness etc. 4WIW I have only marginal nausea in the evenings when I haven't eaten my dinner (tend to eat late), headaches and very occasional dizziness. But my main symptom is tingly, heavy boobs. That is the only consistent one. I've been doing pregnancy tests each week (sad I know )just so that I know the pregnancy is progressing - using the clearblue digital with the conception indicator.

Glad things are better Dior

Thanks HW. I know what you mean. I read through the 'due July 2009' thread last night (too scared to post) but a lot of what they were saying and feeling was familiar, so I felt reassured.

Haven't made appointment with GP yet. Too scared to if I'm honest. Don't know what's up with me.
I was thinking of waiting another week or two.

Still trying to process it all, not to mention the fact that my husband has filed for divorce! I want this baby so much now, I'm just so scared.

I found out today that OW is having a girl. Am devastated tbh I hate them both

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LL - I totally understand.

I did another test at the weekend, and the line wasn't as strong as the first time, and it sent me into a panic So have vowed to stay away from the tests now! Although the one you're using sounds good and worth a try...

Dior I was convinced I was having a girl when I was having ds (and really did want one). Obviously now I have him, I love him more than the world and wouldn't change a thing. But I think it just brought all that back and I feel like she is having the child I should be having.

Which is stupid as I know I'm pregnant now!

But it's so early days, and I'm so alone and scared, and she's 26(ish) weeks with a healthy baby girl to my husband, and it just hurts so much.

Have never admitted that before

Sorry - H has taken the news surprisingly well. Strangely calm. No emotion either way, just agreed that it was a blessing

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Baffy I just want to shake your h and knock some sense into him.

I think he's toying with it, and starting to see the impact of what he'll miss out on.

But for me I think it's too late

Me and ds are the best little family he could have ever wanted. This new lo will make it even better. But if he didn't want us before, then I don't want him to stay now. I'll forever feel that he stayed with me 'for the sake of the children' and not because he loved me so much that he wanted to be with me no matter what. I'll always feel like he's only there because of the children.

So I think we need to continue down this road he started last week. I don't know what other choices we have.
If his heart's not with me, he'll only end up hurting me again.

He starts weekly individual counselling sessions next week. Can't come soon enough!

What about OW - does she know you're pg?

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Thanks LL - I may just take you up on that!

He said that 'on paper' I am the best wife he could ever wish for. He just 'doesn't know what's wrong with him'.

What a cop out!

Either he loves me and wants to be with me. Or he needs to find the balls to say he doesn't!

I truly believe he must still think there is something better out there. If he didn't, why would he give up what he's got?! All I can say to that now though, is good luck. I hope he can find what he's looking for...

Off to get ds from him now. Wish me strength!

Sorry - keep x-posting.

OW doesn't know I'm pg. Nobody does yet. Probably won't tell a soul until after 12 weeks.

(Except however many million people on the internet! )

He has no idea what he's doing anymore. He filled in the divorce papers without a shred of emotion. Nothing. When this hits him I think it will really hit him. If that's his decision, new baby or not, I do respect it. I need to look forward. Not back
(I'm trying!)

WTF? Paper? Makes marriage sound like a business deal.

Oops - yes OW NM is still very much on the scene. Poor bloke.

(Quite funny actually some of the things OW has been spreading about H. There's a few people who, if they see H, will probably want to kill him! And it's all lies! But mrs manipulation wants the sympathy vote!!
The 'married bloke who tricked her into getting pregnant and then walked out, won't pay and penny and has left her to attend every scan alone'!!!
When, he had no idea just how hard she'd been trying to get pregnant since stopping her pill a long time ago, he's been by her side every step of the way and at every doctor/hospital visit, and given her whatever she asked for, and more, financially!
Karma again...)

Right, must dash. catch up later

I know LL!

Hi Baffy - just wanted to check in and repeat the advice you're getting off everyone else re: this pregnancy. Back in the dim and distant past when I could see my toes, I worried all the time because I didn't feel 10% of the nausea I felt with DD and really just didn't feel as pregnant. I think I spent the first five months wondering if I'd made it up!

I'm sorry you feel blue about the OW's pregnancy - try not to let it cloud your own feelings about your own lo. Like Ernst, I can distinctly recall you saying you wanted another sibling for your DS and how sad you felt that would never happen. Keep hold of that hurrah moment for those times when you feel down. FWIW I still wonder whether H and I will make it and whether or not this baby should have happened but (a) bit late to give it back now (!) and (b) it was obviously meant to be whatever the outcome for our marriage!

Hi to everyone else - sorry you feel down Dior but am so so impressed with the way you've handled things lately - not just your weight loss but things with your H. Just remember what an inspiration you are to F&G!

ps Baffy - did you change your mobile number? If you did, can you send me a quick text as I'd love to hear from you. Am a bit frightened of FB atm due to some stalker issues - nothing to worry about but better safe than sorry I guess!

Baffy - stop defending your h - if ow is spreading lies about him that is his lookout and not yours to put people right. Try and rise about it all and leave him for once to sort out his own mess.
You really are too good to him you know and he really does not deserve any of this.

Take care

Baffy - let him file for the divorce - like you said you do not want to ever think he has stayed for the sake of the children.

H and i had a heart to heart yesterday - there is a woman he works with who i feel is a bit too freindly - we have agreed that he will not have out of office meetings just with females (i know that sounds a bit contolling - but it makes me feel better and actually why does anyone NEED such meeting anyway). She has been wanting to go out to dinner it discuss some things. I have seen some of the emails between them. He has said he is trying to either move it to another time or to make sure there are others there with him.

I do believe him but it brings back a whole range of negative feelings - i think the fact that there are a lot of xmas parties too going on and everyone tends to be a bit more 'flirty' iyswim.
I can feel my barriers going up and was even 'planning' what i would do if he DID have dinner just with her.
Poor woman - i hate her for the number of calls she makes to h and she is probably just doing her job.

H has been great though and really helping - and right on cue last night she phoned - but i could hear it all.
Trouble is h is just a lovely chatty man and is easy to talk to and so she is probably just being nice - but i still dont like it too much.
I just dont think i would trust another woman now either.

And today i may not get to go to weigh in as boiler is playing up (again) and i have to wait for plumber. But i will try and pop out just to go and be weighed. Not sure if i have lost but have stuck to plan all week so will be gutted in i havent.

Baffy I drank decaff tea and coffee when I was pg. Its not quite the same but OK. I don't know what is wrong with your H either, I really could slap him, but I've a feeling he'll end up lonely and full of regrets.
at OW having a girl, but would it be any easier if she was having a boy? I think that would make you feel just as bad as it would be more competition for your ds. Try and forget about her and her sick twisted lies and concentrate on yourself and your lovely ds and the new baby.
Hi Dior - glad you feel a bit better.
HW - Totally understand the paranoia about other women. I think its always wise to be one jump ahead, she may be totally innocent, but its a good idea to keep an eye on things.
All this baby talk is making me seriously broody - now ds2 is at school and so grown up I'm starting to miss the baby stuff. I have to control myself - a baby now would be disastrous!!!!

I do truely think it is inoccent (as i did last time too). It is just the mistrust issues it brings up in me. I hate the person i now seem to be.
At least h is better at understanding and can see how it can happen again (although he is adamant it will never happen angain).

Baffy will you find out what you are having?