DP is being so ignorent

[MrsMissMs]

I've just had a row with DP. Its the first one we've had really and I feel so crap about it.

Its all over a holiday. Basically we're going to Orlando (me, my kids, him and his 2 kids). I have spent months organising everything and he keeps trying to challange me on everything I plan.

I've been before with my kids so I know how everything works. I booked a villa for us all (big party so was cheaper) but he wanted to stay in a nickalodeon hotel. I got him to see sense over that but that its everything else. He wants to go to disney to take his kids, I've been before and told him universal is better but he's insisting on wasting £500+ on disney tickets.

He wants to go to discovery cove, I don't. I've been before and I don't think its that great but he wants to waste another £400 on that.

The latest thing is that I want to do a trip to miami but he wants to stay i orlando for the entire two weeks.

I know its about compromise but I've been before and I know how it all is over there yet he refuses to listen to anything I say. Is this the early signs or a controller?

Oh, I was going on about Sky+ because you mentioned that you were getting it...I think peple were trying to help

oh yes, well our freeview box has broken so I'm guessing DP might take the opportunity to order Sky+. That's what I meant.

I am glad to see you are somewhat getting a little more clued up....

Leaving him alone with 4 kids?

You sure you want to risk that?

he's quite excited about it he's like a big kid himself and he's more fun than me (who likes to be super organised) so I'm sure they'll have a great time. As will I strolling along South Beach on my tod

Wow, what a thread! You don't seem to respect your dp very much to dismiss his wants/opinions so lightly. Talk about railroading him. Will you be like that over all parenting decisions too?

sorry highjack : CoV, do you know how to make polish meat pierogi (dumplings) by any chance??

There's no way that's a raccoon.

OP is most unlikely to be a troll. I used to correspond with someone exactly like her - I'd think it was the same person if the children's ages had matched up. She used to leave me with my mouth hanging open on a regular basis. Mind you she could be fun too, and did a nice line in limericks.

Took DS4 to Disney Paris when he was 6 (no way I could afford Florida) and he loved it. DS1, then 18, came too and also had a good time. Weather was total rubbish but there was lots to see and we went on DS4's favourite ride (Thunder Mountain) 7 times. I passed on the last couple because it made me feel sick.

Sky is the invention of the devil.

"we've" decided ..... encouraging.

"Let's see how he enjoys Disney then..." reverting to type.

Sorry, MrsMissMs, but you really don't sound like a very nice person. Let's just hope you've mis-represented yourself on here, and that in RL you love and care for this man (and his kids).

Of course I love and care for them. I admit I can be a little controlling but its only because I know what a big deal this is for them and I want everything to be perfect.

But he's a big kid who doesn't want everything to 'be perfect', he just wants to have fun with you and the kids.

You are trying to do a nice thing here by booking the holiday and you have had a hard time on this thread but you need to accept that people are different and your DP might not want a superorganised, planned to the last minute holiday, and you need to compromise.
FWIW I think you have done the right thing booking both, and leaving them to it to go to Miami. You all get what you want that way!

But what's perfect in your eyes may not be in his. And how awful if, through striving for perfection, you ruin the atmosphere for everyone by riding roughshod over their feelings and wishes. I bet they'd much prefer imperfection if it means everyone's boxes are ticked.

And PLEASE, Mrs, could you do a bit of re-building of bridges with those kids by getting excited with them about Disney.

You know, I have in the past bought presents for DP where he has asked for the receipt and gone and changed them (vv expensive cufflinks).

I did feel a bit slapped in the face tbh. Perhaps this is what's going on here? The OP thought her DH would be overjoyed and delighted by the surprise, only to find out that he wanted to change parts of it.

Some of your posts have been more than a bit unreasonable MMM - like insisting you should have it entirely your way or you'll cancel. I think you should take it on the chin, make the adaptations so everyone gets to do what they want to do, and not take it personally.

I haven't read all the posts just the first few. Here's what I think.

Saying he can't go somewhere cos you've been is unfair. He's not being controlling he wants to go places he's never been.
DP drives me insane when he doesn't want to watch films cos he's seen them and says their crap.
Also the remark about you taking the car and he'll have to walk is very selfish.

Your there for 2 weeks Can you not do both? Also if you want to take a day-trip to miami then I think you should be allowed to do that.